Pissed off at being pulled over by friend AIBU

[LipsyGirl]

I was out with a friend who has issues walking. She’s the same size as me. The ground was uneven so she held onto me to offer more support which was fine, she joked and said if I fall over your coming with me.

She did fall over & I did go with her. I am actually pretty pissed off. Am I being a little precious? I don’t want to overreact.

I didn’t hurt myself bad just a banged knee & bruises etc.

YABU definitely
I thought you were her friend?

If someone has issues walking then they need a stick or a walking frame. Its never ok to use another person to help them bear weight and mobilise, thats the quickest way to injure someones back. So, yanbu.

I voted YANBU just from reading your first post, OP. She should have used a walking stick or frame. Deliberately putting your friends at risk of a fall is unacceptable.

Please don’t go out with her again unless she is adequately prepared. The next time you could break a bone and she will still expect you to joke about it.

And I speak as a carer for my disabled mum who has a blue badge due to her mobility.

YANBU. A friend shouldn't expect to put you at risk of injury by using you as a walking support instead of a stick or a frame. She is BU, not you!

A stick with cobbles? Disaster.
Dd has cp and we spent looooooooong hours with many physics trying to work out the safest way for her to move. Sticks and aids that are essentially an additional point of contact for balance are not in the slightest way sensible for anyone with overall coordination or balance issues. They catch on everything, require coordination and skill to place effectively, and have limited reliability in anything other than straight and level surfaces.
Dd is another one that wouldn’t have been able to let go. Her muscle tone means that she can’t (always) intentionally control it, let alone be able to control a release if she was falling. She only has two grips (not at all, or death-like vice). She doesn’t fall much any more, but she did once nearly take her guider out when she lost balance taking part in an action song. She was fine but we immediately and aahed about whether the guider’s wrist needed an x ray.
Accidents happen. It’s awful enough to be in the position where you might accidentally injure someone else because you aren’t NT and can’t fully control your body, without having people trying to guilt trip you for it.

Get over yourself

When walking someone unsteady on their feet you should always have their hand on top of yours and shouldn't have hands interlocked. This so that you can pull your hand and arm away to void being dragged down. If you have their arm looped underneath yours and have your hands locked palm to palm and they go down then you're going with them, no way you're not. This is not desirable as, they're relying on you for help and if you are hurt in the fall you're not going to be much use to them. So if you feel your charge falling, let go. If it's possible use your body in some way to break their fall safely then do so ie stick out you leg for them to slide down.

Sorry PoohPooh disabled people should just stay home? Are you kidding me?

No Faff 🙄

Read upthread, I’m a carer for my disabled mum.

Then you stay home surely?

Seriously?

Did I really just read that @Poohpooh?!

My goodness !! What is wrong with you?? No one I know would be so self centred as to attempt to make themselves some sort of ‘victim’ for letting a friend who has difficulty walking hold on to you!! I can’t believe you made this ‘all about you’! How was your friend?? Was she hurt??? If this had been me, I would have been very concerned for my friend !!! Most of us wouldn’t think twice about offering a helping arm to help a friend in need!! So what?? You fell down !! Big deal. Glad I don’t have friends like you !

Perhaps walk in front ringing a bell loudly? Yelling ‘make way, make way’?

If an area is unsafe to access with your mobility aids, yes you stay home or choose an alternative place to go.

There are quite a few places that I wouldn't attempt to go myself, let alone take someone with worse mobility than me.

Ok, sorry I think my post has been misconstrued and taken out of context. What I meant is that if you are going to go out and put someone else’s safety in danger then you need to be adequately prepared. OP’s friend seems to think it’s fine to pull people down with her. I think that’s irresponsible and you should be prepared with waking stick / frame etc.

Apologies if that wasn’t clear. I’ve worked with mum for years to get support for her disability so I appreciate my post was badly worded.

Precious verrrry precious

You don't have Aspbergers do you?

Why did she go, if she knew it could end up badly ? Seems to me you both need to get real, and behave with a bit more responsibility. Either of you could have been seriously injured. Think, first, Duh.

Jesus. You’re angry your friend accidentally pulled you over causing extremely minor injuries? YABU and a bit of a pratt.

All those saying its not out of order are the perfect example of what is wrong with society today, wrapped up in cotton wool. People have been helping people walk and lean for centuries without incident and if an accident has occurred it's been seen as that and passed off as such. Not everyone a bit wobbly wants to rely upon things that make the horrible nightmare of the fact they cant do certain things by themselves become a reality and friends are there to quite literally lean on. Put yourself in their shoes and think about it. Would you want to use walking aids if you could have a little more time without them before you completely lost your independence. I think not.

I have mobility issues and walk with two sticks for support. I would never lean upon another person in case I pulled them over. Neither should your friend.

Why would you bother to question it on here? Get over it.