To think if you want your own snacks in the house you can buy them yourself?

[notyoursnackbitch]

We have two very young DC. I plan and cook all meals, including doing the online food shop. I also work 4 days a week. DH works long hours from home 5 days a week.

He has just stormed out of the kitchen because he "never has any fucking food in this house" after I told him not to eat the snacks I was about to give DC.

AIBU to think at, approaching 40, he can buy his own fucking snacks if he wants them? Am I now everyone's personal snack bitch? And why would he think it's reasonable to eat food that's been bought for our 1 year old?!

Can't offer much advice, because I am obviously a child .as I love soreen banana bread and cheese and onion Pom Bears

OP YANBU. If he wants something that has ran out, he goes and buys more, from the shop that is bloody 2 minutes away. Keeping him continually stocked with snacks is absolutely not your responsibility. He is being completely ridiculous. We have exactly the same set up as you but my husband is more than happy to grab something mid week if he notices we have run out, like bread, milk, coffee, biscuits etc. The main shop is my job because I meal plan and cook but that doesn't mean I have to have full responsibility for never running out of something. It is teamwork ffs.

If you do the online shopping and his snacks aren't lasting, he should really ask you to get more If he's anything like my partner he eats them all in a couple of days. And we don't have a magic money pot, our food budget is what it is.

And would people on this thread seriously shout, swear and storm off because they weren't allowed to take a toddlers food?!

Actually I can see the OP point. He behaves as if he is the most important person in the house. Who thinks about eating the snacks his dcs are going to eat? And then storms because there isn’t any snacks for him but can’t be bothered to walk to the corner shop.

Sometimes, you run out of things. In that case, if you really want some, you go and get it.
If this is a regular issue, YOU ask your DW to buy some more
You don’t expect to be waited on, somehow expecting your DW to replenish the stock during the week all by magic (as in she knows you’ve run out, she knows what you want and will magically have the time to do more shopping esp for you)

He might look like he is flying through the snacks if he is working at home, is he eating it as part of his lunch. Ask him to do the online shop he can use the last order, he needs to include work food separate and his usual snacks outside of it.
Do you buy lunch at work or prepare lunch each day. Maybe get him prepping for 2 in the evening.

The point here really isn’t whether enough snacks are being bought or not. Two adult people ought to be able to sort that out between themselves. The point is he thinks he’s entitled to go off in a sweary strop, presumably in front of the children, when he doesn’t get his own way. That’s not ok.

You don't have to be Sherlock Holmes to draw those conclusions from the OP.

Eh?
What a terrible attitude. We spend a fortune on food. I like to have a full freezer, cupboards and fridge.
Dh and I both shop. I buy meals and snacks for us all.

Ask him how much junk food he thinks is reasonable for the period of time between shopping deliveries. Tell him to go on the shopping app and add that amount on. That way you are absolving yourself of all responsibility and if he eats it all before you shop again, it’s his tough shit.

If he needs more snacks than what's getting ordered why can't he just pop out and get some. I don't understand why it's upto the op to make sure enough has been ordered online. An online shop doesn't mean he can't shop any other time does it?
Regardless of Whether he works from home or not, or who does the main shop there's nothing stopping him from doing some shopping of his own.
You are definitely not being unreasonable.

We always have a little bag of popcorn in the cupboard. One of those that you need to pop first. If we really want a snack and have nothing left (small village, shop closed, not bought enough because of diet etc.) we can still make the effort to make the popcorn and add salt or sugar if desired. It's really cheap too.

As you buy stuff for him during the big shop it isn't unreasonable for him to buy anything else he wants. Although being told no, he isn't allowed something is odd, I'd feel put out if it was me. Have you explained to him you find it annoying? Perhaps he thinks it would be rude to buy loads of snacks if you usually deal with the food, like you aren't capable of it. Maybe get him to do the shop.

Is an extra multi bag of crisps really going to break the budget? She even says he could go to the shop to buy them so money clearly isn’t the issue.

I wouldn’t appreciate being told what I could and couldn’t eat in my own house. If the op is doing the online shop as her thing, she needs to order enough for everyone. I hope he’s doing his fair share in other ways.

I think probably the answer is to communicate a bit more effectively around food shopping. Crisps and biscuits go on the food order, but its clearly not enough, so either just increase these or ask him what else he wants.

He’s was absolutely ridiculous to storm off because of a snack. I’d have told him to piss off and grow up. What did he expect the children to eat if he ate their snacks? I expect that was your problem to solve. 🙄

My dad used to behave like that. We were not very rich growing up but my mum would make sure we had sweets or chocolate a few times each week. He knew that there was only enough for us but would have a strop when my mum said he couldn’t have it as it was for the kids. He was a twat about lots of other things as well.

I kind of get your point op. When I'm doing the shopping I ask him DH what he wants for his lunches and he normally says I don't need anything and then eats the yogurts / rolls / crackers etc I've planned for the kids' lunches.

It is insanely boring planning what everyone is going to eat, if he can't give me detail he can go to the shop and buy it himself.

Just to say it's nit a money issue in my case but a him can't be arsed to think about it issue.

I don’t get it. The weekly shop is (for whatever reason) your job. The stuff you’re buying isn’t lasting. Your solution is for him to go out as an extra job and do an extra shopping trip? Why not just buy more when you do the online order?

Is these one of these drip feeds to tell us latter that he's lazy and obese?

You don't have to be Sherlock Holmes to draw those conclusions from the OP Really? How do you know OP's DH is lazy and fat. Do you know how many snacks OP buys? Is it only crisp and chocolate, are there healthy snacks? Fruit, cereal bars, yogurt, bananas, soups, smoothies, lots of snacks not are shit food,

You re both being equally ridiculous. You because if you know he is likely to want more food you could include it in the delivery . Him because he is perfectly capable of adding things himself or walking to the shop. It sounds as if you are both looking to find fault in each other and have something to argue about.

Your DC are very young and impressionable. You are showing them what a marriage is like. Is that how you want their future relationships to be?

Given I am the one who does the food shopping in this house, I would expect to buy the snacks too. I expect DH to add whatever he wants to the list.

YANBU. He's a grown man. You're not his housekeeper.
We both work, I do the main shopping but DH tops up whenever and whatever. If I buy him snacks, it's because I'm thinking of him or he's asked me. It's not my fricking job. Planning the main meals and feeding the kids yes. His snacks? Frick no.

Look, life's too short and this really isn't worth getting worked up over. Designate a plastic bag chucked in the cupboard under the stairs some space in the kitchen as a Mansnax cupboard. Order shitloads of snacks on your next weekly shop. Sling them in the cupboard. Job done.