Asked not to have sex.

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We're going to stay with friends for the night on Saturday. I've only met the my friends partner a couple of times, but she asked through her husband that my partner and I not have sex while staying at their house.

Isn't this weird?
Would you ask this of guests?

Surely no one has sex when they are guest for one night at a friends house?

very weird. Would never ask this

Do you have any idea what her objections are? 'Moral' reasons or is she worried about stains on the bedding? Thin walls?

I used to live with friends during and after university (Londoners) so I’ve heard noisy sex from a room next door, it can be unpleasant let’s be honest. Even the knocking of the bed is a giveaway when you’re trying to be quiet.

I’ve also attended house parties where people had sex in random places of the house, it can be disrespectful eg host’s little sibling’s bedroom.

So I’m wondering whether her partner has told her things about you two (eg noisy sex), or if the room your staying in belongs to someone else etc. Or are there children present?

If someone said that to me I’d be more tempted to stay in a hotel because there’s probably other things that she’d be overbearing about

Surely no one has sex when they are guest for one night at a friends house?

Why ever not?

That is such an odd comment.

Yes it's really odd to mention it.

I can picture lying in bed imagining them with a glass to the wall listening to check they were being obeyed, and inspecting the sheets in the morning.

Send a message back through the husband asking if it's just the sex that's out or would they object a quick wank before dinner.

That's weird and just knowing I wasn't allowed to do it would make me want to do it. Although, after that weird request I probably wouldn't go anyway.

Odd that she asked through her partner/husband. Not sure which he is as you refer to him as both.

I secretly hope they won't, but I wouldn't feel able to ask.

Go. Say you wouldn’t dream of having sex.

Then have sex.

she asked through her husband

She is your friend but you have only met him a couple of times, yet she gets HIM to ask you not to have sex?!

If it’s that important, why wouldn’t she ask you herself?????

I’d just reply well we weren’t planning to but now you’ve put the idea out there 😉

Is there some weird backstory where you admit you fucked on the sitting room carpet whilst they were peering round you trying to watch Ant and Dec on the telly?

You sick perverts - for watching Anton Dec - I mean (were they having sex on top of the tv?

I probably wouldn’t do it anyway, they might have thin walls and hear everything which is just awkward. It is strange to ask though, yes.

Double weird: firstly that she would ask, and secondly that he wouldn’t say “don’t be ridiculous, I’m not telling them that.” This is your response, though:
Send a message back through the husband asking if it's just the sex that's out or would they object a quick wank before dinner.
It’s the only sensible thing to do.

I'd go and shag on every surface of the room I was staying in 😂

She is your friend but you have only met him a couple of times, yet she gets HIM to ask you not to have sex?!

It might be the husband who is the friend.

I'd be good friends with her partner not her. Not at all religious, no kids, not married. I wasn't planning on having sex, but still.
Never stayed with them before so they haven't heard me.Going to have to jump on the bed and leave a bottle of lube behind aren't I?!

I want to know why, but it's too awkward to ask.

Pack your penis beaker.

Sorry meant partner not husband.

Sooooo weird. Was the husband uncomfortable relaying the message to you?

It's weird, I wouldn't ask it of guests however I also wouldn't be following the suggestions here telling you to blatantly ignore their request. Their house, they can ask anything they like, if you don't like it then stay somewhere else or don't go.

He asked you, even though you don't really know him?!

Are you sure she even knows he did that?!

Um, I'd be making a quick dodgy tummy can't make it sorry excuse for Saturday. That's beyond weird and I don't actually think I'd want to be around him. Really, REALLY inappropriate.

Have you stayed over before and had sex? If so maybe they heard you having sex and it made her feel uncomfortable? I had some mates who would have loud wailing sex when they stayed over and it made me cringe. I never mentioned it to them though lol, or asked them not to.

Sooooooo weird.