To wonder why I'm getting abuse?

[NewDOOFUSfor20]

I'm an A&E nurse, I have had to leave my DH and ds at home and move into accommodation as I pose a risk to them both. This was not an easy decision, I'm heartbroken as is my family, but it felt like I'm damned if I do damned if I don't.
Last night on a "spotted" page I follow on Facebook somebody wrote in to ask if them and their 3 friends that they are "spending isolation together" with could go to the park for a game of football. I asked them if they thought this was a holiday, I took that terminology as "spending Christmas together", and suggested playing their football game in the garden. Oh my god, the abuse I have been given! Apparently this is something I signed up for (bloody well didn't sign up to have to leave my family), I am part of the problem as I'm spreading this around, I'm "thick" because a game of football is a form of exercise and that is allowed under government guidelines, I'm bitter because they can spend time playing with their mates whereas I've walked out in my family.

I honestly don't get this. Spending isolation together makes it sound like they're not taking this seriously, football games are not essential (and are being dispersed by police). It's mainly 20-something men that have been abusive, not that that makes a difference I guess, and they have displayed an enormous lack of ignorance around the whole situation.

Do I deserve the abuse I've been getting? Should I have just stfu (I have barely commented on anything on Facebook because our trust are monitoring our social media). I just got annoyed that people are STILL disregarding the guidelines set out, if they continue to act like this then we will be facing similar measures to Spain and Italy where any outdoor exercise is forbidden.

Of course you don’t deserve it. There are some real arseholes out there.

Are they living together in the same household? If so, then a football kickabout would be ok. If not and they're from different households then it would not be ok

There are people who will go ahead and do whatever they want and feel entitled to support from people like you. I’m so sorry you have had this to deal with on top of everything else and I want to thank you for carrying the rest of us through this nightmare.

If they're in the same household then they can do this surely?

You have to ask if you deserve it?

If they are in the same household they can play football together.

They can play football if they are living together as people in the UK have been told households can go out an exercise together, that’s exactly what we did yesterday.

Of course, no one should have been nasty, there’s no excuse.

I suspect if you communicated your opinion in a manner that seemed to attack them, this is likely why you're receiving abuse.

Some people are daft. Really daft. By all means educate them, but don't put them on the defensive as it gives them some ammunition to think they're right.

Maybe next time politely point out why it's a bad idea. Some people genuinely don't get it.

They are complete selfish arseholes and no you definitely don't deserve that.

Thank you so much for all your hard work and sacrifices you have made 🌈❤

If they live together, they can play football together.

Why anyone is on FB is beyond me. Leave it OP and then you can ignore pricks like this.

I think you are letting your personal life affect the way you react to work situations. Understandable considering the shit hand you have been dealt, but if those people all live in the same house, there really isn't a reason they can't exercise together.

Football is not on the list of daily exercise. Police all over the country have been breaking up football games, parks are supposed to be out of bounds.

Maybe I should have just shut up, I'm exasperated by the amount of people who just don't get it.

The football thing isn’t ok really but I don’t see how they’re selfish arseholes for living together during this period ? I have four friends in London who live in either tiny studios or in flatshares with ‘strangers’ and weekend before last they’ve all gone and moved into one of their flats which has a spare room and more space so they aren’t alone indefinitely. Two of them struggle with mental health and would just not eat or get out of bed if they were on their own.

I don't think you deserve abuse but it does sound as if you stuck your nose in and attacked people who were doing nothing wrong first!

Isolation is hard for everyone, trying to look for some positives and enjoying the company of those you're essentially trapped with is necessary for people's mental health.

It must be awful to be separated from your family but it's not the people on Facebook's fault and there's no need to attack them just because they've got it better than you atm.

There isn’t a list of exercise, only examples (a walk, run, cycle) this isn’t a definitive list, nor is the one hour people keep talking about.

You should not have got rude or abusive responses but if they are a household having a kick about together away from others it isn’t a problem

@koshkatt Facebook is all I have to do when I'm not at work 😂 I'm on my own completely and there's only so many times I can phone my family in a day.

@Goawayquickly who on earth said I was rude?! I asked a question and was faced with a barrage of shit.

Read again, I said you should not have got rude responses

OP - read books! Watch Netflix! Mumsnet! Anything but FB.

But whatever you do - try not to let wankers like this affect you. You are doing an amazing job and these idiots are not worth the stress.

Play parks are closed, I doubt they were on the swings and playing football. Parks are open as usual unless the individual owner decides to close the park.

We have been advised to exercise once per day outside (however interestingly the new powers passed do not specify frequency), nor is there a list of legal and illegal forms of exercise. I believe the legislation in Wales are slightly different.

The police also stopped people collecting their prescriptions in Shoreditch yesterday, just because a police officer chooses to do something it doesn’t mean they have taken the right action.

I agree you shouldn't have been abused but I don't agree with you that your picture proves that football isn't allowed. It's from the independent - and the police have been coming under fire for being too heavy handed.

I would keep well out of any of this stuff online.

@NewDOOFUSfor20 Get off facebook and watch Tiger King!!

Football is not on the list of daily exercise. Police all over the country have been breaking up football games, parks are supposed to be out of bounds

There is no list of daily exercise, and absolutely nothing forbidding it amongst people who live together. Parks aren't out of bounds. Where police have broken up football games, it's because it's a larger gathering of people who don't live together.

Think about it in terms of risk management, OP. Provided these four keep away from other people, what extra risk of infection do they pose compared with what would happen if they stayed at home?

They are annoyed you challenged their dick behaviour. Simple answer is they shouldn’t do stupid things and not expect to have them challenged

It’s more complex then them playing football with their mates! Oh well, at least you will have a job at the end of this, a lot of them won’t