For contemplating leaving mumsnet?

[thewigglewalk]

In the wake of the death of Caroline Flack, I have realised that enough is enough and I need to reduce the levels of negativity in my life.

I don't want to be part of anything that contributes to the downfall of any individual's mental health.

Not a big thing, but I deleted my daily mail app (I shouldn't have been on there anyway as it a truly disgusting newspaper).

I am also reducing my social media presence.

I have noticed that despite how much we highlight the impact of trolling and words online, mumsnet has far too many posts etc that are bullying and negative.

I don't want to take away how supportive this place is, but for some this is a hub for them to bully and make other people feel small.

Am I over reacting to delete my mumsnet too?

Does anyone else feel the same?

[BlueEyedFloozy]

"She was fragile and had obviously got upset about her BF texting another girl"

Getting upset does not excuse domestic violence!

[NemophilistRebel]

Yawn

Don’t make a song and dance over it

[youwouldthink]

Have to say on the flip side of what you're saying the amount of support here can also be incredible
I've seen posts of genuine distress and people have held hands, offered advice, help, solutions. . Kept chatting to people in times of real need.
If it's not working for you then it's simple to stay away from it

[NemophilistRebel]

I agree @youwouldthink

[TruffleShuffles]

I’m getting really uncomfortable with the strong opinion that if you don’t want to be bullied or berated on the internet then don’t use it. It seems that it is just accepted that trolling and bullying takes place and that it’s the people who are effected by it that need to change what they do. Something serious needs to be done to address what is happening on the internet, people are taking their lives due to this abuse.

If your child was being bullied at school would you just say, oh well, don’t listen to them and that be the end of it?

[TruffleShuffles]

I think that is a good point @youwouldthink. I have seen some really positive things on mumsnet but it can’t excuse some of the really nasty things I’ve also seen. AIBU seems to be accepted as a free for all and that shouldn’t be the case, any time anything nasty is questioned you just get the response of ‘well you did post in AIBU’. You should be able to post where you want and not have to receive unjustified abuse.

[angell84]

I remember reading in this site last year"

Caroline Flack's eyes look like she has two pissholes in the snow.

Lets all be a bit kinder.

[puds11]

Flounces corner was started after a spate of threads like this. People got sick of the ‘woe is me, I’m leaving’ so a specific topic was set up so we could hide it and not have to read it

If you want to leave, leave. Why it’s only now you’ve noticed the horror of social media and not before is beyond me. Plenty of children have committed suicide over online abuse but apparently the world only notices when it’s a celebrity

[TeddyIsaHe]

I myself have been guilt of posting before I think. It absolutely shouldn’t have taken the suicide of a woman to make me stop and think, and I am very ashamed of myself.

Words matter, what may seem frivolous or off the cuff to someone, could be life or death for another. We could all do with remembering that.

[VenusTiger]

PPs are generally good at calling out bullies and trolls and I can shrug off any negativity - but we're all different, so if you don't like it, then yes, you should leave. Good luck OP - and do stay away from SM if it's effecting you.
I haven't watched the news in nearly a year (since last March) yay!

[Letsallscreamatthesistene]

I thought this a while ago, but just stayed away from AIBU as thats where the worst of it is. The pregnancy/parenting forums are very good for advice so i'd like to stick around on them.

I come back every now and again, but way less than I used too

[Butchyrestingface]

YANBU for leaving the site for any reason.

Caroline Flack's eyes look like (she has) two pissholes in the snow.

Clearly untrue in her case, but a good insult. It's going in the notebook.

[gamerwidow]

If you find being on mumsnet bad for your mental health then you should go and not give it a backward glance. I go through stages or deleting the app for a break because sometimes the spiteful nature of the place gets me down. There are some brilliant posters on here but it's a huge site and sometimes the negative voices seem the loudest.

[MashedSpud]

You have to do what’s best for you.

I think in some ways it’s good to develop a tough hide to certain things though, especially from anonymous online strangers.

[ChicChicChicChiclana]

"approx 16 million members on here"

You're having a laugh aren't you @Bluntness100?

I re-registered in 2018 my reg number is 882,387 (and of course my original registration is included in that number so I am in effect two members).

Are you saying more than 15 million people have become members since 2018? Or is it a joke?

[NoMoreDickheads]

I don't find the CF threads negative, I enjoy them in the spirit of 'Ooh, isn't it shocking!'

[UntamedWisteria]

Yeah, I've been here for donkeys years ...and a thread made me cry the other day.

I really contemplated leaving then.

[Growingboys]

Well said @blueeyedfloozy

[PinkPoutingLilies]

Lol.....you need to PST to say you’re leaving ??

Seriously, who cares ?
No one knows you.
I do it all the time, and come back the same day with a new name

I like to read the daily Mail...I don’t care if you don’t like it, I can read it for free, with adverts of course.

I bet you post chain letters on Facebook, starting “ only a few of my real friends will repost this “ crap

Goodness I’m sorry for being rude, but you are being bonkers.

[PinkPoutingLilies]

Post * not PST

[Growingboys]

Why did you post OP?

[EssentialHummus]

I think it’s helpful to always remember that there’s a real person behind the OP, sometimes in distress/conflict, reading what you are saying about them. Yes, they asked for your opinion, but that’s not fully exculpatory. I see a lot more people choosing to respond with both barrels, and it makes the overall tone more hostile. Facile but there you go.

[Letsallscreamatthesistene]

Its quite clear that the OP has posted to see what others think.

Its not a leaving announcement.

[Toria70]

Oh god enough already.

[TruffleShuffles]

But why be rude @PinkPoutingLilies? Why did you feel the need to spend a small amount of time being rude? Instead of actual discussing any of the points in the OP you just decided to tell her what sort of person she is in a mocking way.

That’s the whole point isn’t it? Mumsnet will become pointless if people just use it to post spiteful comments that have no point to the OP. I just can’t get my head around people just being rude to people for the sake of it.