Men are finding this isolation/social distancing harder than women

[justasking111]

I am finding it harder to keep OH occupied than any child I have had. Having raised three being housebound through their illnesses plus one six week illness of my own. I am finding it more challenging to keep OH on an even keel, he had a mini explosion last night over something minor. He is champing at the bit to be out and about.

I cannot entertain him with puzzles, games, BBC learning unfortunately.

So glad that I'm a lonely spinster with no man child to entertain rn!

Separated from a similar twat before all this happened, thank fuuuuuuuu

My DM said something similar about my D bastarding B climbing the walls being stuck indoors with his DW and DC and I pretty much told her what most people have probably said on this post. So fucking what.
But then which sex occupies most of the stands at sporting events, sitting alone in pubs waiting for their mates and go out dressed in lycra whilst the little woman is stuck at home being a grown-up.
You can't move for the amount of threads that highlight this shit.

Every day I am yet again amazed at the fact that adult humans find it such a terrific chore and burden to be staying inside their own home, in many cases with their own children. What would they do if they had to deal with something actually difficult or dangerous (like NHS/police etc)? Overindulged twats. God I have never used the word twats so many times as I have this week .....

I'm not surprised by this at all. I think men generally have more freedom than women so they find it harder to give up. (Not all men and women of course).
Definitely not your job to entertain him though, OP. He's just going to have to find ways of coping, like everyone else.

I think it depends on character.
Generally speaking, my generation of blokes fall almost equally into two diametrically opposite camps.
One: the family man who takes his role and responsibilities seriously. Loves his family to bits and sees this current crisis as an opportunity to strengthen the ties that bind. And he pulls his weight.
A really decent type you'd be proud to call your own.
And two: the spoilt, entitled, easily bored, can't cope with anything outside of his comfort zone, with the maturity level of an amoeba sort.
He usually sulks too and expects to be waited on.
Character is everything when you choose a life partner.

Jesus. What a pathetic man. I couldn’t put up with such a man-child.

He sounds like a complete twat, OP. It's not your responsibility to keep him entertained, he's a fucking grown-up man. It would never even occur to me to expect DW to keep me occupied.

You may be laughing about this now OP but I fear your DH's patheticness will affect your mental health eventually if you keep on pandering to it. So sit him down, tell him this shit is as hard for you and the kids to deal with as much as it is him and tell him to woman up and get a fucking grip!

I think it will be tough for everyone, male, female, young, old, able-bodied or disabled. I can't imagine being housebound is any easier mentally for a disabled 80 year old than it is for a fit and healthy 20-something. Perhaps the opposite. A fit 20yo will know that this solitude is temporary and will have connections through social media to get them through it. If your DH is struggling, that is unfortunate, and hopefully he can find some solitary pastimes (books, jigsaws, cleaning, crafts, DIY, keeping a diary, meditation, yoga, knitting, crossstitch etc) to keep him occupied (just like the rest of us are having to do). It might not be something he has expressed an interest in before, but if he's that bored, it'll do him good to try something new.

I think it is harder for men, especially financially. For every £1 we lose by not working, women only lose 80p.

Why would men loose more money by not working?

The lockdown is no more difficult for a man than a women - why would it be? You both have the house to maintain, laundry and cooking to do, shopping to organize, home schooling to supervise and both are able to go out once a day for exercise.

How do you work that out @RandomChap? My boyfriend has lost his job, as have all the trainees, he is not losing any more money than the female trainees.

It was a reference to this

Wow, so you’re saying men are suffering more even though women in general are lower paid. If a man suffers from a lack of pay boohoo, loads of women have that as their daily reality.

The thing is, this crisis is bringing out some home truths. Married to a twat? You’re really going to know about it now, in no uncertain terms. Work for a shitty company who don’t care about their staff? That’s going to come into focus like never before. Isolation and lockdown are showing us the truth. Sometimes the truth is a bit shocking.

Wow, so you’re saying men are suffering more even though women in general are lower paid. If a man suffers from a lack of pay boohoo, loads of women have that as their daily reality

This ^^^

Don't be a twat randomchap

Nah, this isolation is much harder on us women as we have to put up with the bastards being around 24/7 and their whinging (and i don’t mean kids).
Chuck him out in the garden for a day, lock the door and pour yourself some

So I've discovered that sarcasm doesn't come across well.

100% agree with redyellowpink. This is not an "evolutionary biology" thing, this is a "men not liking the shoe being on the other foot for once" thing.

I don't think Randomchap meant it seriously!

God OP, he sounds awful. Stop making excuses for him. There's no sex based reason why he is more bored than you, and certainly it's not your job to entertain him, or even do all the washing, disinfecting and tidying.

Fwiw I'm feeling so stir crazy confined to my house, and I'm female, with no known add/adhd issues. I'm managing not to drive everyone else in the house mad though, and haven't called anyone else lazy.

Well I'm female and being the grumpy twat in our house. DH is an antisocial got at the best of times he's in his element. I on the other hand thrive on company.

I thought that RandomChap was doing satire.

Thought it was irony....