my dd's teacher is OK in having an affair with one of the class parents

[tilbatilba]

We have been travelling for a few months and have just returned to our very quiet little town to discover the grade 4 teacher, Ms X, is having an affair with the mother of one of the children in the class.
It is now a very public affair. The female teacher wants to remain in her job. The mother of 4 that is in the relationship is OK about everything. The father of the 4 children is furious and legal action is pending.
What would you do? The child in the Gr 4 class is well aware of everything and the family is in a mess.
My dd is due to join this class very soon. The betrayal of trust is beyond belief. My dd has been at the school for 4 yrs and very happy.
The issue is ...my trust of the gr 4 teacher is shattered. The unions are suppporting her and she intends to stay....she is very cold and hard....I think I should be looking for a different school
xx

[LaCod]

i htink this is onyl anyones business as htis woman has SEIOUSLY mixed work and pleasure(!0 in a way you oculnt do in any job wiht such ramifications

[Hurlyburly]

Kerry - perhaps you haven't seen them in their dungarees? Shows them in a different light.

[contentiouscat]

Im sure if people dont know any lesbians then they probably think they do wear dungarees - so they possibly didnt realise cod was being humourous/provocative. Custy never any doubt when you are being provocative LOL

There probably are also people who think all gay men like Liza Minelli.

Someone said to me the other day "oh I wouldnt be too upset if my son turned out gay...they are always so good their Mums"

[ScottishMummy]

yes you are being unreasonable - the teachers actual teaching proficiencey/abilities are not in question. She is supported by her union - Good
so what specific trust has she shatterd - eh none- except your subjective opinion of the alleged affair. which is frankly towny tittle tattle

it only actually impacts upon the adults concerned and that is their private business that has unfortunately became town tittle -tattle

you know what teachers are human too and as such capeable of infodelities etc - just like everyone else

the dungarees comment made - o dear tiny minds big stereotypes

[LaCod]

lol at hurly
there must be a line up forthwith

( have oyu heard my sting dungaree story?)

[zippitippitoes]

i have worn dungares and been a teacher not both at the same time though

[LaCod]

lol at last a reaction to the diungarees comment!

[LaCod]

zippi keep it under your hat

[zippitippitoes]

i am having builder lust yet again..just to confirm my proclivities

[LaCod]

teachers are like that
coshtey have adoring kdis lal day they thinkt hey are gorgeous
you can awlays spot them on holiday
they always bellow at their kids as if addressing a class

[Hurlyburly]

You've had two reactions! Custardo and Scottish Mummy. He he he.

[LaCod]

[Hurlyburly]

Want to hear the Sting dungaree story.

Now there's a man who'd look nice in dungarees ...

[LaCod]

well he didnt
his kids used to goto a local state primary near here
acwquantance wa the teacher
dh come nad pickt hem up in dungarees and no t shirt

[zippitippitoes]

i had a tutor at art college (not incredibly long ago) who wore osh kosh denim dungarees and looked ridiculous like a giant toddler

[contentiouscat]

The thing with dungarees is they make even really thin people look fat...so why would anyone wear them!

SM - the affair (always assuming it exists) is also the business of the child and whatever the "grown ups" assume children are aware of these things (voice of experience here)

I cant say I ever worked anywhere where having a relationship with a co-worker was accceptable, im not saying it didnt happen but it was definately frowned upon.

[LaCod]

how do they piss?

[zippitippitoes]

is it squeeze who did the hairy chests in dugnarees

[zippitippitoes]

they have flies

[zippitippitoes]

nope it was dexys midnight runners..come on eileen

[contentiouscat]

See if you really wanted to provoke a response Cod you should have called the father who wanted to "do" you a Chav and said he wore gold jewellery & a shell suit - that seems to be fairly sensitive at the moment. He sounds lovely were you tempted?

[Hulababy]

LOL Elffriend - I had those red dungarees too

Seriously though. I mean a teacher should set a good example, shouldn't they? They shouldn't behaving an open affair with the parent of one of their pupils. That's just common sense and decency isn't it? A relationship is one thing (and still next exactly ideal if teaching that child if it can be helped) but an affair

You should see the list of professional conduct stuff I have to abide by, which I have to sign that I agree to. Loads of it covering relationships, financial matters, how I live me life, etc. I live the life of a saint me

[DrNortherner]

Persoanlly I think if she is a good teacher then she should stay. I wouldn't expecy to los emy job if I had a lesbian affair with the mother of a customer (?!!) which is highly unlikeley.

[contentiouscat]

Dexys - fake romany image BLEURGH. That song brings back hideous memories of dodgy village discos and being chatted up by older creepy married blokes