To have the biggest bedroom?!

[Anotheryearpasses]

It's just me and two DC. Youngest has been complaining about having a tiny room and I've been trying to work out how to change it. A huge chunk of his room is taken up by built in storage. Not sure I have the money to have it all pulled out just yet but maybe in a year or so.

It seems like an obvious solution that I should swap rooms with him.

I love my bedroom though and sometimes we are all in my bed. No idea how I'd fit in the small room but as he gets older it'll probably mean more to him to have a bigger room.

It's up to you 🤷🏽‍♀️

You're the adult, you pay for the house. You get whatever bedroom you want.
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I’d keep my room. I know it sounds mean but it’s probably good for him to understand you can’t always have what you want. I’d make his existing room as nice as possible but I wouldn’t be handing my room over.

I wouldn’t swap.

Keep your room, especially if they end up in your bed often. They don’t need a bigger room

I personally wouldn’t give up the master bedroom just because DC wants a bigger room. Why does he need a bigger room? How old is he?

Pack as much ‘stuff’ as possible into the by lifting storage and creAte extra space by using bunk beds with under bed desk/play area etc to create illusion of space. Do not give up your room - you are the paying adult!

I wouldn't change rooms op , I took the biggest room when myself and my kids moved into our new home. At age 30 I'd never had my own room so felt no guilt at all!

Surely with some clever storage and allowing him to keep some of his things in your living room/hallway etc you can make it work.

He is 6 and it's quite a small house in terms of space to play.

Yes a fancy cabin bed is an option for the future. (I've been searching on the internet to see if you can get adult cabin beds!!)

I voted YABU to swap bedrooms - not sure if that's how you meant the voting.

You're the adult, you get the big room.

Definitely keep your room if you want to. You could decorate his room, put up shelving and chAnge the bed to accommodate storage etc. I’d want him to be happy but wouldn’t be giving up the space.

No don't, he has to suck it up. You are the adult. DS had a small room.

Keep your room

We moved into the smallest room so that the two youngest children could have the bigger room, but they share. We let all of the kids use our room in the daytime, if they need some space or quiet. Perhaps that could work for you?

What about when his older sibling decides then that its not fair, they now want a bigger room too?

He is 6, he gets told no. Sometimes it's just tough and we can't all afford massive houses, he will cope.

Rotate the kids rooms every year. Keep yours, especially if you all end up in there sometimes.

Maybe I will just forget it for a while. I think I'm taking his grumbles a little too seriously.

No way. You’re the adult. You pay for the house. You get to choose the best room. Is this a thing nowadays that children have to have the best of everything regardless of anyone else’s needs?

If you're considering cabin beds then it's worth having a look on local Facebook selling groups, marketplace, Freecycle, etc. There have been loads on ours recently for free or a nominal amount and some have even offered free delivery locally just to get rid quickly. If there's nothing right now then also consider putting up a wanted ad. He's just are that age where I'm sure he'd really live sleeping up high and having space to play underneath!

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6 and you think you should let him make that decision? Be the parent.

It's always seemed unfair to me that children have vastly different sized rooms - one in a double room, one in a tiny boxroom. So i would do the swap. To children, their room is their world, whereas as an adult, everything in the house is arranged to my taste and convenience. I will relax or entertain myself in the living room, I don't have to rely on my bedroom.

That said, if the house had one big bedroom and two tiny ones, I'd be happy to give both kids a tiny one.

Don’t give up your room, In the years to come when your teenagers have all their friends round, taking over the living room you will need your bedroom to hide in, in fact I recommend buying a nice armchair for it if you don’t have one!
Buy a mid/high sleeper with good storage, arrange his room in the best way possible.

6 and you think you should let him make that decision? Be the parent.

He isn't making the decision? I am. I'm being a parent and considering my children's needs.

Thanks for the suggestions/tips.

How big is the other childs room ? Could they swap or share in some way .

Could they share a bedroom and turn one into a play room? I wouldn’t give up my own room.