My friend has gone mad right?

[CathyTre]

A friend of mine has recently got engaged. She is VERY excited. All good, this is lovely. She has a very large solitaire ring which is beautiful. She was showing me today over coffee and I oohed and aahed with appropriate gushiness.

She then said “I know, it’s SO lovely! I wouldn’t like rings like yours. Your wedding ring is so overshadowed by your engagement ring and your wedding ring would be so much better if it was a bit wider as it just looks like you’re engaged. I’m so lucky that I got to go and choose my engagement ring because I really wanted something to my taste and I’d have had to pretend a bit if I got yours”

She’s mental to voice this, to care and to give any thought to my rings, right? 😂

I’ll post a picture of my very ordinary and not worthy of remark rings (I love them, I just say ordinary as think they’re pretty normal and not remark worthy as I know whenever I read a post where someone describes things I’m nosy about what it looks like. Also not offended by anyone else’s opinion on my rings if they can even be bothered to have one!).

Well, heaven forfend that you should look ENGAGED and that your wedding ring is overshadowed by your engagement ring because nobody might realise that you are actually MARRIED and they might just think you were an engaged LOSER and what every woman wants is to be MARRIED isn't it? (is how I imagine that the conversation went inside her head. Her mistake was letting it spill out through her mouth).

I wouldn't bother being a bridesmaid for her. She is very rude and seems to have no filter at all. I have a degree in design and I can tell you your rings are perfectly proportioned and lovely.

Totally agree with brevity one of the earliest replies.
She of course can decide she doesn't like yours and be pleased she got to choose something to her specification.

But she's batshit to remark on it. Actually she's rude. And clearly has too much time on her hands to have even considered it - I love your combination and it's what I'd go for! (Not that you asked and now I've just commented which I said she was rude for doing! But you kinda invited that 😂)

That was really rude of her. I’d be very upset at her lack of manners.

batshit friend. I think your rings are lovely OP!

Oh dear, that was very rude.

I would definitely be a little bit worried about how demanding she was going to be as a bride, if she wanted me as a Matron of Honour. (Although you sound like you've got a wonderful sense of humour about it all!)

I dont understand what shes talking about. Your rings are beautiful.

I actually think she sounds like she is rather jealous of you and your ring and is overcompensating by convincing herself that hers 'is better'.

I really like your rings. She’s a cow. Suggest booking a long holiday which just so happens to coincide with her wedding day.

I’ve got the worlds most tasteless ruby and diamond ring that was left to me by my grandma. Seriously. Imagine Kate Middleton’s ring and add diamonds and swap for a ruby. It’s HIDEOUS and also my only expensive asset. You couldn’t sell the fucker as is as it’s so awful 😂 Might start wearing it on my ring finger 😂

How strange! I was going to suggest that she might be a bit jealous because the stones in hers are smaller, but then you said her ring is massive. So who knows what’s got into her head!

When she next shows you her ring you can say "It's amazing how small they can cut diamonds these days"

Your ring is lovely - very simple and elegant, and not too big at all.

She's crazy, and it almost sounds like she might be trying to convince herself that she doesn't want something with a bigger stone.

You haven't agreed to be a bridesmaid, have you? I think you may regret it.

And in five years time she'll be voicing opinions on your kids, house, marriage etc etc. Delete her number now she sounds nuts

Beautiful rings ! Mine are actually very similar.

You will need a lot of deep breaths during wedding prep - me thinks !

Although I was once mortified about a comment I made to a lovely friend when we were chatting about jewellery - I mentioned I didn’t want an engagement ring with stones because I cook a lot. She is an absolutely fantastic cook and baker with a beautiful set of multi-gem rings...I didn’t even think of it at the time but woke up with the horror a couple of days later!

Yours look balanced, nothing is overshadowed. She was a bit odd, I'd ignore if it's a one-off, she's probably just overexcited.

Is this an excuse to show us your rings?

Who needs an excuse? I love looking at pictures of rings! OP's are beautiful - as are Emily's in the picture posted earlier on this thread.

I also prefer a slim band. Mine's 3mm wide and looks similar to OP's; I dislike big wide bands but it's all a matter of taste, and that is subjective. And yes, 'friend' is rude (as are some of the PP on this thread).

Yours is lovely , she is batshit. Not wishing to derail but I am completely jealous because you have a beautiful stone in yours - mine of 28 years has fallen out last week due to too vigorous hand washing because of bloody CV.

This sounds like a frenemy, not a friend. What a rude, mean spirited thing to say! You can think something is not to your personal taste but you dont have to say it out loud FFS. Not every thought in our heads needs to be verbalised.
She sounds a thoroughly unpleasant person and I'd avoid

Wide wedding bands are a right pain, they get water trapped underneath. She's rude OP.

Best of luck being bridesmaid 😂

I have a friend like this, well "had" to be completely accurate.
I was given a beautiful antique book one birthday with a colourful hand tooled leather cover. So pissed off was she, she used it as a coaster for her coffee!
Luckily it wasn't damaged but I thought that kind of jealousy so bizarre i didn't see her again.
Your "friend" is incredibly rude. Who would actually say such a thing?

Yep she's nuts.

Your rings are lovely

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