UPDATE Dragon Pulled Golden Carriage available for booking in August

[Mumofyoungteenagers]

For all of you who read my not being invited to the day AIBU were wondering the outcome of my either, brilliant/rubbish/begging text or wether I was stupid to offer/ a good friend/ or only doing it to buy an invite here’s the update.

REPLY TEXT “Hi mumof...... yes I thought you might be disappointed in not receiving a day invite, and I know you would have loved to see me arrive at the ceremony, but I’m sure you’ll understand that as a bride I have to make some decisions that might be hurtful to others. But you’ll also understand that there is no malice intended, I’ll make sure you get to see all the photos so you’ll still get to see it.

I’m sorry I wasn’t able to tell you face to face, but you’ve been so poorly and I didn’t think you’d want to be disturbed by me calling round.

I’ll pop round for a coffee and a chat when you’re better, maybe you can help me choose gifts for the BM’s?

Hugs (bride)

MY REPLY..... Dear Bride, I think you may be disappointed to read this text, but I’m sure you’ll understand that as a ex friend I have to make decisions that might be hurtful to others. Obviously you’ll also understand that there is no malice intended, but I will not be making any more payments towards the dragon pulled golden carriage for your wedding,

I’m afraid also won’t be able to attend your weddings evening do as I’ll be on holiday with (hubs) but I’ll make sure you get to see all the photos so you’ll get to see where I went.

I’m sorry I’m not able to tell you face to face, but I don’t want make myself even more poorly by calling round.

Mumof........

I guess that’s the friendship over. Been crying a bit (a lot) hence the delay in replying. But it was a genuine offer at the time, I guess I shouldn’t have made it, but she was so sad at not having the dragon that I thought what better gift than this, she’s got enough toasters. I suppose gifts shouldn’t come with strings but I really was looking forward to being at the wedding I would have wanted to be there gift or no, but the tone of the reply was so dismissive I couldn’t bear to go or pay. And I tried not to be nasty but I feel so hurt. Hubs though is defo taking me away, illness allowing. (Silver lining)

Now of course I’ll be worried about how awful her day will be, no bride should have her day ruined etc etc. The drugs I’m currently being blitzed on do make me more melancholic and anxious but I’m a worrier anyway.

I hope I made the right decision.....

You absolutely made the right decision. She’s a cheeky mare and I’m glad you found out now and before you’d paid for the whole thing.
Enjoy your lovely holiday x

She's no friend of yours.

What a total bitch.

Hmm.

That was a fucking BRILLIANT reply. To a truely crap text from her. Seriously. Good for you!!! I hope you arent too out of pocket? Is your deposit refundable?

Sorry for swearing!

You made the only decision you could. She isn’t your friend and you are allowed to keep your dignity and not be taken advantage of.

What a cow she is!

Enjoy your holiday!

She deserved that text OP. Good for you for sending it.

Also, OP, I’m assuming the dragon is metaphorical and the real form of transport is vintage car/coach and four/ WWI tank/ glass carriage or something? Otherwise this is hilariously outing.

You absolutely made the right decision and your reply is perfect - I'm so sorry this happened to you but am really glad you and your DH are going away instead. Fingers crossed for your health to allow you an absolutely fabulous trip!

for the tears though, losing a friend is always sad.

Wow what a bitch. You are well rid.

as a bride I have to make some decisions that might be hurtful to others.

Erm what? You literally don’t.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, you work our number of guests and your budget then find a venue that meets both requirements. You do not discuss your wedding plans with people you don’t intend to invite or accept generous gifts then not invite the giver. It’s not fucking difficult.

No malice my arse, happy to take your £600 but not send an invite.
Good riddance to grabbyzilla 😡

I’m sorry you are hurt and it really sucks to lose a friend, but you are much better off with it happening now and being able to get over it with hour head held high and dignity intact. I am also sorry if my original post to you sounded mean when I said it was like a begging text. I just thought you needed to realise you deserve better than how you were being treated. Your husband sounds lovely, you don’t need a fake friend. have a great time on your holiday over her wedding. Use the £600 and have a bloody fantastic trip.

Her text told you everything you needed to know about her. Fuck her. Let her walk to her wedding. Cheeky bitch.
Your reply was epic.
Have a wonderful time away with your DH
Delete, block and don’t give her another thought

If I ever get married, I want a dragon-pulled carriage...

Enjoy your holiday, OP.

What an idiot she is. Enjoy your holiday OP

Fucking brilliant reply! Head held very high, Mumof , very high.
It's good to prioritise oneself above cheeky bastards such as your friend. Sad, but better in the long run.
Enjoy your holiday with your lovely-soundjng DH and best wishes

Ha...if this is real, I love your response.

You most certainly made the right decision. I really respect your reply.

Such a perfect reply!! She had no intention of telling you face to face otherwise a text prior to the invite coming through the door would have been sent especially as you were giving a £600 present.

Did she bother to reply?

Contact the company tomorrow and see about a possible refund on any monies paid so far

Brilliant reply, absolutely fantastic.

I’ll pop round for a coffee and a chat when you’re better, maybe you can help me choose gifts for the BM’s?

Salt in the damn wound. She really is a cow.

We'll done OP.

She would really have to be one shallow bitch if the lack of this 'transport' ruins her whole wedding day.

Either way she was no friend to you.