Selfish husband, lockdown hell

[rosegoldswan]

I'm getting to the point where I just can't stand the sight of my husband.

I have been placed on furlough, so I am only getting 80% of my wages but bored stiff indoors with nothing to do like many people. I'm worried that I won't even have a job when the scheme is over. husband earns a lot more than me and is working from home, so he is saving about £250 that he would have spent on train fares whereas I am losing about £200 a month. He is using several electronics all day, his laptop from about 9am until 11pm, plus his tv on too, sometimes his xbox as well. I've said I'm worried about how high our electrics bill will be, and that he should pay for any extra using the money he would for his train fare. He gets angry and starts shouting that it's his money and he thinks the bill should be 50/50 even though I'm not using electrics all day.

He makes mess and won't clean up, and gets cross if I clean up because he has a strange obsession with HOW things are cleaned, even when he doesn't want to do it himself. He screams if I clean the bathroom because apparently I am doing it wrong, and heaven forbid if I try to polish anything. The grass needs cutting but I'm not allowed to cut it because he thinks I will break the mower but he won't do it himself either.

I don't know how I can survive weeks / months locked up inside, without even work as a getaway. I want to just stay out of his way but we don't have a big house so not really possible. I Just want to scream!

What would you do, AIBU on any of these points

ZOMBIE THREAD

@LightenUpSummer

He sounds absolutely mental OP

And bordering on physically abuse. Please protect yourself and make plans to leave asap.

Bordering? He's pushing her and poking her. That's physical abuse.

@rosegoldswan contact Women's Aid. It's known that behaviour like this will escalate, so you aren't safe.

Bugger, it's a Zombie thread.

@PepePig

And why did you marry him?

Will never understand why people reply with things like this? Its not something that the poster can change at this stage. Its just basically victim blaming. An easy way to tell if its victim blaming is..is your comment something that could change the posters life now. Or is it something that cannot be changed. Usually with these kind of sarky replies, its the latter, which is utterly pointless and not helpful in the slightest

I now see zombie But post still stands. So commo on MN, for some posters to expect others to have had a crystal ball or something..