UPDATE Dragon Pulled Golden Carriage available for booking in August

[Mumofyoungteenagers]

For all of you who read my not being invited to the day AIBU were wondering the outcome of my either, brilliant/rubbish/begging text or wether I was stupid to offer/ a good friend/ or only doing it to buy an invite here’s the update.

REPLY TEXT “Hi mumof...... yes I thought you might be disappointed in not receiving a day invite, and I know you would have loved to see me arrive at the ceremony, but I’m sure you’ll understand that as a bride I have to make some decisions that might be hurtful to others. But you’ll also understand that there is no malice intended, I’ll make sure you get to see all the photos so you’ll still get to see it.

I’m sorry I wasn’t able to tell you face to face, but you’ve been so poorly and I didn’t think you’d want to be disturbed by me calling round.

I’ll pop round for a coffee and a chat when you’re better, maybe you can help me choose gifts for the BM’s?

Hugs (bride)

MY REPLY..... Dear Bride, I think you may be disappointed to read this text, but I’m sure you’ll understand that as a ex friend I have to make decisions that might be hurtful to others. Obviously you’ll also understand that there is no malice intended, but I will not be making any more payments towards the dragon pulled golden carriage for your wedding,

I’m afraid also won’t be able to attend your weddings evening do as I’ll be on holiday with (hubs) but I’ll make sure you get to see all the photos so you’ll get to see where I went.

I’m sorry I’m not able to tell you face to face, but I don’t want make myself even more poorly by calling round.

Mumof........

I guess that’s the friendship over. Been crying a bit (a lot) hence the delay in replying. But it was a genuine offer at the time, I guess I shouldn’t have made it, but she was so sad at not having the dragon that I thought what better gift than this, she’s got enough toasters. I suppose gifts shouldn’t come with strings but I really was looking forward to being at the wedding I would have wanted to be there gift or no, but the tone of the reply was so dismissive I couldn’t bear to go or pay. And I tried not to be nasty but I feel so hurt. Hubs though is defo taking me away, illness allowing. (Silver lining)

Now of course I’ll be worried about how awful her day will be, no bride should have her day ruined etc etc. The drugs I’m currently being blitzed on do make me more melancholic and anxious but I’m a worrier anyway.

I hope I made the right decision.....

partofthepeanutgallery oh what a wonderful idea. I’ll do that if I can.

As for loose women, annelovesgilbert obviously it’s not really a dragon pulled golden carriage, but what it is, is very very specific, and if I’d stated what it really was it would be very outing so the dragon thing is a euphemism for the actual mode of transport. It was the weirdest outlandish thing I could think of at the time. (Note to self stop reading Harry Potter whilst the kids are watching Joseph on the TV)

Either way good luck to loose women trying to find a dragon pulled golden carriage, if they do I’d probably pay £600 and use it myself to just drive around the city

Wow, what an update.

You've handled this with class. Totally her loss because you seem like such a genuine friend, what an ungrateful bitch!

I’m hoping they or the sun pick it up as the cf bride will hopefully then see what everyone else thinks of the way she has treated you.

Why are some posters troll hunting? Look up the OP’s username. She’s been on here for about 4 years.

Wisely and bravely done OP! Your response to her selfish and dismissive text was spot on! Although it might feel sad to lose a perceived friend it seems you are well rid of such a thoughtless and avaricious person.

I hope you and your husband ride off on the dragon chariot to a wonderful holiday.

I'm pretty sure that when I was a bride I didn't make any decisions that were hurtful to people - but that might be because I wasn't a cf grabby bridezilla bitch! You're well rid op - have a great holiday!

@Thisismytimetoshine she used that as a way to show specific the transport was.

But whatever, if you don’t think it’s real, report and move on. Don’t clutter up the thread with disruptive troll hunting posts.

Well done for standing up for yourself OP. You sound like a truly wonderful person and you deserve so much better. Really glad you’ve got such a supportive husband!

@Mumofyoungteenagers I'm so sorry to read your update.

I hope you can spend what ever time and strength left on the people that actually want to spend every moment they can with you.

Have an amazing holiday with DH

Thisismytimetoshine

Thread 1
It is a thing I knew she always wanted and was really upset that she simply couldn’t afford it.

Which isn’t the dragon thing

Thread 2
It was the weirdest outlandish thing I could think of at the time.

The dragon thing is OP’s red herring, not the actual thing bridezilla wanted

Clutter up the thread? Op can always start a new one 😆

Why are some posters troll hunting? Look up the OP’s username. She’s been on here for about 4 years.

Which means fuck all when you read the other thread about name changing and how many MNetters have 3 or 4 regular nicknames.

Not that it makes troll hunting ok, but length of time here means nothing.

Well if your ex-friend is on Mumsnet she will almost certainly recognise you and herself in your posts.

What was the point in you sharing this rather cringeworthy information with us? I felt a bit sorry for you in the first thread but I don't now.

Well done, great text!!

Please don't worry, you don't need to feel bad at all! It's very clear she'll have a bloody marvellous wedding using every manipulative CFery tactic in the book. She obviously doesn't care what she has to do or who she hurts to get exactly what she wants. She's shown her true colours just in time though so at least you won't be one of her poor victims!

Enjoy your holiday!

I don't get why there needed to be a new thread? The last one had enough attention!

Anyway well done, OP. Ask for the deposit back tomorrow and enjoy your river cruise.

Everyone involved beers seriously bitchy tbh

Yabvu for calling your husband "hubs."

Wow she sounds so manipulative and heartless. Is there a chance she put the waterworks on to get you to offer to pay for the thing? I wonder how many other people are paying for parts of her wedding. I'd definitely cancel the dragon carriage, she is not worthy of being conveyed by whatever this is a euphemism for.

If she had any decency she'd offer you the deposit back.

Am I the only dim bulb who's been wondering how a dragon pulled carriage works? I was thinking maybe tame komodo dragons... bit scary for a wedding though...

It's probably that daft Cinderella thing Katie Price rode in to marry Peter Andre.

I think there is some serious confusion about the mode of transport!

What an awful woman, you're better without her as a "friend".

And good for your DH. Enjoy your holiday!

Never mind the marriage, I predict a speedy divorce...who could possibly want to be with someone like that?!

I’m confused! Why would you offer to pay £600 in the first place if you weren’t even invited. That’s a lot of money. How do you know the bride, were you close?