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To be FURIOUS DH just presented me with a massive bouquet for Valentines Day?

211 replies

Desperelda · 14/02/2020 08:20

After letting me think he hadn’t got me anything therefore making me get quite angry and call lhim a bastard. I feel like shit now!

I also lied and said he wasn’t getting what I’d bought for him as he hadn’t got me anything, but I haven’t actually got him anything so am now hiding in bedroom until he’s left so I can get him something on the school run and pretend that I didn’t just buy it.

Fuck!

OP posts:
Puppywithattitude · 14/02/2020 10:15

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion Grin

UndertheCedartree · 14/02/2020 10:22

Blimey! You called him a bastard for not getting you anything (bad enough in itself) but you hadn't got him anything either?!!

You owe him a massive apology! If you'd spoken to me like that the flowers would have gone in the bin!!

Strawberrycreamsundae · 14/02/2020 10:23

So you abused him for giving you a surprise bouquet? Poor bloke.
Totally abusive behaviour.

PinkShinyFlowers · 14/02/2020 10:25

I agree with the bonkers sentiment.

Be happy you have flowers.
I have a lovely bottle of gin, but no flowers 🌷

I’d like both 😇

caringcarer · 14/02/2020 10:25

Or you could just enjoy the flowers and book a weekend away online and tell him he will get his gift shortly. Show him booking.

Dowser · 14/02/2020 10:28

You two need to have a complete heart to heart talk about how you handle celebrations because that was just awful.
I say this because my dad ruined their 30 th wedding anniversary.
He had the best intentions but it all went horribly wrong.
I don’t know if he got her a card or present on the morning but I do remember her saying she felt upset that he hadn’t bothered with anything. My mum was a really easy going person btw and dad thought the world of her.

I knew he’d planned a surprise dinner for her but was sworn to secrecy. So on the night he took her out, luckily a friend in on the secret had done her hair and she had a nice dress on .then he took her to the restaurant where the guests were waiting. It bowled my poor mum over so completely She could hardly enjoy it..and she noted that he’d forgotten to ask some good friends of theirs too.

So please have a chat and work out what you plan to do in future because it’s so easy for it all to backfire.

kenandbarbie · 14/02/2020 10:28

Oh dear! You've fucked up. Better make it up to him!!

AnneKipanki · 14/02/2020 10:33

This reeks of Desperelda .

Tombliwho · 14/02/2020 10:44

Wow.

lowlandLucky · 14/02/2020 10:46

If i was your DH it would be the last time i ever bought you anything

SpoonBlender · 14/02/2020 10:47

He should LTB.

princessTiasmum · 14/02/2020 11:12

You are lucky you have someone who loves you enough to buy you flowers, calling him a bastard,? shocking

JaneJeffer · 14/02/2020 11:22

Maybe he is a bastard.

listsandbudgets · 14/02/2020 11:22

Oh is it Valentines day... well really OP what a load of fuss over nothing.

How lovely that he gave you some flowers. Just enjoy them and give him a hug, apologise and say thank you when you see him later.

DP and I gave each other nothing special for today

ILikeyourHairyHands · 14/02/2020 11:37

Doesn't Valentine's Day exist purely for love-struck teenagers to send anonymous cards to the object of their desire?

My Mum offered to babysit tonight so that DH and I could go out, I think the last time I went to a restaurant on Valentine's night was some time in the early 90's, and even then it made me cringe.

I might get the DC some heart-shaped chocolates though.

MashedSpud · 14/02/2020 11:58

I can imagine the scene:

H: My sweet darling, my earth, wind and fire, this gift is humble in that it could never compare to your beauty and warm. produces large, fancy bouquet

Op: BASTARD!

MashedSpud · 14/02/2020 11:58

Warmth*

Nowayorhighway · 14/02/2020 12:00

DH and I usually just buy each other a sarcastic card so I did it again this year, as we always do. Felt a bit embarrassed when he woke me up this morning with a bouquet of roses and box of my favourite chocolates plus almond croissants for breakfast Blush. I’m going to cook a nice dinner to make up for it.

I think this thread was supposed to be lighthearted.

mrsBtheparker · 14/02/2020 12:08

A bit like one Christmas when we were flat broke, we agreed on a £10 maximum for a token present. I stuck to it, to the penny, he spent nearly £100 on me, he'd been saving a bit for a couple of months. All the family thought I was a bit mean!

DiscontinuedModelHusband · 14/02/2020 12:11

was going to post HUMBLEBRAG ALERT!, but there's not much humble about this at all!

Ellisandra · 14/02/2020 12:12

Well that’s a shit marriage you’ve got there Confused

I’d be mildly irritated if my husband did this, as it would make me feel a bit on the back foot.

At no point would it lead to shouting, name calling or lying about presents.

In a healthy marriage you’d laugh and say - they’re lovely, but next time can we please mean it when we say we’re not doing anything? And that would be that.

Rubyupbeat · 14/02/2020 12:13

Horrible, how unkind to call him that, and over valentines?

differentnameforthis · 14/02/2020 12:20

So it's 8.20am and you think he hasn't got you anything already?

How about letting the day progress a bit?

It's a forced show of love anyway, I'd rather my dh bought me something that didn't have $$$ tacked on just because of some saint!

Mittens030869 · 14/02/2020 12:22

Yes you do sound like a spoiled brat, it's ridiculous behaviour in an adult. I don't even tolerate that kind of entitled behaviour from my 2 DDs (10 and 7). I'm also shocked that you don't seem to have any awareness of how unreasonable you're being. Hmm

SunshineCake · 14/02/2020 12:26

How is this meant to be light hearted when you are swearing at him, calling him names and having a tantrum ?