My friend has gone mad right?

[CathyTre]

A friend of mine has recently got engaged. She is VERY excited. All good, this is lovely. She has a very large solitaire ring which is beautiful. She was showing me today over coffee and I oohed and aahed with appropriate gushiness.

She then said “I know, it’s SO lovely! I wouldn’t like rings like yours. Your wedding ring is so overshadowed by your engagement ring and your wedding ring would be so much better if it was a bit wider as it just looks like you’re engaged. I’m so lucky that I got to go and choose my engagement ring because I really wanted something to my taste and I’d have had to pretend a bit if I got yours”

She’s mental to voice this, to care and to give any thought to my rings, right? 😂

I’ll post a picture of my very ordinary and not worthy of remark rings (I love them, I just say ordinary as think they’re pretty normal and not remark worthy as I know whenever I read a post where someone describes things I’m nosy about what it looks like. Also not offended by anyone else’s opinion on my rings if they can even be bothered to have one!).

She's daft to voice her thoughts on this.
Your ring is lovely (and very similar to mine).

Your rings are lovely, op.

Your 'friend' sounds spiteful

@CathyTre Decline being a bridesmaid. This os only the beginning of her batshit craziness

See you in a little while when she becomes the most bridezilla bride ever!

What a thing to think, and then to say! You're more reserved than me I'd have told her to stick her rings up her ring.

your rings look gorgeous - i'm getting married in August & we haven't bothered with an engagement ring at all, preferring to very boringly pay the money off our mortgage instead

She sounds jealous, bitter, and spiteful.

@CathyTre

Your rings are lovely. Yeah, the wedding band is a little narrow, but so what? Big wide rings don't always look good.

Your 2 rings look nice together.

I was MOH for a bridezilla and it was the end of our friendship (not to mention a stressful MAT leave for me).

Find a very good reason to decline being a bridesmaid - I predict it will not go well. eg "You deserve a bridesmaid who can give their all to your very special event, and sadly I'm not up to the commitment"...I'm sure the gurus of MN can come up with something better.

And your rings are lovely.

Clearly, her brain doesn't have room for anything else at the moment except ring choices. Not even manners or consideration.

I didn’t even give that much thought to my own engagement ring aside from thinking it was lovely! I wouldn’t have liked it very much if my husband had picked something similar to his first wife’s ring (my husband was widowed when his kids were little) as that would have felt a bit weird and I’ve seen that ring as my stepdaughter has it now, but aside from that, unless it was some hideous monstrosity I was very happy with him choosing!

Yours is pretty much exactly the same as mine. I love it.

And yes, your friend is bonkers.

Well her comments scream insecurity! She’s overcompensating for the fact she isn’t altogether happy about something (possibly she didn’t actually get the ring she really wanted)

I think anyone who is even a little bit invested in comparing their engagement ring to someone else's is feeling a bit insecure.

Your friend is rude to even compare, she can think what she likes but she didn't need to say anything.

Your rings look lovely

Your rings are lovely and your friend was bloody rude to say she thought otherwise!

Someone once made a bit of a thing about me wearing mine in the wrong order. No idea why absolutely anyone other than myself and at a push my husband would care! Your rings are so pretty OP, I love the way they sit together (I know you don’t need opinions but I hope compliments are nice anyway!).

I have a friend who would say something similar. She always has to pick holes. She is nice enough and I've known her long enough not to care about her comments etc but a few people are not friends with her anymore because she can't not say anything! She gets upset if anyone says anything negative to her though! People are strange !
Your rings look lovely and as long as your happy with them that's all that matters!
Try to ignore it.

Bridezilla, run for the hills 🏃‍♀️

It sounds to me like she doesn’t actually like her ring as much as she’s making out. Good luck being her bridesmaid, I foresee a bridezilla. She doesn’t sound very nice.

I would have been and had to reply something like 'Yes I know, I've thought of ending it all many times but now I just try not to look at them, try to forget the sheer hideousness of it all.'

So funny. I wonder if she got home and was

Love your rings. That’s all

Is her ring smaller? And she’s trying to make herself feel less adequate by saying she doesn’t want to overshadow her wedding ring?

Lovely rings op.

She is nuts

Is this an excuse to show us your rings?

I would turn down the opportunity to be her bridesmaid if this is how she begins! Your rings are lovely and more interesting than a solitaire imho.

Sounds like a defensive comment to me, was anything said about hers being small?