my dd's teacher is OK in having an affair with one of the class parents

[tilbatilba]

We have been travelling for a few months and have just returned to our very quiet little town to discover the grade 4 teacher, Ms X, is having an affair with the mother of one of the children in the class.
It is now a very public affair. The female teacher wants to remain in her job. The mother of 4 that is in the relationship is OK about everything. The father of the 4 children is furious and legal action is pending.
What would you do? The child in the Gr 4 class is well aware of everything and the family is in a mess.
My dd is due to join this class very soon. The betrayal of trust is beyond belief. My dd has been at the school for 4 yrs and very happy.
The issue is ...my trust of the gr 4 teacher is shattered. The unions are suppporting her and she intends to stay....she is very cold and hard....I think I should be looking for a different school
xx

I think you should see give things six months and see how everyone feels. Don't take your dd out of the class, and if possible, tell her to be extra friendly to the poor girl, her classmate, who is in the middle of this.

I do think there's a difference between a teacher having an affair (no business of any parent) and one who is having an affair with a parent whose child is actually in her class. Poor girl to have to cope with that every day. It is not that I think the teaching will be affected, but her emotional trauma could affect everyone in the class.

However, I'd give the teacher a chance to prove it can work. You don't know the full story and there's a chance that the children will come out of this better than you anticipate, given time and understanding.

So give it time, if things are still a mess in a few months, then think about moving your dd to another school.