My friend has gone mad right?

[CathyTre]

A friend of mine has recently got engaged. She is VERY excited. All good, this is lovely. She has a very large solitaire ring which is beautiful. She was showing me today over coffee and I oohed and aahed with appropriate gushiness.

She then said “I know, it’s SO lovely! I wouldn’t like rings like yours. Your wedding ring is so overshadowed by your engagement ring and your wedding ring would be so much better if it was a bit wider as it just looks like you’re engaged. I’m so lucky that I got to go and choose my engagement ring because I really wanted something to my taste and I’d have had to pretend a bit if I got yours”

She’s mental to voice this, to care and to give any thought to my rings, right? 😂

I’ll post a picture of my very ordinary and not worthy of remark rings (I love them, I just say ordinary as think they’re pretty normal and not remark worthy as I know whenever I read a post where someone describes things I’m nosy about what it looks like. Also not offended by anyone else’s opinion on my rings if they can even be bothered to have one!).

I have a friend like this. She projects things onto other people. E.g shes very overweight and said to a size 16 friend 'you know big girls like us??'. She has no upper lip and told me that we have the same 'lemon lips' even though I have a full on pout and have had people mention my full lips all my life. People are wierd. Something she is feeling made her make that comment and its come from some kind of insecurity.
Personally I love your rings. Tasteful and timeless and I would be overjoyed to possess them. Shes projecting her own issues and she was rude.

She's been very rude.

Oh.. one of my friend will definitely do the same, she might be jealous of you.

Maybe her stones are fake and she’s insecure and projecting? She doesn’t sound like much of a friend either way.

There was a woman I used to work with who often said rude things and I could never quite work out if she was being snide or didn’t realise she was out of order. When I got engaged she asked me if my diamond was real and how much it cost?! I mean, who says that?

YANBU- she was bitchy and probably jealous of your relationship for some reason. My ex bought me an engagement ring. It was really pretty even though it wasn't real diamonds. It was princessy and I like that style. A bit like this one.

Anyway, a bitchy (a mutual friend said whenever she talked about my relationship it was clear she was jealous) 'friend' said 'oh, if you polish it up it'll shine like a diamond.' Maybe it was all in the tone of voice but it was really bitchy lol.

OP I think your friend is jealous/competitive, maybe because you got engaged first- or about something else.

Going to bed now but I’ll find a photo of the hideous ruby job tomorrow - we call it the “spot ring” in the family as it looks a bit like you could squeeze it 😂

Thank you for all responses- you made me smile despite my distressing rings 😂

She’s rude and mean. Yours are gorgeous and very classy. They go perfect together. My wedding band is super thin!! She’d hate it!!

For the love of god, say no to being a bridesmaid if she’s this crazy over the engagement

she might not like yours - and thats ok, people have different tastes. Was she right to voice it? Maybe she thought you were good friends enough that you wouldn't care much? Would i say it? Prob not. If a friend would have asked me what i thought of it, i would prob just say its not for me.

She’s both mental and rude

Wedding bands traditionally ARE plain. I much prefer them to the fancy ones that are fashionable now.

If you’re going to be bridesmaid then I’d get braced for a rocky ride...

Wow what a thing to say to you! can't believe her lack of self awareness....that she thought it was ok to say that!!

Potty, but I sometimes say I don't like something when its just not what I want at that time, took me a while to realise I was annoying people, I'm a bit on the spectrum.

Your rings are as beautiful as her manners are ugly. Everyone's tastes are different but it's a poor friend who explains her choices are better than yours.

I’m on my second marriage. Never had an engagement ring and never wanted one either. Each to their own. We just have plain stainless steel wedding rings. Nothing else. I personally don’t like more than one ring on a finger. When I see more than one I always think of those fairground stalls where you hoop rings over things to win prizes. I know that’s ridiculous but multiple rings on one finger remind me of those rings stacking up.

Ignore her.

You’re rings are beautiful. I would love rings like these. Ignore this petty woman.

I call bullshit OP. Out for a drink with "Mr Rubbish Ring" at 1830 then off to bed at 1945. Right.

@CathyTre

You're going to BED now??? Now THAT is worth taking the piss out of.

But your rings are lovely.

Place marking for the batshit bridesmaid dress/hen do/wedding reception posts...

Haven't RTFT, for once. She's mental, OP. If DP proposed to me with an elastic band, I'd be over the moon, and would say so to any interfering busybody who chose to comment.

She’s a rude cow. Are you sure you want to be her bridesmaid? You do realise that every little tiny bit of her wedding is going to outshadow yours? Good luck OP. I suggest

Ergh why do people feel the need to put others down to feel more excited for themselves.. Especially friends.. Just why.. People have done this to me in the past..but when they are called out on it I'm the jealous one.. That's another thing why is jealousy always the go to reason for any disagreement.. The mind boggles.. Both rings are lovely.. also lovely you've been asked to be bridesmaid.. Enjoy your peach frills 😉

@Phoebesgift

I call bullshit OP. Out for a drink with "Mr Rubbish Ring" at 1830 then off to bed at 1945. Right.

Oh I missed the post where the OP said she was going out at half six. Just been back through the thread and spotted it!

But then going to bed just over an hour later ?

A bit of a quick trip to the pub wasn't it @CathyTre ??!

I think it's rude. I don't like (for myself)everything my friend wears. But it's still perfectly nice on her. Your rings are clearly a wedding and engagement. My mum's is very similar. It's just not the nicest thing to say is it? I think some people just talk shit and don't think. Id of definitely said oh charming or something.

Either way don't worry. It's not about the ring anyway. It's about marriage! X

😂 at my early to bed doubters! Look! I’m knackered! My small kids are with their dad and one of them had been poorly and sleepless. I’m doing early night. Same hand, same rings, bed!