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To think if you want your own snacks in the house you can buy them yourself?

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notyoursnackbitch · 17/02/2020 15:49

We have two very young DC. I plan and cook all meals, including doing the online food shop. I also work 4 days a week. DH works long hours from home 5 days a week.

He has just stormed out of the kitchen because he "never has any fucking food in this house" after I told him not to eat the snacks I was about to give DC.

AIBU to think at, approaching 40, he can buy his own fucking snacks if he wants them? Am I now everyone's personal snack bitch? And why would he think it's reasonable to eat food that's been bought for our 1 year old?!

OP posts:
CurbsideProphet · 17/02/2020 17:43

YANBU
Does he have any redeeming qualities to balance out whingeing like a child about snacks?

adaline · 17/02/2020 17:43

If you do the food shop, why would that not include snacks for your DH?

I mean, of course he can go and get his own but it makes sense for you to get enough to last a week or so as well.

BigFatLiar · 17/02/2020 17:44

The problem with buying lots of snacks at once is people just eat them because they're there. Buy a weeks worth and they'll just be eaten all the more quickly. If you do buy a weeks worth then you need to be 'the snack bitch' and ration them out. If he's eaten the crisps for he day let him make himself a sandwich or go buy himself more. He shouldn't be munching on the childrens.

Keanuismine · 17/02/2020 17:45

My DB has a special cupboard for DC food and he bollocked my DM for eating the 'wrong banana'. What a knob. This isn't a feminist issue in my view, it is a 'little emperor' issue. Food is food - why can't everyone eat the same meals and snacks and when they are gone they are gone? Special child food is bloody weird everywhere in the world except the US and UK.

woodchuck99 · 17/02/2020 17:48

YANBU. Even my father who barely lifts a finger for himself has always made sure he has snacks. Can't believe people are saying that you should pander to this. So what if you meal plan and generally buy food. That doesn't mean you have to buy snacks for him. He can either make sure that there are enough snacks in the shopping order to last or he can get off his arse and buy his own crisps or whatever he snacks on while he's out of the house like everybody else.

Cookiecrumble888 · 17/02/2020 17:49

Erm I do the food shop and I buy meals for all of us. Snacks for all of us. I make sure there's stuff we all like. You are a family so I think when you do your food shop you should be considering your husband aswel as the kids! What a strange set up. My partner would be pissed off too if I told him he couldn't have a snack when he was hungry. So would I for they matter.

We have yoghurts
Fruit
Chocolate
Crisps
Crackers
We all eat them and I replace them with the food shop weekly!

Ouchaheadinmybehind · 17/02/2020 17:50

I plan and cook all meals, including doing the online food shop

So why not just order him some snacks?

Blackandgreenteas · 17/02/2020 17:50

It’s the wanting to take them out of the mouths of the children, who the OP was just about to give them to, that’s so awful. And the swearing.

JRUIN · 17/02/2020 17:51

He is a selfish childish prick for tantruming over the last of the kid's snacks. YANBU.

sandybanana · 17/02/2020 17:53

Sorry but I don't see why there is not enough food for everyone.

Buy more food. It's really not difficult.

sandybanana · 17/02/2020 17:54

Cookiecrumble

Totally agree.

Kubo · 17/02/2020 17:54

Oh god OP, you really should have said in your OP that you buy whatever snacks he asks for when you do the online shop.

This thread is going to go the way of cancel the cheque, with everyone telling you off for not buying him snacks.

RTFT everyone!

justasking111 · 17/02/2020 17:55

Wondering what they are going to eat tomorrow if all the snacks have now run out Grin

Seriously this online shopping does not mean you never have to go out and top up stuff does it?

woodchuck99 · 17/02/2020 17:55

I mean, of course he can go and get his own but it makes sense for you to get enough to last a week or so as well.

And why should OP work out how much snacks he needs for a week or so. Why can't he either tell exactly what add to the order or just go to the shop and get his own. He could even do his own snack order. It sounds like he enough for the minimum order amount.

WaterOffADucksCrack · 17/02/2020 17:55

So why not just order him some snacks? she has and he's eaten them all! Which is apparently the OPs fault! And means he's entitled to eat the last one of the children's snacks.

EuroMillionsWinner · 17/02/2020 17:56

So why not just order him some snacks?

Sigh. RTFT. She does. He scoffs them all in record time. Fail to see why he can't make beans on toast or a cheese n pasta or a MugShot to snack on or go to the shops.

formerbabe · 17/02/2020 17:58

Yabu

You're a family, not a student house. Just buy enough stuff for everyone.

MrsStrangerThing · 17/02/2020 17:58

If he is a greedy guts hide a pack of biscuits somewhere for when you run out

I do this on the kids, I have to ration the crisps and biscuits or they would all be eaten in a few days Hmm
however I cannot imagine having to hide food from my husband Confused That really should not be necessary.

EuroMillionsWinner · 17/02/2020 17:58

Yeah, buy more junkie crap like biscuits and crisps. Since everyone has endless amounts of money and no one ever has to stick to a budget on MN. Hmm

JRUIN · 17/02/2020 17:59

Sorry but I don't see why there is not enough food for everyone.

Buy more food. It's really not difficult.

Exactly! OP take this posters advice and tell your DH to buy more food because it's really not difficult, not with the shop being just 2 minutes away and all.

formerbabe · 17/02/2020 18:01

Loads of snack food has a ridiculously long shelf life... crisps, biscuits, crackers, cakes etc so just buy a ton of them

woodchuck99 · 17/02/2020 18:03

Hilarious that posters think OP should buy more snacks for her DH because "it's not that difficult" but don't seem to get the fact that is not difficult for him to buy his own snacks or at least give an accurate amount when she asks him how much he would like when she's buying food. It's not OP's fault he underestimates how much he consumes. Some people really seem to baby their DH's and confuse them with children.

mummmy2017 · 17/02/2020 18:04

So manchild won't walk round the corner to shops, wants to steal from his children.

EmeraldShamrock · 17/02/2020 18:05

Who ever is doing the online shop needs to order more. If you don't want to do this transfer the online shop job to DH. There are plenty of crackers with spreads, soups etc with a long shelve left.
His reaction was over the top. I'm wondering if you police food in general causing him to overreact.

woodchuck99 · 17/02/2020 18:05

Loads of snack food has a ridiculously long shelf life... crisps, biscuits, crackers, cakes etc so just buy a ton of them

Maybe she isn't loaded and/or doesn't have loads of cupboard space.

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