To be FURIOUS DH just presented me with a massive bouquet for Valentines Day?

[Desperelda]

After letting me think he hadn’t got me anything therefore making me get quite angry and call lhim a bastard. I feel like shit now!

I also lied and said he wasn’t getting what I’d bought for him as he hadn’t got me anything, but I haven’t actually got him anything so am now hiding in bedroom until he’s left so I can get him something on the school run and pretend that I didn’t just buy it.

Fuck!

It made me feel tired reading this. OP it's only Valentine's day. There'll be another next year.

@Gobbolinothewitchscat sorry you've been so ill, it's a shit thing to get

@Desperelda

Desperelda

Your behaviour was dreadful.

"This is why I hate the "I didn't get you anything", then they do, charade."

Well I'm guilty of it this year.

Was hardly a charade, just a last minute decision to buy my husband some chocolates.

He said, "oh that's lovely, thanks, we'll share those later".

Doesn't sound as if it was a charade on behalf of Op's husband, either.

Stealth boast. Oh I got a massive bouquet, whatever will I do?

This can’t be real. Nobody is as much of an arsehole as you’ve made yourself sound surely?

Christ - all of it sounds ridiculous and petty. What sort of adult relationship involves pretending and game playing (and name calling) like that.

Bunch of flowers is hardly a big deal OP, I'd have just said 'that's sweet, thanks- I had assumed we weren't doing gifts so didnt get you anything- shall I just cook later?' And expected a normal response to that. All these people having tantrums either get a grip, or tackle the real issue- the failings of your relationships .

I assume you expected us all to laugh with you when you posted this thread OP. Shame it's not funny and just makes you look like a childish brat.

Ffs.

It's all a load of shite anyway - just an excuse for the retailers to make a killing. You can hardly get through Tesco's doors for the roses, chocolates, cards etc. It doesn't take much love or effort to pick up a bunch of bloody flowers and shove them in the trolley as you go past.

My son went last night to get something for his girlfriend. Picked up the first card he saw and a bunch of flowers. Took all of 10 seconds and only done because he felt he was expected to.

Sorry but it's all a load of bollocks.

@JRUIN

I assume you expected us all to laugh with you when you posted this thread OP. Shame it's not funny and just makes you look like a childish brat.

Yep this. ^

The lengths some people will go to, to try and get a thread in 'Classics' or in one of the online periodicals, is laughable (and pathetic!)

You sound awful.

I got my DH a card and a present and he completely forget. I just laughed and told him not to worry as he's got all day to make up for it!

Desperelda How could you call him a bastard? Seriously you need to grow up!

I didn't buy my DP anything because he's not really into Valentine's Day but got him a card anyway. Lo and behold he surprised with with a fab necklace - I was thrilled and am treating him to a belated Valentine's lunch tomorrow.

Its basically his nickname now I’ve hit peri menopause Sunshine .

It didn't come across as light hearted in your OP, although I was tempted to ask if you were being tongue in cheek.

DH and I both sat writing our cards in front of each other this morning. Both of us had bought them (separately) a few days ago and both of us nearly forgot to write them at all. We both gave each other chocolate too! We have also been known to completely forget the whole thing.

I don't think we will do anything else. We might go out for a meal at a local pub this weekend, but not tonight as all prices hike extortionately for Valentine's Day.

YABU. Valentines day is wank.

My 7yo asked me the other day "what's valentines day?". I didn't know what to say. I think I mumbled something about if you have a partner you're supposed to buy them something to show that you love them. Then cringed at how ridiculous that sounded but that's literally it . I don't like mothers day or fathers day either. I don't like forced gifts and forced gift buying.

"I just laughed and told him not to worry as he's got all day to make up for it!"

Why does he need to make up for it though?

What a load of bollocks.

On the bright side this post has made me really appreciate my relationship on the grounds neither of us are batshit crazy (well not like this anyway)

Dp got me a mini wobble head groot because it makes me laugh every time I see it ( it matches the singing dancing one i got at Christmas) to put in my car because work is hard going so he thought it would help keep my spirits up, and i got him a card that reminded him DDog is a little creepy in her obsession with him and a book on boat maintenance because hes concerned that our boat will forever be a shed on hard standing and he needed motivation to start the work.

So ya know....Bashit in a less shouty entitled manner.

Good lord OP stop with the mind games and grow up a bit.

Why is he a bastard for getting you nothing when you got him nothing. You sound horrible

My DH got a cup of Valentine's Tea made for him.
Pretty much the same as ordinary tea.

But you hadn't got him anything anyway...
I don't understand the fuss snd palaver.

Straycatsstrut. St Valentines Day is actually a catholic feast day - Valentine’s Day is a hallmark opportunity to fleece the masses just because he is the patron saint of lovers.
He’s also the patron saint of epileptics and beekeepers. Ponder on that for a moment .

It's this mentality of having to buy something because you were given something that I just don't get.

I decided to bother this year & my husband didn't.

On other years it has happened the other way around.

It doesn't matter imo.