To think if you want your own snacks in the house you can buy them yourself?

[notyoursnackbitch]

We have two very young DC. I plan and cook all meals, including doing the online food shop. I also work 4 days a week. DH works long hours from home 5 days a week.

He has just stormed out of the kitchen because he "never has any fucking food in this house" after I told him not to eat the snacks I was about to give DC.

AIBU to think at, approaching 40, he can buy his own fucking snacks if he wants them? Am I now everyone's personal snack bitch? And why would he think it's reasonable to eat food that's been bought for our 1 year old?!

If he's eaten aload of biscuits etc like a pig then it's his fault TBF and he should go to the shop himself to top up the snack cupboard. I have seen further down he had been greedy. I thought you didn't order him stuff because you didn't see that as your job. I Apologies

The storming out of the kitchen because "there is never any fucking food in this house" is what my 10 year old neice used to do, sans the "fucking". What she meant was there are no crisps, chocolates, biscuits for me to eat - there was plenty of proper food - she just didn't want that. So, your DH is behaving like a stroppy teenager, tell him to grow up and stop behaving like that in front of the real-life children in the house.

If he wants snacks after he has already scarfed all his own, then he can get off his lazy entitled arse and buy more. YANBU Op. He is a grown man surely he has learned how to walk to the shops and buy food on his own by now, without his mummy you doing it for him.

God, nothing is more of a turn off than a 40 yr old throwing a tantrum over food, good job you already have children, cos I can't imagine you ever wanting sex with him again when he behaves like that.

So you bought snacks, he ate them and kicked off because you didnt just go and buy more?

Is he 6?!

YABU and overreacting. You do the online shop, why should he have to get snacks separately?

If he’s running out before the next shop, just up the quantity next time. No big deal.

Hilarious that posters think OP should buy more snacks for her DH If OP's DH done the weekly online shop pp's would suggest he order more.

Loads of snack food has a ridiculously long shelf life... crisps, biscuits, crackers, cakes etc so just buy a ton of them

Or instead of OP having to find the money and storage space for this ton of junk food he could just go to the shop if he fancies a snack.

Or maybe he should stop filling his face with crap

For context, we have a cupboard with food in just for DC

Therein madness lies, surely food is food - if it’s there people eat it. I honestly couldn’t get too upset over this one, it’s my job to do the food shopping (don’t worry, I’m not a beaten down handmaiden - my DH more than pulls his weight, but food shopping is one of my jobs). Part of that means getting enough food for everyone, including snacks and treats, asking people what they might like and keeping cupboards and fridge topped up. My DH does other things - I like meal planning and knowing what food we have.

If he ate all the snacks you bought either you didn’t buy enough or he’s been a bit greedy, surely next time you’ll just buy a bit more if one of your tasks is food shopping?

Cookiecrumble888 exactly the same here!
I also do the food shop, mostly online, and we think it’s very important that everybody has enough healthy food and the snacks that they like.

DC are a little ‘weird’ cause they don’t like candy and crisps and such too much, but me and DH do like it very much. If for any reason my husband would do the foodshop and would not get me enough or tell me to get my own I would actually be hurt. I might be a snowflake foodwise though.
Come to think of it, we actually have food and snacks for DC friends and our lovely neighbor who comes over for dinner and a night of telly at least once a week.

What kind of food is only appropriate for the 1 year old?
Surely, it's food that's in the house.

But YANBU that if he eats most of it, then he can do some shopping as well. It's just that I wouldn't ban anyone from eating what they like.

Why can't you do the online shopping together?

Not enough info, when was the last time host snacks were purchased and what were the quantities? My grab would but a box of special k and go ahead bars and two weeks later when my grandfather was looking for a snack she'd make a huge fuss about how greedy he was and he'd eaten 6 go ahead bars in under a month etc.

We just have a Google shopping list, we can add to it from our phones or the Google spy in the kitchen. I generally do the shopping because I like to cook and it's easier to do both (and means I'm off bin and carry litter duty -also anything gross I don't want to deal with), but DH address of things run out or he fancies something in particular

Oh god OP, you really should have said in your OP that you buy whatever snacks he asks for when you do the online shop.

I don’t think that’ll make a difference. It’s AIBU. Anything past the first couple of lines of the OP is a bit of an ask.

God this place feels like it has been replaced with Stepford wives more and more.

If OP's DH done the weekly online shop pp's would suggest he order more.

