Friends comments about DH and I

[richele4]

Been with DH 20 years, I'm 35. Met him in Secondary school, along with my friend 'Lucy'. Lucy's always been close with DH and I, when we had DD1 at 17 I was with her when my waters broke and she was in the delivery room with me when I had DD. Married DH at 23 and Lucy was my maid of honour. I was maid of honour at both of her weddings. Had 2DS and Lucy is godmother to both. Just to give insight into how close and long our friendship is.

Today I told Lucy that I'm pregnant with DD2 and she was excited as she's also pregnant with her DH who she's been with for 4 years. However she made comments and I just want to know if IABU to be upset/pissed off or who to be upset/pissed off at.

• "I'm always surprised that you and DH are still together, he's probably starting to get bored of the same old thing"
• "You better watch your weight gain this pregnancy, like I have been, you already look bigger than the first 3 pregnancies and you don't want your DH's eye wandering any more than it already will be"
• "It's impressive that after this long he still wants to have sex with you. It's got to be quite boring for him now"
• "He's looking good for his age, I'm sure younger women are interested in him, you should be careful"

I just awkwardly laughed them off but I am a bit upset that my friend of 20 years would say these things. I haven't told DH. I've never said anything to Lucy that would suggest DH and I are 'bored' because I definitely don't feel that way. Do you think my DH could have said something to Lucy's DH (because they are friends and he regularly goes out with her DH) and Lucy's DH could have said it to Lucy and that's why she's saying it to me? I'm not sure what to think

Er, some "friend" that bitch is. What nasty things to say to you.

You might consider Lucy a friend but she doesn’t think the same of you.
She’s horrid. I wouldn’t spend anymore time with her. Spend it with people who actually like you instead

Your friend is an arsehole.

@richele4 WOW, she sounds jealous. SOOOOOOOO JEALOUS!!!

You and your DH have been together 20 years since you were 15?!

That's adorable. Bet you're together WAAAAY longer than your 'friend' and her DH.

I reckon her marriage is shit, and she is bitter, and jealous of you.

You need to start giving her a wide berth. She sounds fucking nasty.

Congrats on your new baby!!

She’s not a friend. She’s a bitch.

She’s being a bitch.

Time for that MN stock response “did you mean to be so rude Lucy?”

Lucy is jealous of what you have. She is tiring to undermined you. Tell your husband what she said

She is not a friend

It's all a bit strange. Could she fancy your dh? Or be jealous that you've been together so long?
I would casually bring the remarks up with your dh and gauge his reaction.

It sounds to me that either she fancies your husband or else she's had an idea that he's having an affair and trying in a fairly clumsy way to tell you.

Does she usually say things like that or is this the first time?

Maybe one of the comments could pass as bad joke. It sound sliem she is insecure. I doubt your husband has said anything. I would talk to her and at that those were really hurtful comments. If she is a true friend she should be apologising and never talking like that to you again.

She's no friend! Dumpsville!

She's a jealous evil cow. Jealous of you BIG TIME!!

Maybe she's projecting after her own first failed marriage? To be honest, unless you're insecure about your marriage, the comments wouldn't bother me. Time will prove she's wrong (or not as the case may be!)

Lucy's a fucking cow isn't she 😟 Next comment like that she makes pick her up on it 'what on earth do you mean with that comment, it's unbelievably rude'

Thanks for the replies. As I said we've been friends for a long time so we've always been 'brutally honest' with each other and said it how it is, no matter how harsh. I just feel like this was too harsh and very random and if she thought my DH was having an affair she would just say that rather than making comments about my weight gain and whether I can still meet my husbands needs after this long

What a cunt! After 20 years she thinks your relationship is shallow and fragile. You're his life partner, not a bloody wank magazine. She needs to keep her misogynistic and harmful views on relationships to herself.

I hate the “tell it like it is types” they are always just bitches trying to justify their bitchy behaviour and how much they get off on being vile.

#DitchLucy

She sounds like a right bitch. Is she this horrible about everyone you know?

I dont think your DH said anything to hers tbh. He would have to be pretty stupid to say such things to the husband of your best friend for 20 years, because it would obviously travel back to you.

It sounds like she feels insecure in her own relationship and she's jealous of yours.

As my mum would say, 'ditch the witch, she is no friend of yours'. How does she feel about your dh, I sense jealousy?

Projecting? Maybe her husband has a wandering eye, or makes nasty, undermining comments to her like this, and she thinks this is normal?

Maybe she wants to shag your husband?

If this has come out of the blue, I'd say the former. If she's been catty for a long time I'd say the latter.

'Is there a reason you are being a total prick or are you just being nasty for the sake of it?'