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my dd's teacher is OK in having an affair with one of the class parents

251 replies

tilbatilba · 05/09/2007 09:39

We have been travelling for a few months and have just returned to our very quiet little town to discover the grade 4 teacher, Ms X, is having an affair with the mother of one of the children in the class.
It is now a very public affair. The female teacher wants to remain in her job. The mother of 4 that is in the relationship is OK about everything. The father of the 4 children is furious and legal action is pending.
What would you do? The child in the Gr 4 class is well aware of everything and the family is in a mess.
My dd is due to join this class very soon. The betrayal of trust is beyond belief. My dd has been at the school for 4 yrs and very happy.
The issue is ...my trust of the gr 4 teacher is shattered. The unions are suppporting her and she intends to stay....she is very cold and hard....I think I should be looking for a different school
xx

OP posts:
Hurlyburly · 05/09/2007 10:52

Trip trap, you think, Elf? The thought did cross my mind.

Tortington · 05/09/2007 10:53

@dungeree comment

fuckin huge no one else mentioned owt

Hurlyburly · 05/09/2007 10:55

Because it was Cod being provocative.

I did think there might have been a homophobic subtext in the OP though. Decided not to say anything.

LaCod · 05/09/2007 10:55

lol at LAST!!

LaCod · 05/09/2007 10:56

if we mentioned a liking ofr musical theatre wiht a gay bloke....

Elffriend · 05/09/2007 10:56

Well I'm new here so would not presume of course.... but does feel a bit under the brigde-ish to me

Elffriend · 05/09/2007 10:57

x-post.

fleacircus · 05/09/2007 10:57

I'm a teacher. I'm stupendously attractive.

LaCod · 05/09/2007 10:58

lol
i was a teacher
i was rahter odd lloking then when i lok back

contentiouscat · 05/09/2007 10:58

Well in theory if the parents were separated then really it is no one elses business.

But just putting myself in the position of the child if my female teacher had been having an affair with my Dad I would have been embarassed and uncomfortable with my mother then I would have been mortified that will impact on the child's eduction and is therefore a hideously unprofessional decision on the teacher's part.

There are plenty of careers she could have chosen where your personal affairs are irrelevant - I really dont think being a teacher is one of them.

As the OP is not one of the parties involved in the affair then I dont see why her child should be moved.

Hurlyburly · 05/09/2007 10:58

If you're female do you wear dungarees?

LaCod · 05/09/2007 10:58

kids used to tellme after parents evenignt hat their dad had said tothemt het that woudl" do me"

nice

LaCod · 05/09/2007 10:58

id not do dugarees gay or not
did any lesbians ever wear duinagrees?

heifer · 05/09/2007 11:00

the only women I ever saw in Dungarees were Bananaram....

fleacircus · 05/09/2007 11:00

Currently wearing those maternity trousers with the huge jersey band at the top; practically qualify as dungarees on fashion grounds.

Hurlyburly · 05/09/2007 11:00

"Do" in what sense, Cod?

Do as in shag? Or do as in do (time) for?

Were you shaggable or exasperating?

Tortington · 05/09/2007 11:01

wonder why i dont get ignored when i am being provocative.

the best looking teachers left last year ( i will miss you forever Mr macliver you hunk of a man)

wonder what awaits me at this years parents evening.

my kids first day back today - will be grilling them about fit teachers

Elffriend · 05/09/2007 11:01

I wore red dungarees once in a holiday job at Wimpys. I could pull up my socks my sticking my arms down the trouser legs!

heifer · 05/09/2007 11:02

far more chance of fit teachers at a secondary school.. (I have a long time to wait for that)...

LaCod · 05/09/2007 11:02

mr...mcLIVER?? lolol

morningpaper · 05/09/2007 11:02

well I would be annoyed that the teacher hadn't asked ME first

seriously though I expect it would have been the teacher's responsibility to tell her seniors that she was involved in such a relationship (isn't that usual in academic environments?) but other than that, it's just life

No idea what 'legal action' could possibly mean!

LilyLoo · 05/09/2007 11:02

I am that people think that teachers personal lives are any of their buisness.
I am not for one second condoning affairs or the hurt they cause to families however for people to consider removing their children from a school they are happy at or saying they don't want that teacher to teach their child is surely an infringement on the teachers own human rights ?
Teachers are entitled to live their lives out of school as they wish. Their profession doesn't make them answerable to all the parents of the pupils whom they teach surely

LaCod · 05/09/2007 11:02

do as in sexual relations
nice hting to say to your kid eh?

KerryMum · 05/09/2007 11:03

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Hurlyburly · 05/09/2007 11:04

MP it's a troll. Am certain now.

LOL at pulling up socks in Wimpy Dungarees.