UPDATE Dragon Pulled Golden Carriage available for booking in August

[Mumofyoungteenagers]

For all of you who read my not being invited to the day AIBU were wondering the outcome of my either, brilliant/rubbish/begging text or wether I was stupid to offer/ a good friend/ or only doing it to buy an invite here’s the update.

REPLY TEXT “Hi mumof...... yes I thought you might be disappointed in not receiving a day invite, and I know you would have loved to see me arrive at the ceremony, but I’m sure you’ll understand that as a bride I have to make some decisions that might be hurtful to others. But you’ll also understand that there is no malice intended, I’ll make sure you get to see all the photos so you’ll still get to see it.

I’m sorry I wasn’t able to tell you face to face, but you’ve been so poorly and I didn’t think you’d want to be disturbed by me calling round.

I’ll pop round for a coffee and a chat when you’re better, maybe you can help me choose gifts for the BM’s?

Hugs (bride)

MY REPLY..... Dear Bride, I think you may be disappointed to read this text, but I’m sure you’ll understand that as a ex friend I have to make decisions that might be hurtful to others. Obviously you’ll also understand that there is no malice intended, but I will not be making any more payments towards the dragon pulled golden carriage for your wedding,

I’m afraid also won’t be able to attend your weddings evening do as I’ll be on holiday with (hubs) but I’ll make sure you get to see all the photos so you’ll get to see where I went.

I’m sorry I’m not able to tell you face to face, but I don’t want make myself even more poorly by calling round.

Mumof........

I guess that’s the friendship over. Been crying a bit (a lot) hence the delay in replying. But it was a genuine offer at the time, I guess I shouldn’t have made it, but she was so sad at not having the dragon that I thought what better gift than this, she’s got enough toasters. I suppose gifts shouldn’t come with strings but I really was looking forward to being at the wedding I would have wanted to be there gift or no, but the tone of the reply was so dismissive I couldn’t bear to go or pay. And I tried not to be nasty but I feel so hurt. Hubs though is defo taking me away, illness allowing. (Silver lining)

Now of course I’ll be worried about how awful her day will be, no bride should have her day ruined etc etc. The drugs I’m currently being blitzed on do make me more melancholic and anxious but I’m a worrier anyway.

I hope I made the right decision.....

Kwkwjwkek

There is a whole other thread on this with the back story, someone has linked to it.

Well done OP. I am extremely proud of you. Do try to get your money back or try the suggestion further up asking if it can go towards someone else's transport.

Mumof

I was so upset when I read your previous thread. You are obviously a kind and generous person, you are not stupid or gullible as some may have suggested. You have done absolutely the right thing by pulling out. You weren't trying to 'buy' an invite but doing something for someone who meant something to you. Now you know the truth. You were being used. Many of us have been there, unfortunately. Weddings bring out the best and worst in us. But ultimately, they show us people's true colours. Your husband is right, listen to him on this one! You both sound like gems. Wishing you all the best.

LaCherriesJubilee believe me, you're not the only 'dim bulb' on Mumsnet tonight.

Excellent!!

if she bitches more, just tell her that the gift was clearly exceeding the level of friendship you thought you had and on reflection you have revised the gift to a more appropriate level no gift, in fact

If the deposit cannot be refunded, then have Bridezilla buy the deposit off you & she crowd source the balance. 😉

Just report, Iborgia, if you’re unhappy and MN can remove the posts.

@Bettercallsaul1 take your own advice since you were troll hunting as well.

I do wish you would share what the actual mode of transport is, I was most disappointed to see you only made up the golden carriage haha.

I thought it must be people carrying those beautiful Chinese dragons while pulling a gold painted carriage lol.

Not sure what you mean, JingsMahBucket. Why should I report anything? I stand by my own posts. I’m simply pointing out that there’s an official remedy if people disagree strongly with other people’s posts.

Why the need of a second thread with your text /reply

Plenty of room on old thread

I'm clapping my hands at your response OP - well done you (and DH), it's brilliant!!

Hurtful though it must be to find out what type of "friend" the bride is I'm sure you will eventually feel relieved that you are now an ex-friend. Enjoy your river cruise, and make sure you use the money from the dragon pulled carriage to pamper yourself

My mother in law is available to pull the carriage in August

Am I the only one who thinks that turning the bride's message back on her is cringe and childish?

Yes, I think you are Bezalelle. Too many times we see good people being taken advantage of, and they are often too nice to do or say anything about it. Thanks in part to the OPS DH and support on here, this nice person turned a bitchy act back on the CF, using their own words.

Nope @Bezalelle you aren't the only one.

Also don't know why it needs two threads.

Great response OP. Hope you have a great holiday in August.

I'm glad you (and DH) found your anger and sorted the CFer out! Brilliant reply.

That’s a good response op. It’s tough when you see people with true colours

Great response op

The word is cringey FFS. Why does everyone insist on dropping the y?

Sorry OP. It's shit when 'friends' reveal their true colours

Well done, OP.

My god, the patronising cheek of her “help me choose presents for the BM” as if she is offering a child a major treat !

However:
Take out holiday insurance right now.

Fucking nasty troll hunters some of you lot. Report it and move on.

Op you're better off without her.