UPDATE Dragon Pulled Golden Carriage available for booking in August

[Mumofyoungteenagers]

For all of you who read my not being invited to the day AIBU were wondering the outcome of my either, brilliant/rubbish/begging text or wether I was stupid to offer/ a good friend/ or only doing it to buy an invite here’s the update.

REPLY TEXT “Hi mumof...... yes I thought you might be disappointed in not receiving a day invite, and I know you would have loved to see me arrive at the ceremony, but I’m sure you’ll understand that as a bride I have to make some decisions that might be hurtful to others. But you’ll also understand that there is no malice intended, I’ll make sure you get to see all the photos so you’ll still get to see it.

I’m sorry I wasn’t able to tell you face to face, but you’ve been so poorly and I didn’t think you’d want to be disturbed by me calling round.

I’ll pop round for a coffee and a chat when you’re better, maybe you can help me choose gifts for the BM’s?

Hugs (bride)

MY REPLY..... Dear Bride, I think you may be disappointed to read this text, but I’m sure you’ll understand that as a ex friend I have to make decisions that might be hurtful to others. Obviously you’ll also understand that there is no malice intended, but I will not be making any more payments towards the dragon pulled golden carriage for your wedding,

I’m afraid also won’t be able to attend your weddings evening do as I’ll be on holiday with (hubs) but I’ll make sure you get to see all the photos so you’ll get to see where I went.

I’m sorry I’m not able to tell you face to face, but I don’t want make myself even more poorly by calling round.

Mumof........

I guess that’s the friendship over. Been crying a bit (a lot) hence the delay in replying. But it was a genuine offer at the time, I guess I shouldn’t have made it, but she was so sad at not having the dragon that I thought what better gift than this, she’s got enough toasters. I suppose gifts shouldn’t come with strings but I really was looking forward to being at the wedding I would have wanted to be there gift or no, but the tone of the reply was so dismissive I couldn’t bear to go or pay. And I tried not to be nasty but I feel so hurt. Hubs though is defo taking me away, illness allowing. (Silver lining)

Now of course I’ll be worried about how awful her day will be, no bride should have her day ruined etc etc. The drugs I’m currently being blitzed on do make me more melancholic and anxious but I’m a worrier anyway.

I hope I made the right decision.....

Don't use words you need to look up Family

Great reply OP - listen to your DP and don't be swayed by the CF-Bride-who-has-to-make-hurtful-decisions.

I've missed something - who or what is CB?

@BruceAndNosh chief bridesmaid

I'm glad the op is going on holiday. £600 is a huge amount for a wedding present unless from someone such as a grandparent or a great aunt. I don't understand the ex-friend not inviting the op to the full wedding, that is mean; maybe Xf is a Mumsnet member, will read this thread and give her side of the story. Whatever, it's all over now.

@GiveHerHellFromUs thank you - I really should have guessed that one!

@Mumofyoungteenagers did you call Rent-a-Smaug yet to cancel the Dragon Carriage? And if so, did you explain and ask for deposit refund or at least for it to go towards another bride's hire? (Which would be something lovely coming out of something horrible rather than you losing the non-refundable deposit outright.)

And has CF Bride replied?

I think Chief Bridesmaid?

You are awesome OP! Have a great holiday.

Fabulous reply OP. So sorry she turned out to be the worst kind of CF but so pleased you are going to treat yourself instead.

Very best wishes

Where is original thread op?

Original thread:

Not invited to the day do AIBU http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/3845409-Not-invited-to-the-day-do-AIBU

Looking forward to her reply....

Op? Do you have an update?

My favourite bits of the brides messages are the "As a bride i have to make some decisions that might be hurtful to others" as if shes the ceo of a bloody company or something and the suggestion that the op could help her pick presents for the bridesmaids of the wedding SHES NOT INVITED TO.

What. A. Knobhead.

I don’t think The Bride will be replying to OP.

I’m sure she’ll have a thread of her own somewhere, or rant with friends, that an awful friend is retracting her gift because she isn’t invited to the day do.

I would be very surprised if we hear from the OP again.

That response was just brilliant and inspirational. Can you lend your husband to posters on here who need something as witty to reply to CFs?

That response was just brilliant and inspirational. Can you lend your husband to posters on here who need something as witty to reply to CFs?

Yes, the response was very apt.

Why @Verfremdungseffekt

Op? Do you have an update?

Wait for the third thread.

What a nob!

I don't think the OP will be back, as she won't be having any more contact with the CF bridezilla, who is probably in shock that the OP stood up for herself. She'll want to pretend that the whole saga didn't really happen, as it doesn't paint her in a favourable light after all.

I can see why Mumof was upset sc had decided not to go ahead.

I'm curious about how the relationship though. It sounds like Bridezillah thinks of Mumof as an aunt rather than a friend. Gift with strings crossed my mind tbh. No doubt Bridezillah is devastated her day has been 'ruined'.... I guess without knowing more l'm a bit on the fence.