I'm pissed off with the school.

[TheNoiseHurts]

AIBU always say YABU!! When it comes to people being annoyed with schools.
I'm really cross so need to be told I'm being unreasonable so I stop being annoyed.

DS has a nasty throat infection, ended up in hospital and then 10 days or oral antibiotics 4 times a day.
I spoke to the head who said it he can hand it into the office and they will hand it back at the end of the day. He gets collected by a CM who has several other children so this worked.

They never handed it back to him. He missed several doses because of this.

They called me to say it's still at the office again today (it's 5pm by this point) they said they are busy (fair enough) and that he should be coming to get it.
That wasn't the discussion when I handed it in, they said they would give it to him.
It's the end of the course today so a bit late t tell me they changed their mind and expected him to collect - that never would have worked he never would have remembered (he's 8, I know some kids would be great at this but DS wouldn't).

He has multiple allergies.

His teacher just called at 17.28 to tell me they have a food tasting thing tomorrow and could I bring in a 'variety of foods' to match their ones so he's safe.

I'm doing dinner, getting the baby to bed, then tomorrow im up and out by 7.30, DH not home until tomorrow night so when do I do this?!

There was NO notice of this in any bloody news letter now way for me to prepare. And if I don't get this done he will feel excluded.

FFS.

Yes I'm being unreasonable they have a trillion kids and can't accommodate mine with his illness and allergies. I'm still angry though.

You say it takes no more time or effort to do things properly. It's true in a ideal world that everything goes according to plan. But it won't work like that in real life.
People makes mistakes. Things won't go according to plan. Parents turn up to the office without appointment after school. They get busy. It's all unexpected.
So, people were saying, that it was most easiest for OP to tell CM to check if he collected meds or go get it herself. Everything else is ideal, but not reasonable in the real life. Don't you agree?

@TheNoiseHurts Maybe instead of attacking the wine at 18:28 & being on Mumsnet you could’ve ‘popped’ to the shop and got the food you needed for the morning. Save the martyrdom for another scenario. I’m sure there’ll be another drama right around the corner...

Of course things don't always go to plan and people make mistakes. The point is that if you have proper procedures and /or systems in place then there is less likelihood of errors. The school themselves must have been aware of the likelihood of unannounced parents etc before they said that they would return the medicine to the child. So, once again yes mistakes were made but these were mostly avoidable. Sound like there is more than one member of staff in the office. All you need is a checklist for someone to check the fridge 15 minutes before the end of the school day (or just before any likely unforeseen events happen) to make sure that medicines are returned.

OP was following the system that the school themselves suggested. I'm a control freak so I would have had my own checks in place as well which probably would have been a good idea in this case, however a lot of posters weren't necessarily just saying that it might have been a good idea to have other things in place, they were saying that she was wrong, had misinterpreted what the school said, was making school staff run around "hunting down" her child and other ridiculous stuff. Some posters were helpful.

It is reasonable to assume that when a professional member of staff e.g. a headmistress of a school tells you something will happen, then it should happen. It's also reasonable to assume that when a mistake is made, procedures are put in place to make sure it doesn't happen again. The staff and headmistress could have said to OP, that on reflection it doesn't work for them to return the medicine to her son so she should make a different arrangement but they didn't and also didn't ensure that their mistake wasn't repeated.

Haha, I am a control freak too, Wax. So, I always plan everything according to worst case scenario. So maybe my view is totally skewed.
But even I make mistakes sometimes, worst one was forgetting appointment at the hospital, which I never normally do. So, I don't trust/blame people to be/not to be perfect.
But I get your point.

It's a curse Stormy. . I wouldn't personally rely on the school in this scenario ( as I seldom rely on anyone else to do what they should) but OP should have been able to.

My DS2 has dyspraxia that leads him to struggle to organise himself or his things resulting in last minute panics and lost stuff. he has some coping mechanisms but still at 18 he ends up in all sorts of avoidable scrapes, so I do get it.

I'm mostly enjoying the relief of him being away at Uni as I can't worry about what he has missed or lost 24 hours a day but he does arrive home in a whirlwind of self induced chaos and I do have to rely on Amazon prime to bale him out from time to time. I love him with every fabric of my being but honestly we aren't a good match...:o

Dh was smashing up an old sofa to take to the dump today and we found his ipod that "lost" within weeks of receiving it in 2012. That's the tip of the iceberg. He has lost everything including the laces from his shoes, the glasses from his face and the numbers from his calculator.

Well Wax, my dc has traits of adhd/asd and also struggles with organization skills. So, it's difficult for me not to be a control freak. I think I will be the same for years, even though I really don't want to be, tbh.

At work I tend to live by the oft quoted phrase that your failure to plan does not constitute an emergency on my part. Unless of course the consequences would adversely affect an innocent party. But I'm too much of a soft sack when it comes to being tough on DS - but I do try and he is getting better ignores the fact that he's lost his wallet, his headphones, yet another pair of glasses and broken a phone, a laptop and a guitar since September (and those are just the things I know about)