Not AIBU but what 'adult' thing have you never done?

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What 'adult' thing have you never done?

I have reached the grand old age of 53 and have never booked a holiday abroad. I wouldn't even know where to start! and I fancy a holiday but don't know how to do it Holidays have always been in the UK, camping when the DC were young and caravanning for the last 12 years. My last foreign trip was when I was 19 and DM booked it. I just had to give her the money for it.

Wow Artemis, who pays your bills? If you have a good income don’t you think you should be sharing that with whoever pays the bills?

Is it the husbands putting the bins out?

😂 there’s some sheltered people on this thread.

I have only just learnt to put screen wash in my car.. also pencil pleat curtains still sitting folded up up, no clue also have never Measured and bought Blinds, Textiles were never my strong area of expertise.. 😄 never washed up Regularly by hand always used a dishwasher.. 😄 do these things count.. DIY as well.. shame on me..

I always put the bins out husband has done it a few times.. 😄

Hey, my thread is still going! Does that count as an adult thing too?

I have never lit a match or used a lighter (and I'm nearly 40)

If you have never taken the bins out how do they get out???

I'm still stumped at this one - how can anyone not have ever taken a bin out???

Never had a credit card.
Never travelled alone abroad. Have recently turned down a free holiday as my friend has moved to Madeira gulp need to pull up my big girl pants, have no clue at airports no sense of direction! been lots of times with others just never alone, would probably get on the wrong plane!

Had children.
Drunk tea or coffee.
Been interested in gardening.
Painted a wall magnolia.
Worried about 'dressing my age.'

Wow Artemis, who pays your bills? If you have a good income don’t you think you should be sharing that with whoever pays the bills?
My dad and my fiancé do. They both know I work, I'm not keeping the fact that I have an income a secret from them at all They are the ones that want to pay, so I let them.

Were you born in the 1950s Artemis? Do you have no sense of pride? I would understand if you were a SAHM but you are not as previous post says you have no kids. Why do you let males pay your bills?

Drank a cup of tea or coffee

brought a house.
learnt to drive
got married
Been on a girls night out
Been for coffee with a friend
owned high heels
Been to London as an adult.
Had a real job

@ArtemisOfOrtygia My dad and my fiancé do. They both know I work, I'm not keeping the fact that I have an income a secret from them at all grin They are the ones that want to pay, so I let them.

You are paying. Just not financially.

I can't imagine earning a 'good income' and then letting my parents and fiance pay all my bills. How selfish.

Fiance I get more actually because who knows, he might earn triple than you. But your dad? You let your dad pay your bills when you earn a decent wage?

Were you born in the 1950s Artemis? Do you have no sense of pride? I would understand if you were a SAHM but you are not as previous post says you have no kids. Why do you let males pay your bills?
What has year of birth and pride got to do with anything? We are all free to live our lives as we choose.

You are paying. Just not financially
What am I paying with?

I can't imagine earning a 'good income' and then letting my parents and fiance pay all my bills. How selfish
What's wrong with being selfish? If you are not taking advantage of someone or making people do things they don't want to do, what's wrong with looking out for yourself first?

Fiance I get more actually because who knows, he might earn triple than you. But your dad? You let your dad pay your bills when you earn a decent wage?
Yeah. I obviously wouldn't do it if my dad didn't have the means, but he does. So why not?

I honestly can't imagine my dad saying 'ill pay your bills for you' and me, an adult with a good income, actually letting him, whether he had money or not. Just because someone offers doesn't mean you should take them up on it.

So why not?

Because you're a grown woman and your dad shouldn't be there just to finance you for the rest of his life.

Don't you feel any shame that you are leeching off other people whilst keeping everything you earn to yourself?

I honestly could not do that without feeling guilty, I'm surprised that you don't.

You sound incredibly selfish. It's not a trait to be proud of.

@ScarlettBlaize, I read that last post of yours with an ominous sound track of chiming bells and double bass, as in this Vertigo clip at about 2:07. m.youtube.com/watch?v=bDwPJ5IaJ2g

I'd be absolutely mortified if my parents paid my bills

And yes, yes you absolutely are taking advantage.

This has made me sad. It seems I'm a fully fledged adult, I've done all these things!

changed a nappy (no kids of course)
worn ridiculous high heels
worried about colour of clothes
worried about going out without makeup
cut my hair short after 50

generally I make like a bloke, it is much easier.

but I agree, those who think it is feminine not to be able to manage basic finance (and those who drive but can't do basic car maintenance) need to give themselves a good slap.