Page 4 | ..to think that parents should not send their children to nursery in pyjamas and expect staff to dress them?????

2shoes · 12/09/2007 15:23

what if said child will not get dressed.
so parents send him like that as a "lesson"

mytwopenceworth · 12/09/2007 15:24

Well, I wouldn't do it, but I wouldn't give a rat's arse if another parent did. Unless I am expected to dress the kid myself...I doubt I'd give a stuff.

I might think the nursery people were twats for moaning about it but not doing anything to stop it...like saying, sorry, you are going to have to take X home and bring them back when dressed, bye

But apart from that....

btw - has anyone said how unprofessional the nursery are for the teachers implying "that the parents just don't really care and dump the boy off in all sorts of conditions and leave him for the staff to deal with"

???

3andnomore · 12/09/2007 15:33

I have,my2pworth

Notyummy · 12/09/2007 15:51

No, sorry, that is just not on. Its not just happened the once according to the op...what sort of message is that sending to the kid?? Either your parents are so disorganised/useless that they can't get you dressed in the morning, or you put up a fight and we cave in regularly...neither of those possible explanations is acceptable.

Unless there are serious health/mental heath issues, or there are a million kids (which I understand is not the case) then he should be dressed.

Rehash of my last post. I'd also like to second the point that has been made that nursery staff have got enough to do, and I want them able to stop kids crying/play with them/feed them...all of which they are paid to do and expect them to do with my dc. Dressing a child regularly whose parents are too frigging lazy or useless to sort their S**t out is NOT what they are there for.

3andnomore · 12/09/2007 15:54

notyummy, but op has since posted and that post implys there are issues, to me...and well, the child not being dressed really isn't that important looking at teh big picture....
the way the situation was discribed a form of neglect is happening, however, the op doesn't seem to know any background info, so....it's anyones guess really of why it's happening...and if there is involvement of some authorities, ect...

Notyummy · 12/09/2007 16:09

Fair enough, I do appreciate that if there are potential issues of neglect, whether a kid is dressed is not the main issue at all.

I guess I was getting on my high horse about the principle of it....however I hope that if there are queation marks over neglect that someone somehwere says something so the family get whatever support is appropraite.

Notyummy · 12/09/2007 16:10

I also agree that its not right for the nursery staff to be discussing other children with random parents.

Squiffy · 12/09/2007 16:34

All of this reminds me of the story which I am sure I saw on MN about being a slummy mummy, and one poster admitted that after their evening baths, she put her kids to bed in their school uniform to save the bother of getting them dressed in the morning... now that is true class

fedupwasherwoman · 12/09/2007 16:55

Ah yes squiffy,

What was the poster's name QueenZebra or something ?

It was a truly inspiring post wasn't it, I was in awe of her resourcefulness.

Squiffy · 12/09/2007 17:02

I do wish I could find that thread again... there was something about giving the kids their tea in the bath as well, if I recall... now I have two DC's I need to take notes on these timesaving devices...

lemonaid · 12/09/2007 17:02

I threatened to send DS in his pyjamas this morning when he was refusing to get dressed . Unfortunately he was quite keen on the idea , so that backfired rather, but luckily enough I was able to point out that then he'd have to wear a nappy to nursery instead of pants, and he is very keen on his pants at the moment. Hence pyjamas were, eventually, removed in favour of more conventional clothing...

mummytojess · 12/09/2007 17:14

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Jazzicatz · 12/09/2007 17:27

Squiffy, I remember that thread, one of the funniest on mn I think!

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agalch · 12/09/2007 18:07

I am a CM and have had this happen to me. To me it is simply lazy parents who would rather get a face full of slap on and have me rnning around like a blue arsed fly doing what is essentially "their job".

I wouldn't entertain parents like that now.I have 2 ds's to get out to high school and dd to get to nursery and a baby of my own FFS. If i can manage all that plus cm surely getting 1 child dressed isn't that hard???

vacua · 12/09/2007 18:18

MEDAL for all those who find it easy - I've never taken a child anywhere in pyjamas myself but some people really struggle in the mornings. What 3andnomore said really, we don't know what other people are up against or what sort of start they had in life themselves - maybe they have recently been bereaved, have a husband/boyfriend who beats them up, have PTSD/flashbacks after sexual assault, can't sleep, are physically ill and or in pain, depressed, poor/in debt, it's not fair to judge.

PillockOfTheCommunity · 12/09/2007 20:24

agalch
it must be very nice to be able to judge like that

I am a single parent. I have Narcolepsy.

Sometimes, just sometimes, it is too hard to get ds1 dressed before Nursery, and most days he takes his breakfast with him.

None of the parents would know I am doing it on my own, or that just waking up is a huge challenge for me, so they would probably judge me just as you have done.

Oh, and I wear no make up.

WelshBoris · 12/09/2007 20:28

That's 2 judgey threads Jazzicatz

Mind your own business, concentrate on your own children and stop judging other parents all the fekcing time

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Jazzicatz · 12/09/2007 21:12

Well excuse me welshboris!

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blueshoes · 12/09/2007 21:51

On strongwilled children, one trick is to dress them to bed in the clothes they will wear the next day. Ok, I draw the line at school uniform, but I have been known to buy a lot of rompers ...

Also, ds always mucks up his clothes in the nursery and the staff very kindly change him (no, I never asked them to - they do it before I come to collect him). I make sure that his change of clothes I put in his bag is pj-like, erm romper. That way, I can just pop him straight to bed when I get home.

Emprexia · 13/09/2007 00:00

Well Jazzi, you may have been talking about one boy, but your thread implies all parents who do this are lazy.

you do need to put those judgypants away.

nappyaddict · 13/09/2007 12:20

if a mum does it and the nusery or cm is unhappy about it and they don't tell her i don't really say how she can be blamed. she obviously thinks they don't mind as many don't.

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Jazzicatz · 13/09/2007 12:26

Not sure why I am being so attacked, I just feel very sorry for the little boy, honnestly my intentions are not judgemental!

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nappyaddict · 13/09/2007 12:32

i don't exactly think it is damaging for a child to get out of bed and be taken somewhere early in pyjamas.

3andnomore · 13/09/2007 12:43

Jazzi, the proble is, that your OP implied, quite simply, that you took issue with a child being send to nursery in pj's....obviously at a later stage you did mention that they had mentioned issues...
so...hm...out of the whole lot of possible issues to pick, to use the one you have to be "concerned" or annoyed about is a bit odd...if you really felt sorry for this child and had concerned, I really don't think you would have written the op in the way you did with the title you did.
Also, in someof your messages , to me, it came across that the reason this narks you is, that it takes attention away form your own children...which is all well and fine, but again, not really a showing of concern for a little boy who obviously isn't so lucky to have a perfect parent.

3andnomore · 13/09/2007 12:44

sorry...fingers running away with me again...[note to self...must read through a message before sending]