I'm pissed off with the school.

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AIBU always say YABU!! When it comes to people being annoyed with schools.
I'm really cross so need to be told I'm being unreasonable so I stop being annoyed.

DS has a nasty throat infection, ended up in hospital and then 10 days or oral antibiotics 4 times a day.
I spoke to the head who said it he can hand it into the office and they will hand it back at the end of the day. He gets collected by a CM who has several other children so this worked.

They never handed it back to him. He missed several doses because of this.

They called me to say it's still at the office again today (it's 5pm by this point) they said they are busy (fair enough) and that he should be coming to get it.
That wasn't the discussion when I handed it in, they said they would give it to him.
It's the end of the course today so a bit late t tell me they changed their mind and expected him to collect - that never would have worked he never would have remembered (he's 8, I know some kids would be great at this but DS wouldn't).

He has multiple allergies.

His teacher just called at 17.28 to tell me they have a food tasting thing tomorrow and could I bring in a 'variety of foods' to match their ones so he's safe.

I'm doing dinner, getting the baby to bed, then tomorrow im up and out by 7.30, DH not home until tomorrow night so when do I do this?!

There was NO notice of this in any bloody news letter now way for me to prepare. And if I don't get this done he will feel excluded.

FFS.

Yes I'm being unreasonable they have a trillion kids and can't accommodate mine with his illness and allergies. I'm still angry though.

I am also surprised the school agreed to have an 8 year old being given the medicine too. It is normally only to be given to an adult in the various schools I have been involved with.

I'm confused by this - why would an adult in school, i.e. a member of staff, need someone to administer medication to them?

Sorry for any confusion. I meant the medicine bottle at the end of the day to take away, without a parent or carer with him. Not the administering of the medicine during the day.

Schools aren't allowed to administer medicine.

This is not the case in most schools. Schools will usually administer prescribed medication which has the child's name and directions printed on it. They will often not administer OTC medication such as Calpol unless it is in a proper prescription bottle, again fully labelled. It is however at the discretion of staff as to whether they will take on that responsibility, and they can't be forced to.

Which is the definition of flawed.

I do seem to be getting under your skin though and despite the fact I’m clearly on the thread you’re very annoyingly @ my in box so I’m off.

@TSSDNCOP bye, sorry.

That set of guidelines you posted OP - in Juniors onwards (rarely in infants ime) that's normally for long term medication and procedures such as diabetes blood testing and insulin doses, or inhalers.

Its not usually done for short term antibiotics, simply as there are things that need to be discussed and put in place beforehand.

There are still guidelines over where the medication and equipment can be kept, and the child doesn't usually get to carry it around all the time in primary due to safeguarding other children.

When my son needed antibiotics I asked the GP for two bottles so one could be kept at school and one at home to avoid the ferrying it about especially as lots of it needs to be kept refrigerated. They were fine giving me two bottles. Maybe ask for two next time?

"Give it back to the child" does NOT necessarily mean that the extremely busy office staff will go and hunt them down. It means that if someone (child or carer) comes to the office, they will get it out of the fridge and give it back to them.

Wow, you really are the sort of person who can start a fight in an empty room.

I hope for the sake your children's school that your son is better soon.

Aragog year I deciphered that as well, the only reason I posted it was purely for those who were having kittens over a child carrying medicine. Otherwise they weren't all that informative apart from not stating that medicines should be handed from adult to adult.

Wow, you really are the sort of person who can start a fight in an empty room.

Can people not read? can't they even scroll through and read the OPs posts?

The school DID mean that they would take it back no matter how you all interpret what they said now. We know that as that is precisely what they did initially. Then they missed one evening, then presumably started doing it again until they missed it on the last day.

So, whatever we now decide that they meant , they DID take the bottle back to OPs son just as she expected they would based on what they said.

Whatever happens in other schools or whatever people think that they meant now is irrelevant. they said they would give it back and that is what they mostly did.

Aw, poor kid should be at home. YABU.
YANBU about the lack of notice for tomorrow.
Keep him off to get better and avoid the food thing.

What kid stays at home for 10 days for tonsillitis?

Your child minder is at fault. They are acting as parent at pick up time.
The short notice for allergy safe foods is not on.

My sons school have best will in the world but tbh they would forget and they o ly allow medicines to stay in the school office as they had incident of child taking another childs meds out of their bag. Only acception is that teachers keep any emergency meds such as inhalers, epilepsy meds, epi pens etc in a draw in their desk

Not the full 10 days but certainly the worst ones.
One of mine use to get it really bad, no way would they have been in school.

Even if the school agreed to hand the meds back to your child, your CM is presumably aware he should have got his medicine back and asks him “Did you get the medicine back?” before they leave the premises? If not, they’re not very good at their job.

Well that's good then. Because he was off for the worst days. In my OP I said he was in hospital. He didn't climb out the hospital bed and roll into school.

And this is what this is about.

I know, that's not fair on him though really is it? Having allergies sucks, he already misses out a lot. I feel guilty that it will happen again.

Go to the shop on the way to school, Sainsburys/Tescos/M&S petrol stations are open at 7am.

And this isnt what this is about.
Sorry typo.

No CM should have picked it up. Schools are busy enough as it is.

Does the childminder even know your child is carrying medication in his bag ? For a nurse I'm surprised you cannot see the dangers of a child carrying medication around a school regardless of length of time.

YABU about the medicines.
YANBU about the food tasting.

In all schools I've worked in, parents/carers have to complete a form for medicines, and are expected to collect from the office at the end of the day. Children are NOT allowed to collect it. The CM presumeably had known about the medicine, she/he should have checked when she/he picked up your child.

The teacher knows your dc has food allergies. They would have known last week probably that they were food tasting tomorrow. School should provide every child with the means to do the activity, it's Valle daughter making reasonable adjustments.

A handy tip for all parents whose child is on prescribed meds. Decant the medicine into a sterile bottle, then put back enough in the original bottle for the doss needed in school. So for a 5 day course where one dose is needed at lunch time, put back 5 doses. That way, they keep the med in school and you have enough at home too.

You clearly have a lot on your hands op. It must be difficult for you and to top it up schools can be so unhelpful at times. Sometime unintentionally though, due to many regulations and too many activities. In our school we have to drop off medication and collect it from office. And even if your dc is 8 he is has been poorly and it's not fair to expect a child to be collecting medication. Can you ask the CM to collect the antibiotics? Be prepared to mention it to the teacher again too. I hope your dc feels better soon. Hang in there.

Ahh thank you, I appreciate that.