To think if you want your own snacks in the house you can buy them yourself?

[notyoursnackbitch]

We have two very young DC. I plan and cook all meals, including doing the online food shop. I also work 4 days a week. DH works long hours from home 5 days a week.

He has just stormed out of the kitchen because he "never has any fucking food in this house" after I told him not to eat the snacks I was about to give DC.

AIBU to think at, approaching 40, he can buy his own fucking snacks if he wants them? Am I now everyone's personal snack bitch? And why would he think it's reasonable to eat food that's been bought for our 1 year old?!

So he eats all the snacks op bought for him. Then has a huge sweary tantrum when op won't let him eat the last two she has got out the cupboard for their small children

And people think that's acceptable? Just buy him more?

Fuck that, if my dh acted like that hed be buying all his own snacks in future

YANBU

I argued with DP a few years ago about a similar thing. We have a tin that the packed lunch snacks are kept in. I stock it with 15 items a week (3 kids x 5 days) but would sometimes be making the lunches at 8am and realise we’d nothing left because DP had “fancied something with his cuppa” and hadn’t considered the kids.

Petty bickering followed. Then we agreed if he wanted to help himself, he had to restock it before morning, buy his own snacks OR tell me what he fancied for the week ahead when I was doing the online shop.

Sometimes certain foods are specifically for family members.

Sounds like however many snacks OP bought, he'd still eat them all and want more.

Haven’t read the whole thread, but my attitude to this would depend on how many snack foods had been eaten in the last few days, how much we were spending on them, what I had left for the kids and so on. Can’t see why he shouldn’t usually be able to eat what he wants.

The whole thread explains why. He's already eaten all of his, doesn't tell OP he's run out, he refuses to go to the shop two minutes away to buy his own. He had a sweary tantrum when OP said the remaining snacks were for the children. And STILL refused to go to the shop. He works from home, OP works full time. That's why most of the thread is saying he's out of order.

OP just buy more snacks, it's not hard!!!!

I jest, I've actually read the whole thread. YANBU, a thousand times YANBU!

He's lucky, we dont even have snacks lol theres a fruit bowl and kids tiny yogurts for the kids but we don't snack.
And if want a treat like a chocolate bar we have to walk or cycle to the shop to get it

He is an adult so why can't he do the meal plan and online shop for his family. If he can't / won't / doesn't do it then he has no right to complain to you OP.

YANBU, and I’m surprised to see some responses on here from posters I normally respect for their common sense and non-stepfordism (ok, I know that’s not a word)

He swears and has a tantrum because he’s eaten all the snacks and CBA to either A) make something quick with the ingredients in the house or B) walk 2 minutes to the shop to buy what he fancies or C) accept that he can’t take one of the only snacks his fussy child will eat when they’re hungry.

So he’s basically a toddler? Ick.

And that’s leaving all other issues aside.

YANBU.

Although I might be slightly influenced by the fact we’re broke, and DH has yet again ignored my meal plan to make the minimum stretch as far as it can, and cooked enough for 4 portions for one meal for himself.

He insists it will be fine. How he’s not in the freezer yet I will never know.

He must be desperate if he's prepared to eat Pombears

Agreed. I personally think they are too cute to eat