To think if you want your own snacks in the house you can buy them yourself?

[notyoursnackbitch]

We have two very young DC. I plan and cook all meals, including doing the online food shop. I also work 4 days a week. DH works long hours from home 5 days a week.

He has just stormed out of the kitchen because he "never has any fucking food in this house" after I told him not to eat the snacks I was about to give DC.

AIBU to think at, approaching 40, he can buy his own fucking snacks if he wants them? Am I now everyone's personal snack bitch? And why would he think it's reasonable to eat food that's been bought for our 1 year old?!

I would just get him snacks when you do the online shop. He’s your partner in life and it wouldn’t hurt you to just suck it up and order what he likes. I appreciate you bought the bits last week, but what about this week? There are plenty of things that people find annoying about their Oh and this is so easily fixable and not a big deal. Maybe tell him to not swear and stomp off like a child and if he tells you what bits he’d like you to order, then you’ll get them for him without a problem. I wouldn’t expect my dh to go and get his own snacks as I do the food shop. In the same way, he’ll wash my car when he does his own. It’s a random example I know but it’s just about give and take and working together.

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I think you should be buying things he wants too on the weekly shop - however if those have been eaten then he can go and buy what he wants until the next shop. Although the way he spoke to you was wrong

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For fuck's sake, OP, so your hubby swore at and stormed around HIS house that HE pays a bit for because HE wanted more food. Your job (apart from your actual paid job, obvs) is to whisk your toddlers away from dear old grumps-hubby, let him have what he wants [1] and if necessary go out in the rain for more.

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@Grandmi

Mine too. Definitely doesn’t strop and curse like a child in front of small children and find himself incapable to take a two minute trip to the shop. For the time he spent moaning, he could have gotten what he wanted from the shop and been back. I’d leave him to be in charge of his own food and snacks if he feels there’s never anything in the house.

Ladies — man went to the moon, surely he can go to fucking Lidl.

I agree-I don’t see what the big issue is.

Cancel the fucking cheque.

FFS, my teens can rustle up snacks that are not bloody crisps and biscuits and shite junk food. They can even go to the shop on their own and use their own pocket money/work money to buy scran they want if there's none in the house until the next big shop.

Even my 8 year old understands that if he eats all his snacks then there wont be any more until the next time I go shopping. He doesn't even have the option to buy extras.

You are being a little unreasonable not to just buy more snacks when you do the online shop. But he is being more unreasonable to have a tantrum about it.

@Friedmushroom

And sailed around the world before planes were invented..

When did standards get so low..

He also has opposable thumbs, funds, independence of thought, the power of foresight........and can do an online order.

Vive la Revolution! 💜💚🤍

I used to be sick of this with DH and DD eating all the snacks and never being anything left when I wanted one.
I decided to fill up shoe boxes with snacks (with our names on) yes really, after each shop. When they were gone they were gone until the next shop. If they wanted extra in between times, (which the greedy b......s always did as they usually ate them all within a couple of days) they had to buy them themselves. Sounds bonkers but it worked for us.

Well since your set up is that you do the shopping, then yes, you are.

How on earth does that prevent OP's husband from going into a shop when he's eaten all the stuff he asked her to order but wants more?

He works from home. Is he doing the two minute walk to get his lunch/snacks? Or is he thinking about what he needs for his work days and adding this to the shopping list? My money is on neither. OP is anticipating what he’ll need for lunches/snacks and hoping he doesn’t eat the stuff planned to cover snacks, lunches etc for OP and kids.

This is so petty op, I buy my husband his snacks as well as the children - you need to buy more snacks and treat your husband with a bit more respect

You know what, I treat my husband with respect by assuming that he's grown up and capable enough to go to the shops if he wants more snacks. I couldn't possibly respect a man who, given the choice of (1) popping out to a shop or (2) having a tantrum, went for option (2).

This is insane.
Woman - what snacks etc do you want for the week?
Man - these things
Woman - gets exactly what’s been asked for
Man - runs out of snacks
Other women - OMG why did you not get the man extra, you have failed to anticipate his needs.

FFS. He’s an adult. She is treating him as an adult not overriding his judgement and treating him as an incompetent. Why on earth would anyone think that notinfantilising a grown man is a wife fail?

Imagine the reverse
Man - what snacks etc do you want for the week?
Woman - these things
Man - buys loads of extra stuff and what’s asked for
Other women - OMG he’s a feeder, he’s trying to ruin your eating plan, he’s coercive, he’s not listening to you.

Maybe the OP could build an extension to the house to keep special big boxes of crisps and biscuits for hubby?

Exactly, Autumn. Incapable of having toast with peanut butter, hummus and crackers, fruit, yoghurt, melting cheese on a piece of bread, putting a frozen jacket tatty in the microwave with cheese, handful of nuts, has to be expensive shite crap to guzzle and too fucking lazy to walk down the shops.

We even have a bag of frozen grapes in the freezer to grab when someone fancies something sweet, a blender can knock up a smoothie in seconds, a tin of tuna in a wrap.

Hes not a child hes as manchild. They love snacks. Im afraid your the snack bitch. Could be worse. Just get some kiddie snacks and eat them with him. Be naughty snack bitch 👀👀👀

This thread is insane.

I also cook and buy all food. Dh also v busy and works long hours. Snacks in our house are universal. If he goes to eat theast of lunchbox biscuits I'll call him a twat. Because he should know better.
If he's hungry he can buy something.

OP YADNBU you're his wife, not his mum

Perhaps the OP's husband should just move into the shop so that he's surrounded by an endless supply of snacks.