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I know I am. Mucked up.

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whattheheckisgoingon · 04/03/2020 20:30

So I was on the way home and popped in to the supermarket to pick up a couple of bits for the kids‘ tea.

When I saw all the emptying shelves I just panicked! Ended up spending 30 mins doing a ridiculous panic buy of the basics, just in case we need to self isolate. Completely irrational. (We’ve had a case confirmed in the town next door - the news came through just before I went into the shop - and I think that sent me over). I feel so stupid.

But the other thing is that DH needed the car to get to football training this evening. So I have made him very late for that. I called on my way back - apologised that I was running late and admitted I was acting irrationally- but he just hung up. He was apoplectic when we go back home, and wouldn’t accept any attempt at an apology. Almost exploded when he saw the shopping. He is very, very angry.

He has also previously been very clear that we should not stock up and I have blatantly done the complete opposite which he will take as massively disrespectful. I just lost my head, I guess.

I’ve sent him a text saying how sorry I am. I am; I know I shouldn’t have done it.

He’s going to be super angry when he gets home. I’m so worried about this. He says I am very selfish. I didn’t mean to be, but I know I was.

I know I’ve been an idiot. I just don’t know what to do when he comes back still extremely angry. I honestly don’t know how to appease him. He’ll be back in 45 minutes and I’m readying myself for his anger over it all.

Don’t know why I posted really. Sounds stupid in writing. I’m just very worried. I know I was unreasonable. Sorry if I posted in the wrong bit.

Any advice?

OP posts:
HollowTalk · 06/03/2020 11:40

It's hard to think of a bigger red flag than smothering!

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 06/03/2020 13:48

It's not your fault. You're not causing him to be like this. You could be the most annoying twat in the world and it still wouldn't justify him trying to smother you. He did that to show you what would happen if you step out of line. He's showing you you'd better behave or else.

He's not loving or caring. He's a very very dangerous man.

Porpoises · 06/03/2020 23:31

Hope you're doing okay OP. Flowers

It's a lot to take in, your brain will have minimised things to try to protect you.

Sunshineand · 07/03/2020 13:14

OP, your post about the smothering incident keeps popping into my head at random times. It is very concerning. I hope you're ok today.

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