To be FURIOUS DH just presented me with a massive bouquet for Valentines Day?

[Desperelda]

After letting me think he hadn’t got me anything therefore making me get quite angry and call lhim a bastard. I feel like shit now!

I also lied and said he wasn’t getting what I’d bought for him as he hadn’t got me anything, but I haven’t actually got him anything so am now hiding in bedroom until he’s left so I can get him something on the school run and pretend that I didn’t just buy it.

Fuck!

I bet he lives a confused life, it sounds as if he can never do the right thing by you.

Ha ha ha ha! You have to laugh

I always get something, in case my dh actually has got me something. I did get annoyed when he was so adamant he'd got me nothing and then had got me something!

This is so thrilling...you both promise not to buy each other anything then he buys you a big bunch of flowers, you call him a bastard then sneak out to secretly buy him something...Fuck! Who cares? First boyfriend perhaps?

An over-reaction on your part but I understand. He’s putting you emotionally in his debt by doing this, and you rightly are annoyed at this. He’s actually being quite manipulative.

The struggle is real.

Reverse the roles and you'd certainly be labelled abusive.

The best thing about this is it demonstrates the exact opposite of what love is meant to be like.

Oh, my God, the things some MNers get so FURIOUS about!

FFS grow up!!! And maybe try to think of people who have real problems to be upset or angry about.

Oh FFS. Who even cares?? So much fuss over a completely contrived day.

How embarrassing.

Mumsnet, go home; you're drunk.

(Sorry about this, OP - clearly there's been some kind of collective sense of humour bypass this morning; maybe no one got enough cards or something...)

Well you won’t need to worry about it when he leaves you for a grown up.

An over-reaction on your part but I understand. He’s putting you emotionally in his debt by doing this, and you rightly are annoyed at this. He’s actually being quite manipulative.

I agree. My ex used to make a big show of saying we wouldn’t do anything for Valentine’s Day, then he’d produce presents and make an equally big show of cooking a fancy meal. On the face of it that was a nice thing for him to do and I was ungrateful but it was just a bit manipulative because I was on the back foot and made to feel bad.

So because someone showed their appreciation for you it's manipulative. Ok then.

Don't be surprised if he never gets you something for Valentines Day again!

This is a poor wind up.

Go back to school.

I love Valentine's Day ! ... just enjoy your flowers 💐

Valentine's Day should be abolished.

Hoping this is light-hearted??
If not, here you go

Are you Sybil Fawlty, who flounced when she thought Basil had forgotten their wedding anniversary, when actually he had arranged a party?

Valentines days is for arseholes, not lovers it’s seems !

What the fuck is this? Epic drama for no apparent reason.

All them saying we have had a sense of humour bypass etc etc

NOTHING in the title or the words suggest OP is being lighthearted. Nothing.

'What the fuck is this? Epic drama for no apparent reason.'

It's an interesting first post guaranteed to get posters frothing