to really, REALLY regret changing my surname?

[BoldRoo]

I was quite young when I married and changed my surname without giving it much consideration. Now, ten years later, I really regret it, for a number of reasons.

1. No family links (I have no middle names either).
2. Our surname is awful. Thought I’d get used to it, never have. It’s got a rude word as part of it (think Cockshoot, Dickman type name).
3. I hate seeing it on documents and still hate writing it myself.
4. I’m worried our children will be teased at school for it (husband denies it has ever happened to him, I don’t believe him). They’re still too young to know their surnames so that doesn’t matter.

So, I’ve suggested to husband that I change surname, and that our children also change to be the same as mine, and that he can adopt our new surname as a middle name/double barrelled name with his original surname (he refuses to change it outright). He’s being moody about it but says I can. But he’ll definitely guilt trip me about it. So, am I being unreasonable to seriously consider doing this?

@74NewStreet Being “quite certain” what your neighbour’s, friend’s and entire community’s (!) reaction to anything is quite astounding in it’s complacency (and delusion).

Well, I couldn’t care less if anyone else wanted to change their surnames and neither would I gossip either but then as I’ve mentioned before, I have better things to worry about than judging others for doing something like this.

Questioning my complacency or being ‘astounded’ because I have an opinion is quite a odd judgement!

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Not “an” opinion, that opinion 😆

@*74NewStreet Not “an” opinion, that opinion 😆

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... I was referring to “an odd”

Yanbu. I went back to my maiden as soon as I got divorced. His is really generic whereas my maiden name is somewhat unique.