Pissed off at being pulled over by friend AIBU

[LipsyGirl]

I was out with a friend who has issues walking. She’s the same size as me. The ground was uneven so she held onto me to offer more support which was fine, she joked and said if I fall over your coming with me.

She did fall over & I did go with her. I am actually pretty pissed off. Am I being a little precious? I don’t want to overreact.

I didn’t hurt myself bad just a banged knee & bruises etc.

See id have seen the funny side of it. Especially after she said if I'm going I'm taking you with me!

Different if she deliberately dragged you down but it doesn't sound like that was the case.

Poor you being able bodied. It must be so tricky .

Blimey, OP, hope your knee is ok.

TBH if your friend is to vain to use a stick I'd be wary of letting her use you as a prop in future.

Have some empathy, she may have a slight disability that makes walking on uneven surfaces a challenge. I have Dyslexia and it’s sometimes hard to admit to weakness.

This thread makes me so sad. My husband and twins have an inherited mobility condition. You are the kind of friend I fear my children having. Can you imagine how your friend would feel knowing you’d posted this? As a mother I want my children to grow up in an accepting society, not one where people do posts like this behind their friends backs

I think she needs to get some better friends who would support her and not bitch about her on a public forum. YABU

That's what I thought too!

Yep you’re being pathetic. It’s not like she did it on purpose.

I have a bit of a mobility problem, but don't require a stick/chair. It's just that occasionally I'll 'mis-step' and/or my ankle will give out.

My friends understand this and will often ask me if I need an arm to 'keep steady'. I've 'taught' them how to let me down gently if they feel me start to stumble or fall. As a result I've never pulled one over with me, the worst that has happened is a friend went down on one knee but not hard. Perhaps you and your friend can figure a way to do likewise for her.

So falling we can deal with, it's getting me back up that's the real bitch!

To be honest guys, I wouldn’t put someone in a position where they could get hurt if I had an alternative. Apologies for any offence that’s occurred here

Wow what a self centred, selfish person you are. Imagine being your friend who has to live with this daily! Either try to be a better friend or leave her to make a new one who would be more understanding. Just think one day you'll be old and frail and develop mobility issue. How would you feel if you found out a friend or relative was slating you on social media? You need to work on your personal development skills, starting with empathy!

I think you're being unreasonable... She's your friend... She joked..the joke came true.. And your more concerned with your own feelings than hers. I think you should show more empathy because you're able to walk well and don't suffer from mobility issues and your friend cant.

*I meant to say you're friend cant walk well unaided..

You were willing to help her walk but not willing to fall with her. That makes you about 50% friend, surely?

Why is it that whenever someone posts about something which makes them look selfish, autism/ aspergers is always mentioned? Screams of ignorance. Autistic people are perfectly capable of feeling empathy and being nice people 🤦‍♀️ It’s just rude and offensive

I wonder what would have happened to your friend if she hadn't held onto you for support for fear of hurting your feelings.. She might have injured herself really badly. I think if she were my friend I'd rather her hold onto me.

I have mobility problems and also dislocate my joints easily.

A few years ago my DH and I had to go somewhere when it was very icy out. I asked to hold his arm to stop me falling. 2 steps later he slipped on ice, flew up in the air and took me with him. We both hurt ourselves, him more than me because he tried to "save" me.

My response? I laughed. It wasn't his fault

This thread is my nightmare. A friend bitching about me on a public forum due to accidentally pulling them with me if I fall. This is why I never ask anyone for help. Don't walk with her in public anymore. YABU.

The fact that you even had to ask that question 😐 you need to have a long hard think about your reaction and do try to be a little more kind. It will do you good.

What do you want lipsy?
What’s the point of this?

You sound like you don’t like her at all. You’re not her friend. Just own it. Don’t go out with her again.

Yeh she could have used her stick. She didn’t. She made a mistake possibly but you seem to be insistent on painting her as some terrible person who deliberately dragged you down and injured you.

Maybe you should sue her

Or just fuck off out of her life when you clearly despise her so much

YANBU - She said blatantly she'd bring you down with her. Doubt in your mind about this because other 'shady' comments/ behaviour in the pass? You would have helped a friend not fall regardless of this being said. That one comment by her before had is a big hmmmmm for me.

I think it's an odd thing for her to have said tbh.

If she'd have said "hope you don't fall with me" or something, but it sounds as if she didn't care if you also fell as well?

I’d laugh and move on to the next bar. Don’t understand how you can be annoyed at that

A grown up shouldn’t expect a friend to be a mobility aide and if she is that unsteady should have a purposeful aide of some sort. She could have injured you which isn’t fair - YANBU in my opinion

While I definitely sympathise with your friend more so, I too don't understand why she 'dragged' you down with her, as you put it.

Surely it'd be safer for her to let go of you and use her hands/arms to protect herself from the fall.