UPDATE Dragon Pulled Golden Carriage available for booking in August

[Mumofyoungteenagers]

For all of you who read my not being invited to the day AIBU were wondering the outcome of my either, brilliant/rubbish/begging text or wether I was stupid to offer/ a good friend/ or only doing it to buy an invite here’s the update.

REPLY TEXT “Hi mumof...... yes I thought you might be disappointed in not receiving a day invite, and I know you would have loved to see me arrive at the ceremony, but I’m sure you’ll understand that as a bride I have to make some decisions that might be hurtful to others. But you’ll also understand that there is no malice intended, I’ll make sure you get to see all the photos so you’ll still get to see it.

I’m sorry I wasn’t able to tell you face to face, but you’ve been so poorly and I didn’t think you’d want to be disturbed by me calling round.

I’ll pop round for a coffee and a chat when you’re better, maybe you can help me choose gifts for the BM’s?

Hugs (bride)

MY REPLY..... Dear Bride, I think you may be disappointed to read this text, but I’m sure you’ll understand that as a ex friend I have to make decisions that might be hurtful to others. Obviously you’ll also understand that there is no malice intended, but I will not be making any more payments towards the dragon pulled golden carriage for your wedding,

I’m afraid also won’t be able to attend your weddings evening do as I’ll be on holiday with (hubs) but I’ll make sure you get to see all the photos so you’ll get to see where I went.

I’m sorry I’m not able to tell you face to face, but I don’t want make myself even more poorly by calling round.

Mumof........

I guess that’s the friendship over. Been crying a bit (a lot) hence the delay in replying. But it was a genuine offer at the time, I guess I shouldn’t have made it, but she was so sad at not having the dragon that I thought what better gift than this, she’s got enough toasters. I suppose gifts shouldn’t come with strings but I really was looking forward to being at the wedding I would have wanted to be there gift or no, but the tone of the reply was so dismissive I couldn’t bear to go or pay. And I tried not to be nasty but I feel so hurt. Hubs though is defo taking me away, illness allowing. (Silver lining)

Now of course I’ll be worried about how awful her day will be, no bride should have her day ruined etc etc. The drugs I’m currently being blitzed on do make me more melancholic and anxious but I’m a worrier anyway.

I hope I made the right decision.....

@Mumofyoungteenagers Absolutely the right decision. What a callous reply from the CF bride. Wishing you well and have a great time away with DH. At least the budget for that has increased

Your dh sounds brilliant. The 2 of you crafted the perfect response. Hope you are both enjoying a cheeky giggle, she thoroughly deserved it. Have a brilliant holiday with your fabulous DH.

@FrivolousPancake

Poor thing. She’ll be devastated to be dragonless.

Brilliant reply 👏🏻

Awesome reply .

Have a brilliant holiday - you (& hubby) both deserve it for both of you

Oh, I think you could, Frivolous

She probably would have tapped you for cash for the bridesmaid presents

Love your text OP, you def made the right decision. I hope your health allows for you to go away for your birthday weekend

Glad you found out now rather than after she fleeced you foo 600 quid. Hope you are ok.

Credit to your husband I’m sure OP but the tone of your message to her was unexpectedly bold after your first thread

How much have you already paid towards the dragons?

Has she replied?

If there is any justice in the world the wedding will get canceled due to Corona

I hope that 1. She finds the money to pay for her dragon (maybe she can put the cost of the buffet for you and your husband towards it), and 2. That said dragon full-on shits on her train

Brilliant response! I love the way you turned her own words back on her. Totally the right thing to do! Don’t feel guilty, she doesn’t deserve any more of your time, money or consideration.

What Frivolous said.

Fuck that shit. Brilliant reply. What an arsehole...

Ain't nobody got time for dat. 😡😤🤬

That is a brilliant response, OP. Hope you have a lovely holiday with your DH, who sounds lovely as well. Not very MNetty but have a (((hug)))

Brava OP and bravo OP's DH!

You've had a horrid day so comfort yourself with looking forward to your trip away with DH

but don't forget to keep us updated

The other thread is still very much 'live' though?

AnnelovesGilbert hubs got cross (indeed like some of the posters) at the tone of my original text, (Typical Scorpio) and when saw her response went “right” and as I said ‘helped’ with my response which I probably (almost definitely) would have toned down. But he saw how upset I was and put his foot down.

But despite that I still worry, I’m just a saddo.

Somewhat off topic but where do you actually hire a dragon pulled golden carriage from? I can't say I've ever seen that mode of transport mentioned on any wedding planning thread. I'm also finding it hard to imagine anything more tacky to arrive at a wedding in.

Anyway, assuming this is actually a true story and not a fairytale, then you were bonkers to ever offer to pay for it. It was far too generous based on the finances you have outlined and your apparent level of friendship. I am however, glad you have finally seen sense and have told her to get stuffed.

Enjoy your holiday (especially now you have an extra £600 to spend) and I hope your health improves.

You did absolutely the right thing

Sorry so many questions - £150 deposit non refundable I think but I’ll. check tomorrow. No no response from my last text. Nothing from CB either (surprise). Expecting the excrement to hit the oscillating unit tomorrow though. Hubs says I’m to ignore both of them now and don’t respond to anything. And we’re going on a river cruise! (Coronavirus allowing in August) yay!