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Original poster

..to think that parents should not send their children to nursery in pyjamas and expect staff to dress them?????

117 replies

Jazzicatz · 12/09/2007 09:32

Well am I?

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niceglasses · 12/09/2007 09:47

Oh you mean nursery? Private nursery?

~Don't see its a problem if its just a one off.

fortunecookie · 12/09/2007 09:47

Same here. I look truly grotty. Dc are gorgeous.

bobsmum · 12/09/2007 09:47

My ex BIL does this to my dn when he dumps him on my MIL at 10/11am - just can't be bothered. Dn is an inconvenient child

Original poster
Jazzicatz · 12/09/2007 09:48

Not a one off, and yes a private nursery.

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niceglasses · 12/09/2007 09:48

If its a regular thing, then no, would have a polite word.......

laura032004 · 12/09/2007 09:50

How old is the child? I think if I had a little one (6m ish) and it was an early start, I might consider it, if the nursery were OK with it. Would be great to pick the baby up from the cot, change nappy, and get in the car with them still sleepy. I suppose it is only unreasonable if the nursery aren't happy with it. It's not that much more effort for the nursery to put clean clothes on them when they're doing the nappy change, but if the baby has just woken up, then getting them dressed first thing might upset them? I don't dress my two for a couple of hours after they wake up, but I'm a SAHM.

ScottishMummy · 12/09/2007 09:50

as a one off - no problemo we all sleep in/stuff up...a regular occurence - set the alarm earlier

Chickhick · 12/09/2007 09:50

If I saw a child turn up in their pyjamas I would think that the parent was either having the day from hell or they were very lazy.

There is no way I would expect the nursery to dress ds, they have more important things to contend with. I have had days where ds has refused to get dressed and we have turned up late, it would be very very sloppy to turn up with him in his pyjamas, what sort of message does it give the child?

katybump · 12/09/2007 09:50

yep private nursery here too.

ScottishMummy · 12/09/2007 09:51

i am quite forgiving if i saw child in PJ i would assume it was unintentional/bad day etc

katybump · 12/09/2007 09:53

nine times out of ten her nappy would have leaked so she needed a wash down too.mum used to stay and chat though while a member of staff did all this

Original poster
Jazzicatz · 12/09/2007 09:57

The child is 3.5, they cannot go to the nursery until they are 18 months. The little boy is in class 2 which is for the 3 + age group. However much my 2 boys play up, I always get them dressed.

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ScottishMummy · 12/09/2007 09:57

my wee one attends nursery clean, fed, alert happy to see the fabby NurseryNurses. cant comprehend otherwise

although the manager did ask parents if the had any old/grown out of clothes they could give for the chilldren whose parents did not bring in adequate change of clothes for...hmmm other parents asked to clothe someone else child because parents cant give enough clothes in for staff

private nursery too

3andnomore · 12/09/2007 09:58

at nursery staff actually discussing this with the op and telling that it isn't teh first time.... surely it is non of your beeswax really and therefore there is no need for them to discuss it with any other parent?

Not that I am saying that it would be generally acceptable to take your child in pj's to Nursery...however, I suppose there are times some parents may have to do it!
Maybe the child is strongwilled and was refusing to get dressed...or something like that...

3andnomore · 12/09/2007 10:00

but scottish...most nurserys ask for outgrown clothes incase of emergency....sometimes it's matter of a child wetting themself, even though usually they never, or they do waterplay or fall or whatever...!
so, maybe most or all parents put one change of clothes in, but somedays, more than that might be needed for whatever reason...

potoroo · 12/09/2007 10:02

I have on rare occasions. DS is only 2 and about 2 or three times over the last year he has had a complete meltdown about getting out of his PJs (particularly if they are Thomas the Tank Engine ones). If I put him in something else he just takes it off.

BUT - he is otherwise clean, fed (if it is after the nursery breakfast time), clean nappy, shoes on etc. And I've always told the nursery staff just to let him play in his PJs if that's what he wants. They just laugh about it.

Also, at the nursery he goes to all the kids have several changes of clothes because they do lots of messy play (sometimes in their nappies) so they often change in and out of their clothes during the day anyway.

ScottishMummy · 12/09/2007 10:10

my nursery manager was requesting clothes for children whose parents do not provide adequate amounts of clothing as regular/onogoing situation

i dont think it is my role ensure someone else child has adequte amount of clothing

ScottishMummy · 12/09/2007 10:14

Aghast at Nursery breach of confidentiality and tittle tattle discussing parental business with third party. nursery need to have private word with parents and document in care plan if needed

3andnomore · 12/09/2007 10:20

scottish, I suppose you are right, of course it's not your job to provide clothing for toehr children...but well..I personally have no problems to give my nursery outgrown clothes...but then, my Kids are only ever dressed in cheaper clothing anyway...asda, etc...so, not exactly great sell on value in general

katybump · 12/09/2007 10:22

point taken re confidentiality.

did not mean to cause offence,this happened along time ago and not at the nursery i am at now,sorry

agree on the clothes front though.think this is pretty general across the board though.i can understand both sides,parents dashing first thing and the bag of clothes get's left at home or the parents who routinely don't bring anything and then send their dcs to nursery in the clothes they were sent home in the week before

3andnomore · 12/09/2007 10:28

Katy...actually I hadn't read all teh thread...and I meant the nursery op is talking about, i.e. discussing it with parents that also have their Kids there, I find that unacceptable.

The mother you mentioned sounds dreadful...I mean, wtf...just so she can have her lay ins...grrr...

katybump · 12/09/2007 10:32

ahh thought jazzicatz was a nurserynurse
in that case yes i'm too that a member off staff is discussing a child with another parent,this is a serious breach of confidentiality.dread to think what else is being said and to whom

ComeOVeneer · 12/09/2007 10:41

DH apparently went through a phase were herefused to get dressed in the am for nursery an was lte. The staff said to bring him in his pj's as he would probably be embarresed and wouldn't do it again (he was 4 at the time) instead the next day everyone wanted to go in their pj's

twentypence · 12/09/2007 10:46

The ones in the PJs having breakfast when ds was at nursery always had mums with full make up and straightened hair and tights with no runs in.

Ds was always fed and dressed and I looked like a trainwreck.

On work from home days would it be unreasonable for me to take him to Kindy wearing my PJs

saltire · 12/09/2007 10:49

When I took my DS in his pyjamas, I would have bee pretty angry with the staff if they had discussed it with anyone, even though most of the parents had already noticed