Men are finding this isolation/social distancing harder than women

[justasking111]

I am finding it harder to keep OH occupied than any child I have had. Having raised three being housebound through their illnesses plus one six week illness of my own. I am finding it more challenging to keep OH on an even keel, he had a mini explosion last night over something minor. He is champing at the bit to be out and about.

I cannot entertain him with puzzles, games, BBC learning unfortunately.

@dejavuAgain You know humans have only been around for a couple of hundred thousand years max right? Please enlighten me on your study of millions of years of evolutionary biology! What are we talking here with your qualifications, a masters or a phd?! Troglodyte.

So pleased all detractors are married to happy clappy men quite happy to be at home, however, not all are perhaps.

Nope, just not married to an immature, unimaginative, childish arsehole. Simples.

Is there not something he could be doing with his children?

He could think of ways to entertain you?

So pleased all detractors are married to happy clappy men quite happy to be at home, however, not all are perhaps

My husband is not 'happy clappy'. He just a man who is my equal and doesn't think it's my job to keep him entertained fgs.

There is a medium between being a manchild and being a 'happy clappy' man

So pleased all detractors are married to happy clappy men quite happy to be at home, however, not all are perhaps.

Our men weren't assigned to us by the government, we chose them ourselves.

I think it's pathetic that men can't amuse themselves. My friend says her (adult) in his thirties son is going to go crazy, as is her DH.
Well...... tough tits! Get a grip and find something to do. Women have to.

Here is a list of things they can do....
Kick a ball about in the garden
Go on internet and pratt about like I do
Do some decorating
Sort out drawers, desk, clothes
Gardening
Read a book
Watch a film

What's the problem? Pathetic for a woman to try and amuse her husband.

Our men weren't assigned to us by the government, we chose them ourselves. great line

To be serious for a moment, men perhaps measure success by going out to work and bringing home the bacon, take that away from them what is left.

As well dyslexia, adhd. and other issues are more prevalent in men but masked somewhat by keeping busy, being protective. Take that away from them can be very difficult.

So pleased all detractors are married to happy clappy men quite happy to be at home, however, not all are perhaps.

You’re confusing two different issues. Whether men are happy or unhappy to be at home isn’t the issue. The issue is that the men who are unhappy are responsible for entertaining themselves. Their wives don’t become responsible for entertaining them just because they’re unhappy.

*Minipie
Sent him on a run *
Yes and tell him to keep running !

men perhaps measure success by going out to work and bringing home the bacon, take that away from them what is left.

And women don’t? Do you not? I certainly do. I am successful in feeding my children by going to work and earning money. I can’t do that now. Who do I get to entertain me because I am unhappy? Will the government send me a wife to keep me occupied?

Maybe sing him some nursery rhymes? Play a clapping game? Get him to sort coloured shapes etc....

I'm so pleased to be divorced

How pathetic that a grown man can't cope in isolation. My H is busying himself doing lots of tasks around the house. He's being upbeat, useful and normal. He's not having temper tantrums and demanding entertainment...

OP why can't men, or your man, take personal responsibility for himself?

These are unprecedented times, we are all having to make sacrifices. This is affecting so many people in so many ways.

Men who don't like this just need to be thankful for the smaller things in life and get a bloody grip

Winterwoollies Sounds like my DH. He was whistling the other day. He's never whistled in the 34 years I've been married to him. it was very irritating actually

However, he is faffing about doing stuff, no idea what... that's fine. Just don't come to me to be amused, I am too busy amusing myself!

Mine’s been batch cooking. The government sent me a good’n. Later he will drink with me and have a kitchen disco.

I get what your saying, but it's not your job to keep him occupied. However if you must give him a list of jobs to do (preferably the ones you don't fancy doing) and leave him to it. If he doesn't like it then tough. He's a grown man he will have to get over himself and manage, just like the rest of us.

As for the earlier poster who said we have 'happy clappy husband who are glad to stay at home' we'll no I don't. My husband is getting fed up with staying at home but he's a grown up and getting on with it. As of right now he is teaching our boys how to play video games

Not the most educational perhaps but the three of them are enjoying themselves. Our boys are going nuts but that's because kindergarten and parks etc have been closed here for over a week already and of course, they are children.

In kinda happy that my OH is a key worker still working. For this reason.

He was whistling the other day.

I’d be digging the patio...

I’m having to self isolate in a tiny flat, I have a four year old, I also have a boyfriend who has just moved in. I would happily murder both of them today, that would also keep me entertained.

He's a grown man and perfectly capable of entertaining himself, surely?

Social distancing doesn't mean you're stuck inside 24/7. If he can't find something to keep himself occupied then why is that your problem?

To be serious for a moment, men perhaps measure success by going out to work and bringing home the bacon, take that away from them what is left

I'm sorry. Didn't realise it was still the 50s and you were married to Don Draper

I’m coping fine being stuck at home - my husband on the other hand is almost being driven demented already. He doesn’t expect me to keep him occupied as has been said up thread.