To want to be married?

[TinyCucumber]

Hi everyone.
When I met my other half he used to tell everybody I was “the kind of lady you put a ring on” and he was absolutely adamant he wanted to marry me.... but he never asked me. I used to tell him I want to get married etc, he would just say he does too.
About 5 years after we met we had a child. He still didn’t ask me. I told him again, but nothing.
He wanted another baby so I agreed, but when it didn’t happen I decided not to continue trying because I wanted to be married... still, he never asked. I told him I wanted to be married and he just keeps saying that he does too. I ask why he doesn’t ask me and he said he doesn’t know, he’s never found the opportunity (lol).

I said do you want me to ask you?! He said no, he will ask me.

Anyway, he still hasn’t asked me. Am I just to accept to never being married? I gave up my career and life to be a SAHM and (yes, stupidly) still haven’t been asked to be married!

I know this is my fault, we are happy together... but am I being unreasonable to be losing my mind about not being married? It’s embarrassing at this point.

Where I am a small and simple wedding ceremony at registry office (as does civil partnership one) works out a grand total of £127 pounds.

A civil partnership will be the same amount of arranging as a civil marriage ceremony.

Perhaps he's been reading Mumsnet?

@MarchDaffs But any mention of 'marriage' seems to be the issue here. Take that word away and it might go somewhere. Op needs legal protection.

I am not sure why being married is so important to you (I couldn't see it on the thread). We've been together 24 years and have 2 children and still aren't married, plus we see no reason to be. Weddings seem a huge amount of hassle unless it's just a legal one. However, we are both financially independent and I am a high wage earner so I never felt vulnerable. Personally whether married or not I'd want to be working and financial independent anyway.

OP is a SAHM of a DC with some health problems, and is financially dependent on her DP.

Not sure how old son is but 5yrs together then preg then ttc for another assume 7/8yrs +

Sadly if he wanted to marry you he would have asked

My friend is the same. Been with her partner now think almost 7yrs. Has 5yr toddler and baby and no ring

She said when 5yr was a baby she wanted to get married but the time she’s at school. Been at school a year now

But she carries on being with him. Having more kids with him

I don’t doubt he loves her but then why not get married

He says it’s money but tbh you can get married very cheaply - literally then and parents if need be

It’s The wedding bit after that costs not the marriage iyswim

@MarchDaffs But any mention of 'marriage' seems to be the issue here. Take that word away and it might go somewhere. Op needs legal protection.

Let's say for the sake of argument that you're right and it's the term marriage that's the problem, rather than him having figured out that OP taking on all the risk in their situation suits him very nicely. It's still a separate point to the one you were making, ie about the faff level of the arrangements.

Saw this & thought of you OP:

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-51676780