..to think that parents should not send their children to nursery in pyjamas and expect staff to dress them?????

[Jazzicatz]

Well am I?

I certainly do not consider myself a perfect parent, I try and do my best, and for many years have struggled with PND and am still on AD, however, I do try and send my children to school and nursery dressed. I am obviously being unreasonable, due to the replies!

Firstly, the nursery staff have no right to gossip about one parent to another parent. Secondly, changing a child from pyjamas to day clothes no more detracts from the care given to other children than dealing with a child who's produced a particularly spectacular shat nappy (unless this nursery is one that only takes toilet-trained children).

Thirdly, it's nothing to do with you. If you were to witness something that looked like neglect or abusive behaviour, then you might have grounds to ring social services or something, but all you have here is gossip and a child who sometimes arrives at nursery in PJs. SOunds like you need a hobby of some sort.

Well thanks you for that madamez, I am currently doing a PhD, working as a lecturer, trying to be a good parent to my two ds's don't think I have time for a hobby!!!!

I dont see any need to attack the op here.

However, i dont see the problem in taking the dc to nursery in pjs. I like to dress mine myself, get hair and teeth done under my supervision. But i can see why some parents would choose to leave it to the nursery staff - busy morning or no time or just blardy awkward child.

hm, haychee...I didn't attack the op, she asked why people were reacting the way they were to her post and I told her why?
You see,it's all to easy , once you gauged that your post is not received to well, to back peddle...the OP was judgemental, and I am sorry, I don't buy the whole...sorry for that little boy thing...I really don't...just mpo of course...!
I mena, I am not saying that I don't believe that the op is also sorry for him...but the op was not about being sorry or concerned for teh welfare of a child.

Well 3andnomore if we are talking judgemental then your post is a great example tbh!!!!!!!!!

heh????

You are making quite a judgement regarding my motives for opening this thread, and have shown far more vitrole than I have or would do in any thread.

really you think....hm....
so, wghat were your issues when opening the thread with such opening line then? I must have misread?

I mean, why would you write the title and the op when you meant to say you were sorry for a little boy at nursery because there are possible neglect issues....I don't get it...I really don't!

What irked me was really the cumulative effect of all the 'oh that's disgusting, I can manage why can't the parent(s) in question' type responses rather than, or perhaps I mean more than, the original post.

Can I just point out that I have struggled to find people on mumsnet who are NOT judgemental because....

thats life!!

People judge you on how you present yourself/how your kids look etc

Some of them are anal arseholes

Some of them have standards and are pissed off by other people who don't and drag everyone else down.

If everyone took their kids to nursery in their pjs and expecetd the staff to dress them then it would be carnage, so on balance I WOULD think someone with one kid doing that regularly is a lazy fecker...yes I am judging.

I would also, once I had finsihed jumping to conclusions, wonder if everything is well there and whether mum has issues.

And thats probably that.

wow, I just checked out Vitriol ( I assume that is what you meant to say when you wrote vitrole?) here, because yes I wasn't quite 100% sure what you meant there Jazzy ( to my defence, english is my 2. language, and I suppose it's not a term I have come into contact with before now )...plenty of things it could mean apparently, all not very nice....
however, the shoe doesn't fit... me...anyway, lol! (I mean, yes, sometimes it does, but I don't think that it was the case in this thread.)

Pillock i am not talking about mums like you. I have made exeptions for parents who start work at daft o'clock or finish at stupid o'clock!!

If there is a reason why a parent cannot bring their child dresses or fed then if i can fit extra work into my morning/evening then of course i will.

What i am talking about is the mums who bring the kids in the morning at 8.20am knowing that i leave at 8.30 for school etc.So in effect their kids don't then get dressed or often fed breakfast till lunchtime. I go to toddlers after school/nursery and these kids only have snack there and play in pj's.

If these mums asked first i wouldn't mind so much(would prob say no unless there was a very good reason)and i could say to bring them earlier.

My argument will always be(to mums with no probs) that i have got 4 dc ready so why the hell should i have another 2 or 3 to get ready in the morning??? They are not mine after all.

I only had to take DD to nursery in her pyjamas once. She was going through a phase of not wanting to dress in anything else. She'd wake up and change from one PJ into another PJ. It lasted about 2 months and I would spend a whole morning waiting for her to get ready to be dressed in something else. I have taken her in town in either pyjama top or trousers or slippers. It was v stressful but I would have just spent my morning nagging or getting cross otherwise. She's now 2.5 and has hit the "pretty dress" stage big time.

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Pretty selfish really, but no suprises there. No thought of the nursery staff left to cope with one person down while that one person spends 15 minutes washing and dressing one child. No thought of the safety implications for the other kids.

Pretty typical really.