Partner getting food

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Am I overreacting being upset that whenever my OH goes to make food in the kitchen he never asks if I want something, he just makes himself about 8 slices of toast, a sandwich and god knows what else and doesn't even bother to ask if I'm hungry or want a drink.
The other day he ate an entire pack of bagels in one go claiming they'd go off if he didn't, well we have a toddler to feed and I could have eaten one too. He didn't need to eat 5 to himself. Plus they could've been frozen.
I actually ask him if he wants something when I make food.
Tonight around the time we'd normally have dinner cooking he went into the kitchen and spent a good 45 minutes in there to then come out having just eaten almost a whole loaf of bread and making himself noodles. Did he make any food for everyone else? No.
He took so long I thought he was making dinner, but by the time he'd finished it was too late for me to cook a meal. Luckily I'd already fed our toddler, so she didn't go hungry.
I just think it's the polite thing to do if you're already making food, it's no harder to make one extra portion of it.
I feel like I'm not even an after thought 🙄

Vegemite is greasy disgusting and fucking vile.

Marmite is heaven on toast.

Fact.
THE END.

Does either one merit eight slices of toast?!

My DH is the same but it doesn't bother me at all. We've been together almost 20 years and I think it's important to let one another just be...to allow one another to just do what you want a bit.

We eat main meals together of course...cooked by either one of us...but to be frank I don't want to ask him every single time I make myself a coffee or a sandwich if HE wants one.

He can make his own...and so can I.

Eating too much of what's in the cupboard is a different matter though.

Yuk! How awful is he!
Please make wonderful meals for many weeks and enjoy them alone or with your child. Fuck him the selfish tit!

Wow that’s a lot of bread. Maybe it’s a good idea he doesn’t split it with you.

I would be huge eating all that as a snack.

Leaving the table.....have you indulged in a few light ales..?

Gross. Bagels aren't even nice enough to want to eat 5?! Who the fuck eats a loaf of bread? What is he the fucking BFG?

Stop making him food at all and tell him how selfish he is. He's obviously never considered that his own child also eats?!

That is utter gluttony.

@samtsirch it's just banter.

And no, I'm on the meths tonight.🥂

Leaving the table
Ahh, a night off, sorry I didn’t realise 😂😂😂

Bagels are so dense. A single bagel is equivalent to about 4-5 slices of bread, so if he’s inhaling 5 bagels, that’s 25 slices of bread.

Are his insides glued together?

Sounds like an eating disorder. He wants to eat huge amounts, on his own, with you not around, almost in secret. That's why he doesn't offer you any of the food.

My thoughts too. If somebody has such a bingeing disorder that they'll eat eight slices of bread in one go - for a SNACK and not even a meal - then as well as drawing attention to what they're doing (and the clear shaming visual of you having two slices and them having four times as much) there's probably also the irrational psychological fear that, if you say yes and have a slice or two of the available loaf, you represent a threat to his ability to gorge quite as much.

No different from children resenting being told to offer their sweets around, because regardless of how many they have to start with, that obviously opens up the real possibility of their ending up with fewer for themselves. Having said that, though, small children have to rely on adults to buy them sweets and give them permission to eat them, so it's a lot more understandable when they do it.

You're an atrocious cunt if ever there was one.

I am going to have to take that one.

But not for what I said about vegemite.

Bagels are so dense. A single bagel is equivalent to about 4-5 slices of bread, so if he’s inhaling 5 bagels, that’s 25 slices of bread.

Umm, no. One bagel is equal to 2 slices of bread, unless you are eating slices of bread used to make hors d'oeuvres.

Perhaps this man is an ultra marathoner and needs the fuel or the OP is guilty of exaggeration. Either way, can't be bothered to answer the question or be bothered.

Although the dinner thing could be down to communication too.

Sure, I mean, it is entirely possible this man has no idea when dinner time is in that house. How likely is it they’ve had the same dinner time for as many years as they’ve been together. OP is clearly mistaken for not telling him it’s dinner time. Maybe she needs to communicate by shouting that his dinner is ready?

He's really selfish
How is he even eating that much?!

Do you usually eat dinner together? Who cooks?

How the hell does he eat that much food in one go? Is he overweight?

Also yanbu. Is he doing the shopping after he’s eaten? I imagine not.

That sounds like an eating disorder. And extreme selfishness.

That’s an odd amount of food he is eating, does he have a weight problem or eating disorder?

I’m not getting why if he was in the kitchen for forty five mins though you couldn’t pop in to see what he was doing or ask him if he was making dinner?

YANBU. But.. how do you get to the point where it's 'too late' to cook dinner without checking who is cooking and what you are eating?? Bizarre lack of communication there. You could have stuck your head in the kitchen and had a 30 second conversation about tea.

He does sound like a greedy bastard too though.

What are this man's bowel movements like?!
OP, please don't answer this^
...and we don't want a photo or a diagram either.

Why is he such a glutton? Is he very overweight?

This all sounds very weird