Partner getting food

[Lafoosa]

Am I overreacting being upset that whenever my OH goes to make food in the kitchen he never asks if I want something, he just makes himself about 8 slices of toast, a sandwich and god knows what else and doesn't even bother to ask if I'm hungry or want a drink.
The other day he ate an entire pack of bagels in one go claiming they'd go off if he didn't, well we have a toddler to feed and I could have eaten one too. He didn't need to eat 5 to himself. Plus they could've been frozen.
I actually ask him if he wants something when I make food.
Tonight around the time we'd normally have dinner cooking he went into the kitchen and spent a good 45 minutes in there to then come out having just eaten almost a whole loaf of bread and making himself noodles. Did he make any food for everyone else? No.
He took so long I thought he was making dinner, but by the time he'd finished it was too late for me to cook a meal. Luckily I'd already fed our toddler, so she didn't go hungry.
I just think it's the polite thing to do if you're already making food, it's no harder to make one extra portion of it.
I feel like I'm not even an after thought 🙄

Thank you Havelock, that's exactly what I meant

Greedy and selfish

Do you live with a horse by any chance?🤔

I have a DH that will eat a whole packet of something then when I moan he says well they weren’t very nice.

Tonight around the time we'd normally have dinner cooking he went into the kitchen and spent a good 45 minutes in there to then come out having just eaten almost a whole loaf of bread and making himself noodles

Not "just" 8 slices and tbh I think that 4 is excessive

There is no such thing as 'a snack'. It's called 'eating between meals' and it's the fastest way to diabetes, unless he's seven feet tall and works digging ditches.

The whole unable to bear the feeling of being even the least bit hungry and having to eat immediately, even if there's a meal on the way is incredibly unattractive. Is he unable to delay gratification in other ways too (for example, does he hate having to wrap or unwrap presents?)

The fact it is carbs he goes for - not just all that bread but noodles on top - suggests he's after the sugar hit ie carbs, esp white carbs, convert to a spike in blood sugar which can be very addictive. If he has an established addiction to this he won't be able to stop himself, regardless how unattractive, inconvenient or unattractive.

It has very little to do with willpower. The impulse is unbelievably powerful and he will very probably be helpless in the face of it. Sadly, it will be his no. 1 priority when he's in the zone, coming before you or even your daughter.

I think we've established it isn't attractive.

DH has bad acid reflux which can make him sick if he eats too much of the wrong things. A big trigger for him is too much butter. If your DH is putting a lot on his bread, I wonder if this is the cause of him being sick.

He needs to sort out his eating not just for himself but for his daughter. He also needs to stop being so selfish!