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To have not had a text from him yet?

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Thursday12 · 01/03/2020 18:40

So I’ve had two really good dates with this guy (i think they were good). After the first date, well even on it he was tipsy and saying he had a really good time and would like to see again. On his way home texting similar and the next day we arranged the second date for the following weekend.

Had the second date which i thought was really nice, spent about 6 hours together until late and kissed. He did wrap this date up as he said he was up early and it was early hours. Now he hasnt been in touch at all and this was on friday night.

Do people think that perhaps he’s not as keen? My friends seem to think its not a good sign and usually I’m relaxed about things like this but actually really liked him so it is bothering me which i know is a bit needy, so please give me impartial advice on whether to just forget about him and get some other dates liked up? Basically am i being unreasonable to have expected a text from him if he is keen?

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Hellohellohi · 02/03/2020 18:26

@Thursday12
That’s a shame . I’m not keen on a ghoster. Onwards and upwards though !

Postmanbear · 02/03/2020 18:26

Oh that sucks and is really rude of him!

sonjadog · 02/03/2020 18:29

Really rude of him. Onwards to new and better things!

Thursday12 · 02/03/2020 18:30

Exactly, if he can just ghost like that think I’ve dodged a bullet

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Hellohellohi · 02/03/2020 18:39

@thursday12
I always say I can take the rejecting but the ghosting is the worst.

GruciusMalfoy · 02/03/2020 18:49

My bet is that he'll text in a few days and has been "so busy, you wouldn't believe". At least you have done your bit now, he hasn't replied, and that's his loss, not yours.

I always say if I ever decide to date again, I wont put up with this sort of thing, it never ends up in any meaningful relationship.

Hellohellohi · 02/03/2020 19:09

@GruciusMalfoy
I agree. One guy texted me saying oh sorry I saw it and then went back to sleep . I just thought ... really ? He was full of those excuses ‘ so busy , busiest I’ve ever been etc’ and it went no where.

Thursday12 · 02/03/2020 19:11

Or he will send a message next time hes had a few drinks but he won’t be receiving any replies from me now

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TheyDoDoThat · 02/03/2020 19:20

Well done if you hadn’t text you would have got the sorry been soooo busy text and been inclined to believe it or go with it. You know now. Onwards and definitely upwards.

lostfrequencies · 02/03/2020 19:56

Definitely dodged a bullet, better to find out sooner than later. WineThanks

WalkingDeadTrainee · 02/03/2020 22:15

Good on you texting. At least you know now!

Sunshineand · 02/03/2020 22:37

Well done if you hadn’t text you would have got the sorry been soooo busy text and been inclined to believe it or go with it. You know now. Onwards and definitely upwards.

I agree with this, actually. And I'm usually a 'do not text him' girl .

TabbyCatPaws · 02/03/2020 22:44

Yeah he may well text in the coming days, having been 'busy' etc but if you really like someone you bang out a message, it doesn't take you days to do a ten second communication.

Good luck with the next one ive been single years and had no luck with dating either

Leighhalfpennysthigh · 02/03/2020 22:54

I’d love a thread of all the people who’ve done OLD recently, felt like a guy wasn’t into them, chased him with texts that he took ages to answer and then had a successful relation with him

Me!

I met my partner and then he disappeared off on a job elsewhere for a couple of weeks. We whatsapped but it was mainly one sided from me. He obviously wasn't freak out because we got together as soon as he got back and are now engaged.

I still message him more than he does me because he's dyslexic and autistic and sometimes doesn't get social niceties.

He calls me more than I call him.

Men are individuals and not some stereotype from a crap 1990's dating book.

WagtailRobin · 02/03/2020 23:58

@Thursday12 Maybe he has Corona Virus?

In seriousness though, send him a text and ask, there's no reason to be embarrassed because if he doesn't reply or replies but declines a further date, you won't see him again anyway and therefore won't need to feel embarrassed!

Ask him, it's better to know than wonder!

19lottie82 · 03/03/2020 00:39

If someone is into you, they don’t leave it 2 or 3 days to text, I’m sorry but they just don’t!

OP, as possible have said, you’ve dodged a bullet! Find someone who deserves you, it obviously wasn’t this guy Smile

Frownette · 03/03/2020 00:44

@WagtailRobin she's already sent a text and he didn't respond

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