To think that a 75th birthday is not cause for a massive celebration?

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DM will be turning 75 this year and has made it known that she wants a huge fuss made of her. She made no particular fuss of DF when he turned 75. It was just treated as a normal birthday.

I've always thought that the milestone birthdays are 18 and/or 21 and then 30, 40, 50 etc.

Just interested in whether others count 75 as a milestone.

Well I would count it as a milestone. Sounds like there is a backstory between you though?

Well it is really any excuse for a party. Maybe when you’re 74.5 you might change your mind.

At that age I would just be grateful I wasnt dead yet.

Much older and I'd be grateful if I was.

My mum turns 75 this year. We want to celebrate it as a big birthday. Three -quarters of a century definitely deserves it.

I don't see why not. It's more sad that the thing she wants isn't what her child wants for her, that she's misunderstanding how those closest to her would want to mark her 75th.

Yabu.

If I reach it, I reckon I’ll count it as a milestone.

TBF though OP, it is probably more 70th, 80th birthdays that get the all singing, all dancing treatment. Did she have a big do for her 70th?

I wouldn’t automatically presume 75 was a big one personally but I don’t think I’d question it if the birthday person wanted it to be one to make a fuss of.

75 is an age you’re probably acutely aware that you’ve a limited number of birthdays left and you won’t necessarily be healthy enough for a big blow out on your next 0 birthday.

I’d not overthink it and just go along with it for the ride.

Anyone who expects others to make a huge fuss over their sodding birthday past the age of about 25 is unreasonable, tedious and a bloody diva.

Of course it is. Much more so than 30!

18,21,40,50,60,65,70 and then in 5 year increments going up. Celebrate them all.

Neither of my parents made it to 75 so I will be having a mahoosive celebration if I get there.

We celebrated my Nan's 75th in quite a big way. She sadly passed away 3 years later and didn't make her next 'milestone' birthday so glad we did!

I don't see the problem myself.

Have they had a hard time recently? My mum has been very down since her DM died a few years back and 75 is an age where you don’t know how much longer they’ve got or when they’ll get some horrible health diagnosis so unless you’re being asked to pay, why not?

It’s three quarters of a century, worth a celebration I’d say. But then any excuse for a party as far as I’m concerned.

I imagine if I live that long I will enjoy 75 more than 80- live it up I say!

I don’t see why it can’t be cause for a big celebration. However, like someone else has pointed out, it sounds like there’s a backstory here.

I’d ask her why she made no fuss for DF’s she suggest she throws them a joint shin dig which you’ll be happy to attend

Cheeky AF to expect everyone to fuss over her when she didn't do the same for her husband. Nah. Couldn't be doing with that. Just do the usual, go for a meal, send a card and flowers, bake a cake. If she wants to arrange all this fuss I'd tell to crack on.

My dad died when he was 75. Wish we'd given him a good last party.

You’re wrong I think. Definitely worth celebrating 75th and it might be the last significant one.

YABU I think any reason - and none - to celebrate is good. Love a celebration.

You'll wish you made the fuss if she doesn't make 76

I guess it’s because she feels she may not live until her next milestone birthday but I tend to think people should arrange their own parties etc rather than demand a big fuss

A huge fuss and a milestone are very different things. If she wants a big party and fuss because she is 75 then why not?

JFC, no one should be guilted or shamed into being a performing monkey for someone else or they'll strop. She could live to be 100. It's neither here nor there if someone else's parent died when they were a gamete.

So is she arranging this celebration? Paying for it?