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To be FURIOUS DH just presented me with a massive bouquet for Valentines Day?

211 replies

Desperelda · 14/02/2020 08:20

After letting me think he hadn’t got me anything therefore making me get quite angry and call lhim a bastard. I feel like shit now!

I also lied and said he wasn’t getting what I’d bought for him as he hadn’t got me anything, but I haven’t actually got him anything so am now hiding in bedroom until he’s left so I can get him something on the school run and pretend that I didn’t just buy it.

Fuck!

OP posts:
TSSDNCOP · 14/02/2020 12:30

And you’re how old?

SunshineAngel · 14/02/2020 12:35

My partner did this last year after we agreed we weren't getting each other anything. He had flowers delivered. They made me smile - a lot.

I did feel a bit guilty for sticking to the not buying anything idea, but I paid for the takeaway in the evening, so..

Your reaction is ridiculous.

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 14/02/2020 12:36

This is horrible. Get a grip. I am currently on hols. Had d&v for 5 days - including my birthday. Was going to get DH some cards here but obvs too ill. He and ghe DCs presented me with cards this morning and be has ordered flowers to be delivered when we get home. I burst into tears as I felt so guilty about not organising anything and he told me not to be so daft! Would nor have even crossed my mind to call him a bastard.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 14/02/2020 12:37

TSSDNCOP OP was born in 1959 according to this.

RoseAdagio · 14/02/2020 12:38

Does your first name begin with T and your husband's first name begin with R by any chance? Because this sounds like.exactly the sort of behaviour my friend T would experience with his wife R....

And beyond that, no comment from me, especially if it turns out you are my mate's wife!

SlightlyJaded · 14/02/2020 12:41

Really?

Furious?

You couldn't just laugh and say "Thanks!"??

You didn't get him anything. Regardless of what he said/what you said/whether you are still in Primary school - you didn't get him anything.

Grow up.

iklboo · 14/02/2020 12:44

I don't celebrate St Patrick's Day day or Chinese New Year, Diwali etc, etc but I don't feel the need to piss on the chips of those who do.

There's no implied emotional blackmail to spend £££ on your other half for these though is there?

amijustparanoidorjuststoned · 14/02/2020 12:54

I think this might be a "joke" thread.

Averyyounggrandmaofsix · 14/02/2020 12:58

I thought you were going to say because it was a waste of money!

Babyg1995 · 14/02/2020 13:01

Wow poor guy should run for the hills Confused

user1471449295 · 14/02/2020 13:02

Wtf have I just read

GabsAlot · 14/02/2020 13:29

I hope this is a troll-calling him a bastad for not buying you a gift plus you hadnt bought him one anyway?

diddl · 14/02/2020 13:30

Would this be a problem for anyone else?

I mean it's just a bunch of flowers-would anyone else feel that they had to then get their husband a present?

Original poster
Desperelda · 14/02/2020 13:31

Well I did get him a card. Wish I hadn’t now as since discovered DD made him buy the flowers!

We didn’t agree not to get each other anything. I asked him if he was getting me anything a few days ago and he said no. I’ve been bedridden with flu for much of this week so haven’t been out.

We’ve been together for nearly 28 years.

It was supposed to be lighthearted!

OP posts:
PhilomenaChristmasPie · 14/02/2020 13:32

YABU. I wish someone had bought me flowers.

WhereShallWeMoveTo · 14/02/2020 13:35

I also lied and said he wasn’t getting what I’d bought for him as he hadn’t got me anything, but I haven’t actually got him anything

Right, so you got furious and called him a bastard for not getting you anything but you hadn't actually got him anything either?

Okaaaay......Hmm

latulipe · 14/02/2020 13:36

Wow

TARSCOUT · 14/02/2020 13:36

@desperelda crikey massive humour flop! I got you meant it to be funny! Happy V day 😀

Zurina · 14/02/2020 13:37

I get you.

He told you he didn't get you anything, so you sidn't get him anything. But he has got you something and bow you feel guilty. It's a shit move on his part. He should have told you so you could have reciprocated.

augustusglupe · 14/02/2020 13:37

I’m not a flower person but DH usually gets me some. This year he’s got me chocolates!! I’m over the moon!! No flowers, yay.
However OP he’s very kind and whatever I get, I’m pleased, for years we just did cards.
Why be so unkind to your DH? I honestly can’t believe your reaction!! Isn’t it the thought that counts!?

BumpyNugget · 14/02/2020 13:40

I cannot believe this place sometimes.

A man gives you flowers after making you believe he has not bothered to get you anything, leaving you feeling uncared for and hurt enough to react negatively.

Same man then produces flowers, making you look like a complete twat which was his plan all along so you come out looking mental and he comes out looking like a saintly ever suffering husband/boyfriend. That's nasty and manipulative. I have lots of experience with this type of behaviour and not only on special occasions or to do with gifts and cards etc. It's usually the type of bloke who is only truly happy and smiling once he's made you cry.

But here on MN, he's a lovely chap who deserves apologies, much admiration, cuddles and to get his dick sucked (admittedly a single previous poster but still, it's been said) and not a game playing arsehole at all...oh no.

Sod that.

WhereShallWeMoveTo · 14/02/2020 13:40

Blimey, I've been with my DH for 28 years too and we haven't made a thing of Valentine's Day for the last 25 of them. No money wasted on extortionate flowers and crap set menus in overpriced and overbooked restaurants. It's bliss. I thoroughly recommend it.

diddl · 14/02/2020 13:42

"you feel guilty. It's a shit move on his part."

Really? Just for a bunch of flowers?

Christ, some women are their own worst enemies!

Zurina · 14/02/2020 13:46

It's Valentines. Either we don't get each other anything or we both get something.

crystal1717 · 14/02/2020 13:48

This is why I hate the "I didn't get you anything", then they do, charade.