UPDATE Dragon Pulled Golden Carriage available for booking in August

[Mumofyoungteenagers]

For all of you who read my not being invited to the day AIBU were wondering the outcome of my either, brilliant/rubbish/begging text or wether I was stupid to offer/ a good friend/ or only doing it to buy an invite here’s the update.

REPLY TEXT “Hi mumof...... yes I thought you might be disappointed in not receiving a day invite, and I know you would have loved to see me arrive at the ceremony, but I’m sure you’ll understand that as a bride I have to make some decisions that might be hurtful to others. But you’ll also understand that there is no malice intended, I’ll make sure you get to see all the photos so you’ll still get to see it.

I’m sorry I wasn’t able to tell you face to face, but you’ve been so poorly and I didn’t think you’d want to be disturbed by me calling round.

I’ll pop round for a coffee and a chat when you’re better, maybe you can help me choose gifts for the BM’s?

Hugs (bride)

MY REPLY..... Dear Bride, I think you may be disappointed to read this text, but I’m sure you’ll understand that as a ex friend I have to make decisions that might be hurtful to others. Obviously you’ll also understand that there is no malice intended, but I will not be making any more payments towards the dragon pulled golden carriage for your wedding,

I’m afraid also won’t be able to attend your weddings evening do as I’ll be on holiday with (hubs) but I’ll make sure you get to see all the photos so you’ll get to see where I went.

I’m sorry I’m not able to tell you face to face, but I don’t want make myself even more poorly by calling round.

Mumof........

I guess that’s the friendship over. Been crying a bit (a lot) hence the delay in replying. But it was a genuine offer at the time, I guess I shouldn’t have made it, but she was so sad at not having the dragon that I thought what better gift than this, she’s got enough toasters. I suppose gifts shouldn’t come with strings but I really was looking forward to being at the wedding I would have wanted to be there gift or no, but the tone of the reply was so dismissive I couldn’t bear to go or pay. And I tried not to be nasty but I feel so hurt. Hubs though is defo taking me away, illness allowing. (Silver lining)

Now of course I’ll be worried about how awful her day will be, no bride should have her day ruined etc etc. The drugs I’m currently being blitzed on do make me more melancholic and anxious but I’m a worrier anyway.

I hope I made the right decision.....

Well done, you and your DH working together. You nailed it.

Oh, block them both from everything. Life is too short to be on the receiving end of toxic communications!

I'd block them both too OP, you don't have to hear her out or listen to her backtracking

Excellent decision.

Good text. Well done to your DH for helping and looking out for you.

Don't worry OP - the bride should be ashamed of herself. What a cow.

Well done Mumof... Nothing less than was deserved! Glad you stood up for yourself, with hub's support too.

Well done you, enjoy your holiday and spend your money very unwisely on lots of lovely fun filled frivolous things. Great response.

Very enjoyable thread!

Well done, OP! I can't believe her message clearly indicated she still fully expected to get her dragon - you'd think she'd have the good grace to have offered you an out. Grabby pair of twats. Enjoy your birthday trip!

You've done the right thing lass.

I hope you enjoy looking forward to your cruise.

Well done you! Even if the deposit does turn out to be non-refundable that’s still £450 extra for your river cruise. You might find they’re willing you refund you though, worth asking. Bitchy bride can pay for her own bloody dragon!

I would send her the link to here so she can see what we all think of her too!

Given how specific this all is are you worried it will end up on loose women?

Well done!! You’ve done the right thing. You don’t need people like this in your life

The only thing I’d worry about is she might show others your text without the context of hers before it so you look unhinged.

If I were you I’d contact the biggest gossip in your friend group and get your side of the story in first!

As for the deposit... providing the vendor hasn't incurred any losses in taking your booking and the wedding is still what 5 months away, there is a case for getting that back. No guarantees but worth a try?

Ring the dragon carriage peeps ad tell them the whole story. Hopefully they're refund you the deposit even if it's against their policy, just out of niceness.

Well done you.

Brilliant reply. Well done, OP and OP's husband, well done.

Oh, and if they won't offer a refund, ask that it be put towards another bride's day, not the cheeky fucker ex friend you have.

Ring the dragon carriage peeps ad tell them the whole story. Hopefully they're refund you the deposit even if it's against their policy, just out of niceness.

Hmmm, this actually could be an option. That or ring up and just cancel it whether you get your money back or not. She doesn't deserve nice things!

Given how specific this all is are you worried it will end up on loose women?

This... two dramatic threads could almost be a tactic to get media coverage for this. If that wasn’t your intention, you might want to get one or the other taken down. The bride and CB will definitely recognise themselves.

Good old hubs, eh? A thread too many for me I think. I'll leave you to it.