my dd's teacher is OK in having an affair with one of the class parents

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We have been travelling for a few months and have just returned to our very quiet little town to discover the grade 4 teacher, Ms X, is having an affair with the mother of one of the children in the class.
It is now a very public affair. The female teacher wants to remain in her job. The mother of 4 that is in the relationship is OK about everything. The father of the 4 children is furious and legal action is pending.
What would you do? The child in the Gr 4 class is well aware of everything and the family is in a mess.
My dd is due to join this class very soon. The betrayal of trust is beyond belief. My dd has been at the school for 4 yrs and very happy.
The issue is ...my trust of the gr 4 teacher is shattered. The unions are suppporting her and she intends to stay....she is very cold and hard....I think I should be looking for a different school
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There is a HOT teacher at Ds's school. I saw him for the first time at the summer fete and almost fainted.

When I worked in schools I was amazed at the amount of affairs and general shagging that went on. Staff parties were the most debauched and alcohol fuelled that I ever went to!

However, all the (male) teachers at the senior school I worked at were all a bit rancid, crimplene slacks and beard dandruff, wild sprouting hair, you know the type. However, since I have left the school has been overtaken by young teachers, gorgeous, lovely men (boys), cue more fun parties and inter-deprtmental shagging and fun.

Wish I still worked there now!

Is she a good teacher? Is your child learning? Is she happy? If the answer to these questions is yes, then you haven't got anything to claim about.

Sure, it's messy and embarrassing and I'm sure everyone is enjoying a good gossip. But it's her business.

Their business. The two women and the father.

complain about.
My computer is swallowing words

are you having a larf!

How on earth can you blame the man!

I doubt he went and bragged about his wife shacking up with another women!..

FFS....

Poor dad! Assuming this is an affair (OP says that word) as opposed to just a relationship, he must be very hurt and very betrayed.

It's an uncomfortable - and not very professional - situation that could be handled with discretion and a minimum of fuss. But it will explode because of all the staffroom gossip and the gasbag mothers.

HOW did everyone find out?

Hmmm - one person in village finds out (sees them togher, one of the children says it, one of the parties involved tells them), they tell their mate, who then tells their mates, who all then tell theirs. Hmmm - small village? 24 hours later, everyone knows.

KerryMum - words fail me - I can't believe that you think it is his fault - just be bothered to respond....

CAN'T be bothered of course!

Oy you lot. It hasn't happened. It's never happened. Do not feed the troll.

Private and should have remained private. Whether it was a sensible or professional thing to start the affair in the first place is another matter. Difficult to deal with now undoubtedly but not a leaving matter I wouldn't have thought.

I do feel for the children of the woman, and the husband TBH.

hokey someone mentioned nurses - weeeell in my NHS observations plenty of medics and nurses and consultants all boffing and bed hopping etc - haha so what the professional code of ethics does not extend to non vulnerable adults who are not clients

but i do think don't shit where you eat if your matters amour are that ehm racy/scandalous best conducted where the whole hospital does not know

Oh, I do hope it's true. But I expect you're right.

a single female teacher at my childrens' old primary school got together with divorced dad of a girl in the school. They just ensured that the dd wasnt in the teachers class so as to avoid any unnecessary comments frorm other parents re: favouritism.

is the problem that she is gay and you didsnt all know or is it that she is seeing a parent? \will you let your dd go to the childs house for tea now knowing her mum is carrying on too?

Blimey, is this still going? It's not real y'know. Chill.

Are dungarees against a School's Code of Conduct?
I thnk DS's Reception teacher wore them occasionally. Quite loose baggy distressed denim ones, with a tight t shirt on underneath. She was immensely sexy.

since when do we have grade 4 in the UK?

pffffffffffffffftt!

I'm surprised the guy in this wasn't pleased in my experience most blokes would pay to have their parnter shagging a woman