To think that a 75th birthday is not cause for a massive celebration?

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DM will be turning 75 this year and has made it known that she wants a huge fuss made of her. She made no particular fuss of DF when he turned 75. It was just treated as a normal birthday.

I've always thought that the milestone birthdays are 18 and/or 21 and then 30, 40, 50 etc.

Just interested in whether others count 75 as a milestone.

I think the issue is that at 75 you’re still up to partying usually but by 80 you might prefer not to dance all night. Let her have a party.

She will be THREE QUARTERS OF A CENTURY old - yes, a milestone!

My DM’s 70th birthday party had to be cancelled due to a family bereavement, none of us had the heart to celebrate due to the bereavement when 75 came round. I so wish that we had had that party. DM died the year she should have been 80 after a long illness. Celebrate your DM and her life whilst you have the opportunity and don’t think that there will be another milestone birthday, there may not.

Bloody hell, let her have the party! It is a mile stone,the next one she might be feeling too old to enjoy, hopefully not, but you don't know what's round the corner.

She has been making noises about us all going away for a couple of nights to a hotel that will cost min. £500 per night.

Quite the drip feed!

My mum never made 75. She didn't even make 50. I'd celebrate them all!

I think of 75 as a milestone. Of my 4 Grandparents 2 haven’t reached 75 (Grandad on side, Grandma on the other) none of my Grandads 4 siblings reached 75 either. None of dh’s Grandparents made it to 75. My Dad died at 61, Mil at 52. So to me it is an age there is no guarantee of making it to.

Regarding your Mum’s plan to mark the occasion £500pppn is a frigging rip off. You could hire a hall & get caterers in for around the same amount, if not less (depending where you’re based).

75 is usually considered a milestone birthday.

Anyone who expects others to make a huge fuss over their sodding birthday past the age of about 25 is unreasonable, tedious and a bloody diva

@EuroMillionsWinner

What an awful thing to say. Do people over the age of 25 cease to exist? Do they not have a right to celebrate their birthday? Are we supposed to be miserable old farts who aren’t allowed to have fun anymore? Well fuck that!

At 75 someone might not have many more birthdays left to celebrate, so yes make a massive fuss of them.

Every birthday is special but the older you get the more special they are (as they become more limited). Perhaps FIL didn't want a fuss so she didn't but she does.

Do they not have a right to celebrate their birthday? Are we supposed to be miserable old farts who aren’t allowed to have fun anymore? Well fuck that!

Re-read, expect others to make a huge fuss over them. Expect. That is not at all the same as organising a party for your birthday, or going out for a meal, or hiring a cottage for the weekend that you pay for and invite others to go to to celebrate. FFS, you have the right to do whatever you want for your birthday, but when you expect others to arrange a big fuss over it, spend massive amounts of money to celebrate it (as the OP's mother wants them to do) then you're cheeky AF.

A bit like winning in a tombola .... anythung that end in a 5 or a 0 is to be celebrated over 60 in our family.
All too soon our family are gone and no one is guaranteed the nect big 0... plus we like cake lol

You don’t like her?

Make a fuss of her , she may not have many years left. We make a fuss of my parents for every birthday now .

£500 for one night or for a few? Is that per person or family?

I think if the person at 75 still wants to celebrate their birthday then I would go along with it. I hope I make it to that age and still want a fuss. Expectations should be in line with what everyone can afford though.

Once you get old any birthday should be a big celebration! Thank GOD we celebrated my nans 88th and took her out nice cake etc as she passed away 3 days later 😓

Why wouldnt you for 75. Not to be dark but she may not have many more birthdays

If she's wanting a fuss give her a fuss
You get one mum
Mine didn't see 65 never mind 75
Enjoy every precious moment

I think you're being quite unreasonable, and quite ungenerous. 75 is a good age, and you can only hope you will reach it.

You wait till you're 75, and your daughter starts carping.

But then MN can be relied on to be ageist ...

£500 a night for the hotel? Where are you going, The Dorchester?

euro if the word ‘expect’ was changed to ‘hope’ would help? Would that help you want to do something for an older member of your family who ‘hoped’?

No not a special birthday. 70 is and 80 but not 75 or 85.

My mum died at 60 and my mil is about to die at 64. If you love your mum and this is what she wants and it’s not putting you out of pocket then go for it. Maybe your dad didn’t want a fuss made?