They wouldn't if the DH asked how much she wanted and she underestimated what she would eat. They would tell her to stop underestimating or go to the shops or do another online order.

Mostly just boggling that everyone just accepts the need for all these "snacks", and heavily processed ones at that.
We have nuts in and crackers for cheese which DH might pick at (and I do ration the nuts as he'll happily eat a week's worth in 2 days so granted that's basically the same thing) but that's it. Even toddler DS doesn't snack. Just eat proper meals!

So you bought snacks, he ate them and kicked off because you didnt just go and buy more?

No, he kicked off because he was not allowed to eat a snack that was deemed appropriate only for children.

Unless the children had specifically asked for this snack and he was literally taking the food out of their mouths, it's perfectly reasonable to eat children's snacks.

I wouldn't bail him out of participating in the weekly shopping, though.

Mostly just boggling that everyone just accepts the need for all these "snacks", and heavily processed ones at that.

People aren't accepting "the need" for snacks. They are just accepting that some people like them and the thread isn't about whether or not people should eat them.

I do the weekly shop in our house. We use the 'Our Groceries' shopping list app, so if DH wants snacks he adds them to the list and I'll buy them (along with anything I want for myself, but I'm not much of a snacker.).

He regularly doesn't put snacks on the list, but if I remind him, he tells me that I shouldn't have to buy snacks for him - he's capable of buying them himself.

Likewise if he runs out in the week, he'll pop to the shop himself for something (we're about 5 minutes from the local supermarket), it's no biggie.

They would tell her to stop underestimating or go to the shops or do another online order True. 👍
Like pp's thinking there must be a bigger issue at play. He should not have acted like a toddler, tell him to add to the online list or do a convenience snack shop in the future.

To those saying "just buy more" I do a fortnightly grocery shop and ask dh what snacks he wants for his lunches and at home etc and buy enough to last a fortnight. It literally does not matter how many I buy or how often I buy them, he eats them all in 2 days. Just because they are there. Woe betide him if he attempts to eat mine or the dcs because we dont devour them all but actually ration them out (we're talking about eating multiple family packs of bars and biscuits, multipack crisps, packets of biscuits, whole bags of bananas and apples, cereal bars and yoghurts.... in 2 days, I'm not just being tight.)

@Rayna37 some of us like a biscuit or cake. Don't need to preach your diet onto others. My children eat 2 prices of fruit a day and plenty of veg, chicken, fish pasta and I make many fresh meals in the slow cooker.

They also have crisps and chocolate. Sometimes even a macdonalds once a month

They have smoothies squash water and milk too. Once a month they a milkshake with a happy meal.

Both my children are a healthy weight, height and have good teeth. They are active and swim and run about outside. My DD walks a mile with me to school.

Everything in moderation. It's better to let children have a taste of things otherwise they will just binge when they are older and can get their hands on it anyway.

YANBU
He's told you what snacks he wanted and you bought them. He ate them.

You got out the last two banana snacks and were about to give them to your toddlers and he got angry because he couldn't eat them.

How selfish of him, seriously. YANBU.

@Confuddledtown How do you make fresh food last on a fortnightly shop.

You could do with:

• some emergency snacks that never run out, because they're not the nicest snacks [maybe instant noodles, toast, microwaveable rice in a sauce] so that when you're hungry there's something to eat that's an alternative than going to the shops - not always easy to do (eg. evening, if sole adult for two young children who're in bed) or advisable (eg. in the heavy winds of Storm Ciara). Going food shopping when hungry is generally best avoided.

*Some flapjacks or other energy dense snacks for when you're hungry and need something ASAP. Your husband is a grown up who should have better control than to swear at you regardless, but being 'hangry' is a thing.

*Enough snacks bought with your main grocery shopping to be generally sufficient for how many you actually eat (rather than how many you maybe think you "should" be eating) so that you're not paying say corner shop prices rather than supermarket prices for most of your snacks.

*A sufficient variety of snacks to cater to everybody's tastes.

*A place for adult snacks (if there are snacks that aren't for the children) as well as a specific place for child friendly snacks. It should always be possible for both you and your husband to find food in your own kitchen and to know if something is a "designated for children" snack.

No, he kicked off because he was not allowed to eat a snack that was deemed appropriate only for children.

No, he kicked off because he wasn’t allow one (or both?) of the last two banana rolls which the OP was just about to put in front of her children.

If someone is so greedy they scoff all the snacks they asked for in the shop and want to move on to everyone else’s share, then it makes sense to have a cupboard of snacks just for the kids.