Is husband being unreasonable about baby's needles

[bigmamama]

Hi so me and my husband are currently at logger heads about taking our 6mo for his needles which is tomorrow.
So basically he has missed his needles as he was poorly when they were due at 3 months old, he was in hospital with bronchiolitis and it just kept getting put on the back burner as he had virus after virus and spent a bit of time in and out of hospital over the Xmas period and was sent for some tests to check all was ok. And it was. so now his needles are due tomorrow and my husband has said he doesn't want the baby to have them as he thinks it will set him back, make him poorly, he's too small, he thinks the government are just trying to scare monger people into having them done etc.
I want the baby to have his needles especially since our 3yo has had them done! I really don't want to take the baby to get them behind his back but he's not budging on this!

Just take him for his vaccinations. Sorry but the importance of making sure he is immunised trumps your husband's ill informed opinion. Don't do it behind his back just tell him yu are doing what is right for your baby

I’d get them done for sure, i wouldn’t do it behind his back I would say out straight that you are getting them as you are confident it’s the best decision for your baby. I know that people are entitled to their own opinions but having been refused a vaccination in pregnancy due to an allergy and having researched the effects something like whooping cough can have on young kids I don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t get them if they are suitable to!

I think the best thing to do is rearrange and make another appointment for maybe next week and make sure DH comes with me. I definitely want my baby to have them done. Just a case of when really.

ask any anti-vaxxer for their explanation regarding the eradication of smallpox. If they answer anything other than vaccines, slap them and walk away.

Yes, vaccinations hurt and the child will yell. Yes, there is a small risk of vaccine damage. Unless medically advised that this risk is greater than the risk of the disease concerned, vaccinate.

So what if he kicks off and refuses to go, will you delay them again to avoid upsetting him?
There is no possible compromise between yes and no. Just go and get them done asap.

For goodness sake the practice manager from
my GP surgery rang me to arrange an appointment for and I quote” my babies needles” .
My baby is unwell so special arrangements were needed.

@bigmamama

Ask your DH to read through this website
https://www.ifa.org.au/lightforriley
and then ask if he really wants to take that chance
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Don't cancel. Go and get it done.

Not getting my child vaccinated was not an option and not up for debate as far as I am concerned (luckily DH is in agreement on that issue). Why risk your child getting a horrible and preventable illness!? Stand your ground and go and get them done, with or without his consent.

I've never heard them called 'needles' before but every day is a school day and it was pretty obvious what the OP was talking about.

OP, I would try to reschedule the appointment for a time when your DH can make it. I would also speak to the surgery and explain that your DH has some concerns about the vaccines and could they schedule a longer appointment or a separate earlier appointment for him to be able to discuss his concerns with them.

Get your dc vaccinated. Stop calling it 'the needles'.

Don't you just love the way that, despite global media, language is still so regional in this country?

It's wonderful and such a shame so many people on MN can't cope with regional dialect

@damnthatanxiety RTFT and stop belittling the OP, who is using perfectly standard regional dialect.
Especially note the post where a medical professional used the term.

It's your responsibility to keep your own baby alive. DO it.

he thinks it will set him back, make him poorly, he's too small, he thinks the government are just trying to scare monger people into having them done etc.

Ask him in what way he thinks the government would benifit from lying to everyone.

Where in a UK regional dialect would 'Needles' fit in the context of the opening post?

Someone earlier mentioned South London; I'm from there and never heard of vaccinations being called 'needles'. It's stupid, a 'needle' could be anything and the way the word was used in the op was quite ridiculous.

If DH and I disagreed on this (which, fortunately we don't, because he's not an idiot) then I'd absolutely take DS behind his back to get his immunisations. They're non-negotiable as far as I'm concerned, mainly because I'd really quite like it if he made it to adulthood after all the trouble we've gone to keeping him alive so far

@bluerussian all over Merseyside for a start!

Ask your child's doctor and pay attention to their advice.

Children should be vaccinated against preventable diseases unless there's a known medical reason they can't be. But some illnesses are reason to postpone the vaccines.

@Bluerussian read my post!

Never heard 'needles' used for vaccinations before - down here they are either vaccinations or jabs. I thought the post was going to be about home injections, such as if the baby has diabetes and they have to inject and he doesn't like them!

He is being completely unreasonable - there is a reason vaccinations exist and you only have to look at how many cases or preventable diseases are coming back - there are lots of cases now of measles and mumps in particular. Your baby could be unfortunate and have a side effect or be unwell after, but how is he going to feel if your baby ends up serious ill or dead from something you could have tried to prevent.

The best thing would be to take your DH with you. If his concern is that your baby is too unwell then he can raise that and the doctor/nurse will decide. He can talk through any other concerns he has, but at the end of the day he needs to do what is best for your child and you will never forgive him if he stops the injections and your baby catches one of the diseases.

Get it done

Screen shot of my calendar, it’s perfectly normal @Bluerussian

I wouldn't go behind dh's back and have them done secretly. But I would put my foot down, tell him I was taking baby to have them done and then go and get them sorted

That would be my approach too. I never asked DH whether or not to get our three vaccinated when they were babies. It simply didn't occur to me to do that. He was always aware when the appointments were booked for and he didn't oppose it. I just took them anyway.

I suppose your DH's fear may stem from having seen your baby so ill in hospital, so I do have a certain amount of sympathy there and will not be name-calling. However, I would be saying very firmly that it is all the more reason to get the vaccines administered as soon as possible because the diseases they prevent are so often even worse than what you have just been through. If you are now being advised by doctors that it is safe to vaccinate then it is highly unlikely that they think it will set him back.

When I was a uni student in the mid-eighties I had a friend who got measles and it led to encephalitis. She was in hospital for quite a while, and although she did make a full recovery it was very nasty. She was very weak for several months afterwards and got behind in her studies because she had to go home for several weeks. In a baby or in someone with an otherwise compromised immune system what happened to her could so easily have been fatal. It could have been for my friend too, but she was lucky and recovered.