Am I the only woman in the UK whose..

[LovelyIssues]

Husband has NEVER seen them completely without makeup. Been together 11 years..

Main reason why is I have roscea, acne scars, awful redness and uneven skin.. I hate it and try and hide it as much as possible so I can honestly say he's never without even a bit of foundation on

I always wear makeup, still have great skin for 57 but of course ex partners have seen me without it, coming out of the shower and so on. It's difficult to have it on 24/7.

I always wear makeup, still have great skin for 57

I think the difference here is that OP's skin is probably more sensitive than yours is and thus makeup negatively affects her more than it does in your case.

OP you do really need to give your skin a break from make up / tinted moisturiser. I couldn't imagine feeling the pressure to look a certain way all the time. I do enjoy wearing make up on special occasions but I don't have the time to do it, so I choose to go make up free everywhere I go.

Ahh I think that’s quite sad Op. your partner should be someone you can show your whole self to. Warts and all. All your flaws and imperfections- not just the physical ones- personality- emotional etc.

I think you should trust him to open up to him. You’ll feel a massive sense of relief.

Gladskin for rosacea too. It's not a miracle but it helps.

@twelveminutespast I would give anything to go makeup free

@stopgap

OP, I was like you for a while, but once we were married it became impossible in our tiny London flat to hide it from him. He wasn't shocked, didn't hate it, didn't actually comment. When I said - after months of him knowing what my skin was actually like, I said something about how much I hated it and he said he liked the colour!

We've been married over 20 years. We became quite impoverished a few years ago and I realised that I couldn't keep buying make up, so once everything I had was all used up, I stopped. No one has said a word and after several years I barely notice how dreadful my skin is.

If we become better off one of the first things I'll do (after a haircut) will be to buy some make up! I still hate my skin and know I feel more confident when it's not bare but it's not an absolute necessity to wear make up any more.

Oh OP that's sad . Can you see a dermatologist and try different ways to help yourself relax around your partner in your own home? Dim the lights, use lamps instead of ceiling lights, and definitely don't wear make up to bed, it's no good for your pores, or your sheets
Have you not ever been swimming with him? beach holiday?
You poor thing - go and love your skin so you can learn to accept it, but get some professional help with it too.

@jux good for you!! I just know how shocked he would be

I'm 25 and have never, ever let my bf or ex's seen me without makeup either. It's sad isnt it? I feel like if I go barefaced, he'll be like wtf? I wear a light layer of Bare Minerals (foundation) to bed which claims that you can actually sleep in it as it's mineral based so therefore breathable. I also put a light layer of mascara on . I went to work once makeup free and I was asked if I was ill! God knows what I'll do when I move in with him

@flossiewossie124 I'm relieved I'm not bonkers!

@twelveminutespast I feel sad for you that you feel you have to hide.

It would be so freeing and so much better for your skin to get a rest. I'm sure your DH loves you. The you inside. So he may get a bit concerned the first time or two he sees your naked face, but then it will quickly become just you, the outside you. With the other you still inside. Please just do it and be done with hiding.

I know in the long run it would be SO much better for my skin and a relief; it's just making that break. If I could find something even just for the redness it wouldn't be such a scary thought

I work in healthcare and enormous steps have been made in treatment for your condition over the last 10 years.

Maybe a referral to a specialist will help.

You've reminded me of Marvelous Mrs Maisel. She only takes her makeup off after her husband is asleep, then she gets up before him to put it all on again. And he still goes and sleeps with his secretary!!

Does he know that you wear makeup 24/7 to hide it?

@AutumnRose1 no he doesn't know

Thanks @BrendasUmbrella lol!!

I went to work once makeup free and I was asked if I was ill!

Think of it this way. When you see a celebrity without make-up in the gossip rags, there's usually a ton of disparaging comments. Disregard all the mental images you have of them and look at them as you would any regular Jane on the street. They just look like normal people right?

It's the same here. People are used to you wearing makeup that your made up face has become the 'normal' for them. I can almost guarantee you that if you had never worn makeup in the first place, no one would think you're 'ill'.

Me too Brenda. She must have been told by her mum who does the same. Powdering her bra strap lines

@LovelyIssues You could always switch to a breathable powder and slowly use less and less? Some are fantastic at reducing redness. It might be less daunting for you than going from a full face to completely bare

Have you seen the GP about this? It's likely they'll be able to help.

Oh bless you. It’s you he loves, surely? If not, he doesn’t deserve you.

I used to be the same and had Terrible skin
, was super self consciousabout it. Wore loads make up to cover it. But then I found Environ facials ( not an advert!) which totally fixed everything.
But I still wear IT cosmetics tinted moisturiser /CCcream which covers anything and everything and makes me feel invincible! goof luck!!