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To be FURIOUS DH just presented me with a massive bouquet for Valentines Day?

211 replies

Desperelda · 14/02/2020 08:20

After letting me think he hadn’t got me anything therefore making me get quite angry and call lhim a bastard. I feel like shit now!

I also lied and said he wasn’t getting what I’d bought for him as he hadn’t got me anything, but I haven’t actually got him anything so am now hiding in bedroom until he’s left so I can get him something on the school run and pretend that I didn’t just buy it.

Fuck!

OP posts:
Mittens030869 · 14/02/2020 14:44

I confess that I didn't buy a Valentines card for my DH. I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and I have zero energy. We also have a lot of stuff going on in our lives. I felt awful about it and apologised. My DH gave me a lovely card, as he always does.

He often gives me flowers and yes, sometimes our DDs get him to do it. What's the problem with that? Your DH isn't beholden to do what your tells you to, is he?

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 14/02/2020 14:44

Well I did get him a card. Wish I hadn’t now as since discovered DD made him buy the flowers

Well when I read your OP I thought it was just a badly written attempt at jokiness but this sounds really bitter. Maybe justified bitterness but nothing lighthearted about it. And he calls you names as well? You two don't sound at all happy together.

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/02/2020 14:49

It was supposed to be lighthearted!

Okay...

Loughers · 14/02/2020 14:57

give him a bj and be done with it....

Lweji · 14/02/2020 15:15

LTB

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 14/02/2020 16:19

BirdieFriendBadge, really? That's a bit disgusting. Not the blow job, the fact that you think it 'pays' for whatever. Cheap and nasty. Yuck.

BlokeTarget · 14/02/2020 18:45

You sound awful.

I’d be posting about you on here and asking if I should LTB if you treated me like that.

Ungrateful and spiteful. Grow up.

I8toys · 14/02/2020 18:58

Is it a full moon?

AnneKipanki · 14/02/2020 19:08

Desperelda , have you had a fun day toying with Mumsnet?

Ginger1982 · 14/02/2020 19:18

You've been together 28 years and you called him a bastard for not getting you something for V-day? Grow up OP. Seriously. You sound like a complete twat.

Motherofasleepaphobe · 15/02/2020 17:38

You need to get a grip OP

Your poor husband

Shell4429 · 15/02/2020 17:39

I don’t understand why women like getting flowers. My heart secretly sinks when presented with them, it’s a faff to put them in a vase just to watch them slowly die.

Wilkie1956mog · 15/02/2020 18:07

Can' t believe what you said and did. He was no doubt trying to surprise you with the flowers and thought it was a nice loving surprise gesture because you weren't expecting anything. Now you've ruined it and no doubt really hurt his feelings. Don't understand it at all. You are being totally unreasonable and horrible. I wouldn't bother getting him anything now. He may well sling it back at you and I wouldnt blame him.

erniepigy · 15/02/2020 18:09

Why are you buying into this commercial, money making day?
All very silly if you think you need to be told what day you should prove you love your other half.
All very childish in my opinion

Nanalisa60 · 15/02/2020 18:17

Poor guy !!

Unhomme · 15/02/2020 18:29

I think he should LTB

firenze86 · 15/02/2020 18:35

Calling someone batshit, horrible, manipulative, a twat and bitter (as well as everything else on this thread) over what seems like a lighthearted few minutes between a woman and her husband is so over the top.

I get it OP, it was obviously not a serious post! Good for you for taking absolutely no notice of the horrible things said to you. Mumsnet was full of bullies yesterday it appears. Hope you had a lovely valentines day! Flowers

Yesmate · 15/02/2020 19:09

How was school today? 🙄

FelicisNox · 15/02/2020 19:10

I'm glad I'm not the only one going Hmm

LeggyLinda · 15/02/2020 19:16

It’s the twins I feel sorry for

DesLynamsMoustache · 15/02/2020 19:17

This is weird. We said we wouldn't do gifts this year (we often don't bother), but in the end DH did buy me flowers and chocolates. I got him nowt bar a card. Neither of us care – he can share my chocs! I certainly didn't feel compelled to rush out and buy him something in return or to have a go at him Confused

1forAll74 · 15/02/2020 19:37

Maybe go to bed, and get up in the morning being more mature. What a silly and ridiculous post.

CountryGirl1234 · 15/02/2020 20:09

Wow you must be so self centred and immature to be calling him a bastard for not getting you anything, just to have not got him anything either. I suppose it is ALL about you... how dare he, not show how devoted he is to you! Oh actually he did. Your are a dickhead and I feel very sorry for your husband. Women like you that want the materialistic earth then aren’t prepared to give back.

CountryGirl1234 · 15/02/2020 20:11

Just scrolled back and read your post saying you’ve had flu and it was meant to be light hearted Blush oh well I’m sure there’s someone out there that deserved that reply Grin

Barney60 · 15/02/2020 20:13

Couldnt you just say thankyou, and Im cooking us a nice meal tonight be home at X ?? shop in lunch hour find nicest undies ect WTF??