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To think if you want your own snacks in the house you can buy them yourself?

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notyoursnackbitch · 17/02/2020 15:49

We have two very young DC. I plan and cook all meals, including doing the online food shop. I also work 4 days a week. DH works long hours from home 5 days a week.

He has just stormed out of the kitchen because he "never has any fucking food in this house" after I told him not to eat the snacks I was about to give DC.

AIBU to think at, approaching 40, he can buy his own fucking snacks if he wants them? Am I now everyone's personal snack bitch? And why would he think it's reasonable to eat food that's been bought for our 1 year old?!

OP posts:
Rachel1874 · 18/02/2020 19:04

I can see where your coming from as we all have separate snacks and if mine picked up DS snacks I would be like what are you doing. However whilst doing the online food shop or top up shops I do buy him his own snacks. Then it's his problem if he eats them all too quickly. I'm sure you could add some snacks for him onto the food shopping.

Confuddledtown · 18/02/2020 19:10

@Rachel1874 have you rtft? That's exactly what happened... she bought him his own snacks, he ate all his, threw a tantrum because she stopped him eating the last remaining snacks for the kids and he didn't see it as his problem to replace the snacks he had already eaten

ferrier · 18/02/2020 19:14

That's why I have a lockable cupboard. No-one, man or child, gets access Grin

MerryDeath · 18/02/2020 19:16

well he shouldn't speak to you like that. ever. as for the snacks we have a list in the kitchen, he puts things on the list and i invariably do the shop and get them. if he hasn't put it on the list (often just asks) it's hit and miss! but it's no bother to pick it up with the shopping and all our cash is pooled.

DishingOutDone · 18/02/2020 19:17

@Harvestsquirrel1 tell us more! This is amazing.

I think you've solved the entire thread. So let me see if I've understood - you'd see what your man wanted and then .... you'd order it?! WOW. Why didn't the OP think of that?!

Oh, hang on ....

FemiLANGul · 18/02/2020 19:29

Fucking hell.

How is the OP ordering more snacks next time going to solve the big fucking manbaby throwing a tantrum now because hes already eaten his way through what was bought for him before.

Is the OP supposed to immediately drop what shes doing and go out and get the precious penis more snacks?

Why cant he act like a grown up and either not scoff all the snacks like a 10 year old at a pick mix or go to the shop himself when hes finished eating what was available.

CountryGirl1234 · 18/02/2020 19:31

Haha this post is a little silly. Order him more or he /you can pick them up when your next out or passing surely? Big deal it is not!

Harvestsquirrel1 · 18/02/2020 19:40

You sound snarky. Did someone not buy you your preferred snack?

MarrymeTomHardy · 18/02/2020 19:42

With you OP - similar showdowns in my house, I request input to the shopping every week & buy things specifically for DC which he is welcome to have 1 or 2 of, but when you get up and he has eaten all of the DCs snacks as a midnight feast leaving them none, it is very frustrating! & there is always food in the house x

VeeJayBee · 18/02/2020 19:44

@notyoursnackbitch
😂 Not everyone’s personal snack bitch made me lol. I’m with you, get it yourself! Sounds like he is stressed about something else and snapped? Unless he normally snaps at this kind of thing? He’s being a child!

jenbat80 · 18/02/2020 19:50

Snack bitch 😂 love it 😂

phoenixrosehere · 18/02/2020 19:51

Haha this post is a little silly. Order him more or he /you can pick them up when your next out or passing surely? Big deal it is not!

Says the person who couldn’t be bothered to rtft!

Not exactly difficult, especially if you read only OP’s responses.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 18/02/2020 19:57

Jesus Christ, the reading comprehension skills of some on here makes me hope someone else is responsible for helping their DC with their English Lit homework.

Passthegin99 · 18/02/2020 20:00

Unbelievable number of people thinking this is the OP's fault. No, OP, you are not his snack bitch! And yes he can definitely go to the bloody shop. Sounds like he is pissed off about being below the kids. That's how my father would have behaved but my mother was a SAHM til I was 16! V different.

DoreenSamuel · 18/02/2020 20:07

This is so petty op, I buy my husband his snacks as well as the children - you need to buy more snacks and treat your husband with a bit more respect

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 18/02/2020 20:10
Blah1881 · 18/02/2020 20:12

No. It is not OK for him to come storming in and swear at his partner because she won’t let him have the snacks she is preparing for the children. I am disturbed that so many posters here think the answer is to ‘simply buy more snacks’ so he doesn’t get angry. Like the OP should anticipate his every need and if she doesn’t it’s her fault and she should be shouted at? So scary that so many posters think it’s ok for her partner to talk to her like that, when she has 2 small kids she’s trying to cater to as well! Why didn’t he say ‘oh I’m such a greedy sod I’ve already eaten all the junk, Could you bung me a few extra bags of crisps on the order for me next time?’ Or similar. Or indeed just nip out to the shop, perhaps asking OP if there’s anything SHE would like. These are the normal interactions, surely? Not the aggressive sweary demands?

phoenixrosehere · 18/02/2020 20:16

This is so petty op, I buy my husband his snacks as well as the children - you need to buy more snacks and treat your husband with a bit more respect

Look.. another person who couldn’t rtft. 🙄

This is beyond sad now.

WelcomeToShootingStars · 18/02/2020 20:20

If you do the shopping then just put his snacks on the order. It really doesn't have to be a drama.

Unless it's really about something else which is being projected via the snacks?

MamaSharkDooDooDooDooDooDooo · 18/02/2020 20:22

I side with you, OP. When I do the shopping my DH gets really stroppy and tells me not to buy any snacks 'as he will get fat'. Fine. No problem. So I don't buy him any. Then he will go and eat the snacks I buy the children then gets annoyed when I say they're not for him. And has a massive go at me about how he should be able to eat anything in 'his house'. Yep, fair enough...then the food shop day rolls around again and so I buy biscuits and crisps specifically for him. Then he will eat them all in one sitting and have a go at me for buying them. I just hide the children's snacks now, I cba with the weekly drama.

Thecurtainsofdestiny · 18/02/2020 20:26

Yanbu.

(Although I disagree that banana soreen is only for children).

SleightOfMind · 18/02/2020 20:28

I do the online shop and most of the cooking.
Little DC, teens and DH check with me before scoffing things.
It’s just polite.

greeneyedlulu · 18/02/2020 20:35

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Grandmi · 18/02/2020 20:39

Crikey...my husband just goes out and gets his own favourite snacks if nothing in the cupboard...it’s called being a grown up 🙄

FemiLANGul · 18/02/2020 20:44

If you do the shopping then just put his snacks on the order. It really doesn't have to be a drama

Yeah. You're just taking the piss now

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